Will you lie so as not to hurt anybody?

Question

For example, knowing the infidelity of a friends' mate, will you lie knowing it just not to hurt her/him? Or just lying just to make a story short?

Answer 1

I would confront the offending person.Stating they had put me in a terribly uncomfortable position. Then ask them to tell their spouse the truth. However I would motivate them by explaining if they didn't I would.

Answer 2

Lieing to cover for someone or to try to make it so nobody gets hurt never works. A lie is a lie is a lie. In the case where you know someone is cheating, how do you think the innocent party will feel when they find out you knew and didn't tell them? Of course, there is a difference between lieing and not telling.

Honesty is the best policy.

Answer 3

I would never lie. In the end the truth comes out. I would not give any information freely on the same hand ether. I would only give straight answers. It is not you place to get involved in anothers marriage. You have no idea what one is doing to another. Just be there for your friend when she needs you and be honest only when she asks you point blank if you know something. You never should repeat rumors. You never know if rumors are true or false. Only say what you know to be fact. Having so and so tell you and you think you can trust them is not fact. Fact is what you see with your own eyes and what the other mat has told you his or her self.

Answer 4

I would not lie. I wish someone had told me about my husband's infidelity at the beginning of my marriage when I only had two kids was younger, had no financial burdens and could afford to leave. You do not do anyone any favors by not giving them the choice of making a choice.....

Answer 5

When I am asked a direct question I always answer it with the truth. If the answer is something I know will be painful to the asker I usually ask if they have prepared themselves for every possible answer. If after saying that they still want to know I answer with the truth. If the person did not feel there was a measure of truth in their question they would have no reason to to seek confirmation. Getting that second verification can be very important in validating your ability to recognize the subject matter of your question.

Answer 6

If you know for sure there's infedelity, tell them. You wouldn't want them to get an STD or find out about the infidelity when the other gal pops up pregnant. Encourage your friend to get checked for STDs. So are you the one that knows?

Answer 7

Sometimes lying is ok!!

I have seen when lies are hidden, they usually become a habit. You are the best judge in this situation cuz you know your friends more than anyone else out here.

If you feel your friend will cheat again, please let the spouse know so it is ended now than later.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

it depends do you have indisputable proof that this is happening if you say something and you can't prove it and they don't believe you then chances are your going to lose your friend,and instead of lieing to make a long story short just get the point.

Answer 9

My stepmother has told me never to get involved in a friends relationship because it may backfire on you if you tell of infidelity. Your friend may blame you and how do you know if your friend really wants to know.........or she may know ,but wants to act like it is not happening.

Answer 10

I have actually been in this position before. My neighbor and I were good friends. Her husband was telling my husband about some girl he did it with. My husband told me. I encouraged him to tell his wife because she had a right to know. He did and I was there for her to help her. Her mom said that she is glad we told her because she would have been moore mad if we hadn't and she found we knew. I would want to know. Your friend has a right to know.