A man whose wife was going out of town for a week asked me to come over so he could 'play while the wife was away'. I have his email asking me to do this, should I let his wife know? I was thinking about printing out the email and mailing it to her. I know that if I was married, I would want to know if my husband was looking to cheat.
2007-05-13 13:45:55 · 30 answers · asked by queenrakle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not know this man. I posted something on craigslist (NOT in the relationship section), and this was a response I got. I never emailed him back, because I don't want him to know my email address. If he did this to me, I'm asssuming he also emailed plenty of other people. Also, he is in SC and I live in NJ.
2007-05-13 14:02:21 · update #1
I can't believe some of these answers! If your spouse was asking strangers to come have sex with them while you were away, would you want that information to be kept from you???
2007-05-13 14:13:24 · update #2
hell yes tell her i would want to know as i am sure my wife would as well
2007-05-13 15:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men tend to cheat on their wives when they don't feel needed or wanted either physically or emotionally. Most of the time that is. There are some men out there that do it because it is all about the sex. But lets not bash just men. I live in a military town and in the MANY years that I have been in I've seen way more women cheat on their husbands. Women tend to act the same as some men do when they are outnumbered by the opposite sex. I'm a rather attractive guy and I can say honestly that 3 out of 4 women that hit on ME are married to a soldier or sailor that is deployed. In this area (Hampton Roads) a new study just came out that divorces that ended because of adultery 26% was the husband cheating 74% is the wife cheating. It is really bad here and their are a lot of women out there that cheat just as much if not more than men do.
2016-05-17 09:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a catch-22. The main thing is that hopefully you said no. This will keep you in the good side of things. As far as letting his wife know, well, that depends on several things. How well do you know his wife? How good of a relationship do you have with her? Would she believe you even with the evidence? How will this affect your future relationship with her?
Take this all into consideration and do what is best. If it was me, I would get all the evidence together first and then bring it to her attention.
2007-05-13 13:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
email him back and let him know that this will never happen. I would not tell his wife, let another women expose his dirty a**, because these days it is a very dangerous situation, either with the naive wife thinking that your coming to get her hubby and your lying about him trying to pursue you, or the man getting angry as hell about exposing him to his wife and risking ruining his home. And just hope that the wife finds the email with you turning him down.
2007-05-13 13:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by sobusy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are friends with the wife or work together consider the results after informing her. You may end up being the bad person who led him on. If you are ok with the result what ever they might be then inform her. I would certainly let her know, because if it were me I would want to know. She may excuse his behavior away, but eventually she will wise up. Good Luck!
2007-05-13 14:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by RT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell her. That's messed up. That guy deserves to lose his wife. Cheating is never acceptable. Tell his wife, no questions asked. Although, he might get the letter first. Best thing might be to print it out, talk to her alone, and show her it.
2007-05-13 14:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by wolf_howl_21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you people, you think that is worth possibly wrecking a marriage over.
Was the email sexualy explecit, "play wife." I am happy for any ugly stuck up bit*** to come to my house and "play wife." She can do my cooking, washing, vacuming and get the cobwebs out of the corner, clean the toilet, do the weeding, iron the cloths, make my bed, wash the windows and anything else I can think of that I don't do.
GET OVER YOURSELF.
2007-05-13 14:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Could use some more details, like, is he a friend, person where you work, are you friends with his wife. You know when you tell his wife and I know you are. He's going to turn it around and make you the "bad guy". And his wife will believe him. Good luck, I feel for ya.
2007-05-13 13:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by larry m♥ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
this man is so creepy it is not even funny,,,, tell his wife, either she is a looser too, and knows he is a creep, or you will be doing her a favor and letting her see what kind of man she is really married too,,,, you could save her life, what if he cheats, gets an STD or HIV,,, it happen all the time
2007-05-13 14:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No just stay out of it. She will find out sooner or later. What if the man was just fooling around to see how far you would go but not really meaning it. If he is a cheater she will find out.
2007-05-13 14:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would keep it from her, since this is something he'll have to live with. I wouldn't tell her unless he does it again. Let it slide this time. I wouldn't want to break up their home, but I usre would if he does it again. I had the same problem, only it was my boss. I kept my mouth shut from his wife and kids, but everyone in the office knows.
2007-05-13 13:54:05 · answer #11 · answered by SillierKimmy! 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋