my husband and i deliver newspapers for income for at this time. We have been delivering papers for over a year. We deliver around 450 papers a day to local residents. Our paper routes are walking routes. We deliver 7 days a week, we haven't had a day off in over a year. We deliver Monday-Friday between noon and 5 p.m. Saturday and Sunday 3a.m. to 8 a.m. I am in college, finishing this spring and will be able to get a good paying job. I told my husband its time to down grade to 100 papers for extra money, with in the next few months. Every time i tell him about down grading, he gets up set because he doesn't think we will make bills. I told him that he would keep the papers for a job and i will get a better job. He can't do 450 papers himself and won't down grade. How can i try to convince him to get arid of some of these papers? I How can i explain to him that i am moving on to another job without hurting him? I think he doesn't understand that i don't like working everyday day.
2007-05-13 12:12:02 · 12 answers · asked by mr_and_mrs.x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like your husband is having trouble accepting you as the breadwinner. He wants to continue to feel important. He wants to take care of you and not the other way around.
You may start looking for a new job for him without telling him that you are doing it. Make subtle suggestions to what you find.
You may also come up with ways that he can help you in which he would feel important, but would also require more of his time. He may decide to relinquish some of the paper route on his own.
The paper route is obviously important to him. Be careful not to demean him or the route. Just let him know how important a new job is to you. He can keep delivering papers, but you must be allowed to find your position in life as well as in the family.
2007-05-13 12:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by sarge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A college graduate delivering papers. Hey, there's nothing wrong with being a deliverer... but that's no life goal when you have a college degree. He will change his mind once you get that job... so don't give up on your dreams. get that resume out there. And you most definitely will get a much better paying job!!! He just needs to understand that you have worked very hard to get away from this kind of work.
2007-05-13 19:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People ought to work at their highest earning potential. (Would it make sense for Donald Trump to be cutting the grass at one of his properties?)
Presumably your new job will pay much more than delivering newspapers.
If your husband has a lot of his persona invested in the delivery route, hire a college kid to help him. Then he could keep his paper route, and maybe expand it. You could do a more profitable and emotionally rewarding work.
2007-05-13 19:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Outsource - that would be a solution.
Find a lady who hasn't got a job , a young boy, someone who walks dogs and offer them a percentage of what you get, even if the percentage slices quite a bit off, you won't be losing your clients till your job is secured and surely your husband will feel safer that way.
Your husband has a point - you can't be sure that you will start off immediaty with a better-paying job and what will you do to make ends meet meanwhile.?
Once you've obtained your job, and only then you will be able to cut your delivery service. lol
2007-05-13 19:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by ss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll probably agree with you after trying to deliver 450 papers by himself. Stop trying to convince him and let the papers do it for him when the time comes (and you never know, he may be able to do it and surprise you!).
2007-05-13 19:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by pepper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Track one of his friends down that want extra work or put an ad in paper and see how many people answer it or you could work pt-time and have someone else the rest of the time. You have to tell him properly how you feel.
2007-05-13 19:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by snezana9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he must know you are in college right? I am sure once he sees the paychecks you will be able to bring home with your new degree that you are right about cutting back.
I bet it is hard for him to imagine right now because you guys have been doing this so long.
Good luck and hang in there! I am glad to see you guys are still married, I am sure it is not easy working together and living together!!
2007-05-13 19:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it a rest until you do get that other job. He won't feel comfortable giving up the bigger paper job until you can prove to him that you will be making enough money. most people don't like working everyday with no vacation but you do what you have to do to take care of your financial responsibilities.
2007-05-13 19:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by mups mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Peppers anser. Sometimes men just have to learn the hard way theyre no longer the superman that they once were. Some of lifes best lessons are learned the har way
2007-05-13 19:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu have to figure out how not to hurt his pride. Don't know if he is also going to school or not. If he is, he is not graduating yet.
The change you are suggesting reminds him that his wife has passed him by and he is stuck.
There is no way to sugarcoat it. Just say you will be able to support him to finish his college. If he is not in college, it is he who has to learn this new fact of life.
2007-05-13 19:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋