Marriage & Divorce - 30 September 2006

My partner and myself are about to separate, we have a 3 year old son and have no clue on what to do. Our relationship has been going down hill for a few years now, and has gone too far for any chance of ever getting back on track.
The problem starts after we sell our house we will be left no equity, as there is none. My partner has been a stay at home mum over the past three years, so she has no earnings. Her parents are not the most supportive, so they will not be much help. Our biggest fear is where will they live? I will pay over the stated amount of child support, as I don't to turn my back on my son, but other than that we have no clue as to what they will be entitled to. I will be back at my mothers on the sofa, but my partner (ex) unfortunately has not got that option.
Has anyone been through anything similar, and or does anyone have any good advice as to what to expect?
Thanks.

2006-09-30 05:24:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's ex in laws have his kids because of their mother (long story). My husband and I told his 16 teen year old that if he wanted some extras he would have to get a small part time job. Like one or two days a week. We are both going to school and have every little money to spread around.

He wanted to go to homecoming this weekend he is in 10th grade. We found out 4 days before hand. That has not give us time to even think about how to get the money or save for it you know. So, I told his grandmother that he knew if he wanted extras he needs to find a small job this is what we all agreed on.

Well, She got mad and told me I was a parent of convenace and f ing B this and that. She kept e mailing me harassing e mails so I cahnged my e mail address, she kept calling my cell and harassing me there so I changeds my number. Now she is calling my husband's cell.

I am so tierd of the drama. Anything those boys needed we always provided. Now we are bad parents because we said no

2006-09-30 05:21:35 · 13 answers · asked by debbie_jo72 2

My partner and myself are about to separate, we have a 3 year old son and have no clue on what to do. Our relationship has been going down hill for a few years now, and has gone too far for any chance of ever getting back on track.
The problem starts after we sell our house we will be left no equity, as there is none. My partner has been a stay at home mum over the past three years, so she has no earnings. Her parents are not the most supportive, so they will not be much help. Our biggest fear is where will they live? I will pay over the stated amount of child support, as I don't to turn my back on my son, but other than that we have no clue as to what they will be entitled to. I will be back at my mothers on the sofa, but my partner (ex) unfortunately has not got that option.
Has anyone been through anything similar, and or does anyone have any good advice as to what to expect?
Thanks.

2006-09-30 05:05:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

The first time we met we both knew. There was just something special between us. We are so drawn to each other. I honestly feel that it was love at first sight. My marriage has been very unhappy. My husband has cheated on me several times and he lies a lot. I have only stayed with him because of financial reasons and because of my children. We have been married for 8 years and I am afraid to leave him. I guess I am just afraid of change. I don't like sneaking around though. I never thought I would be a cheater. Where do I go from here? Should I give this new relationship some time to see what happens or should I leave my husband now?

2006-09-30 04:58:10 · 30 answers · asked by Suzieq4855 1

My husband was just layed off from his job of 4 years- what can I do to booste his spirits and make him feel better? He is soooo down on himself and 3 times sex last only helped for the moment!!!!! I dont want him to feel he has let us down! Any adivce?

2006-09-30 04:54:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been happly married for 4 yrs. I have an ex (who lives 1000 miles away) that is also married. We have been talking alot recently and he wants to hook up when I come to town. I have been in love with this man for 13 yrs. We both understand that we both have a lot to lose (we both have a child w/ our spouse) if we do it and get caught. My heart thinks that I should do it because if I don't I might regret not doing it. My head doesn't want to ruin my marriage. I cheated on every BF I have ever had with this man but vowed not to do this to my husband. I have stayed away from the ex for 5 yrs so nothing would happen. Now I am torn about what to do. My logic is - what can it hurt if we are careful and don't get caught. Should I follow my heart or my head?

2006-09-30 04:52:40 · 39 answers · asked by Jay 1

for me, It was a romantic balloon ride over the Napa Valley with my wife. It was so beautiful, and peaceful.

2006-09-30 04:49:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

its my brothers 1st year of marriage together i want to get them something traditional and nice

2006-09-30 04:42:26 · 12 answers · asked by kesiah 1

She still takes good care of me just for the asking in a number of ways.I just want to see her have fun too.She has to take pain meds for her neck might be the problem.But she still uses the neck a lot to please me so I dont think it is a problem with relationship.

2006-09-30 04:38:58 · 9 answers · asked by Nevada S 1

My husband wants me to be more “vocal” when it comes to sex. I'm a quite person, I enjoy sex but not like he does. I enjoy being in the moment and being close to my husband, he enjoys getting off. I've never had an orgasm and and I think that is starting to bother him. He wants me to tell him what I like and what feels good but I just don't feel comfortable talking about sex. Also, like I said before, sex feels good to me in other ways then what it does for him. He wants me to play with myself but I've never felt comfortable doing that and I am not sure if I ever will. I tried it once just for him and it did not feel good to me. He is what feels good to me. But I can't get him to understand that he does not understand that its not the type of person I am. He is the only man I've ever been with and he loves that. We have not had sex for over 2 weeks, I know he is waiting for me to “initiate ” it, but I'm not. This is a issue he is having and I think if he wants to talk about it all he has to do is bring it up. Instead he just goes about his day ignoring me on any issue that has to do with sex. If I'm getting dressed he does not look at me, if we go to bed he gives me his back. I'm scared that he is basing our marriage on sex and I feel like that is unfair and I feel like he is trying to make me be a person that I'm not. I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I love him and I know he loves me and we really do have a great marriage. A lot of people look up to us and come to my husband for marriage advice. We are good together and we do a lot together. Its just our sex life that is starting to go sour. Any advice....maybe some web pages I can look at. I would love to be more into sex for my husband. But I feel like he is pressuring me to do it. I feel like if we do have sex, I'm just going to be thinking off all the things I don't do right and then I really won't enjoy it.

2006-09-30 04:32:44 · 14 answers · asked by a girl 1

I meet this one guy day, we exchange phone #'s
when we first talk he told me he lived with old lady and have a son, he never ask me out but he would call and say hi every now and then, i would say i called him more.about a year after meeting him a moved, and i saw he down the street from where i moved to. i call him he walk over we talk for about 5 min then he left. he was visiting his cousin. not seening him all that time now a live down from his cousin i was excited. if he was over there, he would call me ask me to come outside, we would talk. he told me not to take it the wrong he was not trying to hook up with me. so his b-day came i got him a card he stopped by picked it up and left. my b-day came he got me (2)card drop them off and left. one nite he came by after leaving his cousin house, i finally invited him in, i kissed he, he jumped up and said he had to go. my question if he didn't want me y get my #. i asked him y he left he said the **** didn't feel right. should i give u

2006-09-30 04:30:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

with this and have not been ugly, kept him from the kids, ect. If I have to call out there for anything- she wont say anything to me-screens calls or if the phone gets picked up by someone at the house- she will say im in the shower or dodges me. Also now my ex when we talk about the kids hes fine but if he says anything and (like im looking for a new job) and i say you'll make it or encourage him he gets really anxious or if i give a gift or help his mom he will say thanks and i say your welcome he gets quiet or will say something like you dont have to or he just gets very uncomfortable. like he dosent want me to say anything nice or encourage.
He made his decision- he said he wanted his freedom, to be alone,for e to move on and if i remind him this is what he wanted now he denies it and says i didnt really say that.
I thought he was in love with her , thats why he left me, i was not the one, but i dont harbor hate in my heart. why do they dislike me so i didnt break up our marraig

2006-09-30 04:24:14 · 13 answers · asked by still hoping for love 1

I'm 15 years old and I'm 100% sure that my 18 year old boyfriend is the one I wanna marry. Is it possible to marry ourselves alone w/o a pastor? Like maybe say a lil prayer or something and thats it?

2006-09-30 04:23:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife decided to leave with our two kids a number of years ago, and got a lawyer, etc. In order to make the uncontested divorce happen, (we had no $, and few possessions of value), I had to admit in the separation agreement to at least one of the necessary reasons for our split. I chose "verbal abuse and abandonment" No choice, others were worse. She admitted not true but we divorced . Why me? Why this nonsense? Because I'm a man? Why is it always our fault, and if not, why are we forced to lie? Who dreams up this bulls***?

2006-09-30 04:20:15 · 6 answers · asked by Raptor 3

Shes's 22, and I'm 19, and anytime I don't come over (i stay there almost every night) she gets extremely upset and it causes a few days of awkwardness.. I plan on marrying her someday, but I'm not even married yet and she gets mad?? I don't live with her, but I might as well, she works a lot as a manager at zales and I'm a server so we don't get to see eachother til night, and sometimes I just want to hang out with my friends! She hasn't met and is avoiding meeting my friends. Do you have any advice on how to tell her i'm not married to you and stop trying to whip me!!

2006-09-30 04:12:15 · 13 answers · asked by Brad 2

My wife recently left me, I think for another man. She says "i still love and care about you" but she treats me like crap and has shut out me & her step children, never calls or anything. Should I just give up on her and move on????

2006-09-30 04:10:38 · 16 answers · asked by carpet man 2

im 11.my mom and step dad have beem fighting like crazy.my stepbrother said his dad would not let his mom (stepbrothers mom) do anything.my mom talked to a freind before cuming home for 40 minutes and my dumb stepdad yelled at her for it. a month ago he locked her out of their room and she pounded on the door wanting to come in and he came bursting through the door and said i told u to get away from the f'n door and he pushed her and she hit her head and almost had a concusian and my stepsister made her feel better but i lost my temper and attacked him and he smacked me across the face. now he yells at her about putting him 2nd and the kids 1st. im scared he is ganna hit my mom again and i am tryin g to get my mom to divorce him but she says no and she says he is a nice guy and i think that is bull ****. they argue all the time. and i dont know want to do. how do i get them to divorce?

2006-09-30 04:05:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband lied to me about the stupidist thing. He bought a dell DJ from dell.com but he told me that his mom bought it for him. Actually when he first told me about it, he said he didn't know who was sending him a Dell DJ but when it came yesterday, he said his mom sent it. I don't know why but I did not believe him at all. I checked his email and there was an order confirmation from dell with his credit card, and the shipping and billing to him. I could care les if he bought it. We have looked at many MP3 players at stores including IPODS. My reaction is always the same, if ya want it, buy it. He never did. Now he buys it behind my back and says it was a present from his mom. I am so tripped out by this. I have yet to confront him since it just happened and he is at work, but I am so pissed. Why would he lie? Now I feel he lies about much, much more. Can and should I trust him?

2006-09-30 03:53:32 · 21 answers · asked by Tonya L 3

I have beared her opposite nature upto 15 years but not able to prolong now. But I am emotionally attached to her for which she does not bothered & take care. How I should finish my attachment with her.

2006-09-30 03:42:29 · 8 answers · asked by sony19jan 1

My boyfriend and I have lived together for 7yrs and it seems to me that if the relationship was going to progress towards marriage it would have by know. Any advice on what is holding him back or is it wiser just to leave and try starting over.

2006-09-30 03:30:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Since our marriage I have been confused and was constantly on a rollercoaster ride. Nothing was good enough, he was very rude with me, verbally abusive for no reason, it is to the extent that i cannot say even one simple sentence to him, he would start yelling and abusing. I tried to make marriage work for 9 years and could not get anywhere. Now i am trying to leave and end this marriage for my and child's sake. My husband knows this and he as usual blames me and suggested us to see a physciatrist. He thinks I am mentally sick. During physciatrist visit, he is diagnosed with Narcissitic Personality Disorder. Also, physciatrist has told me that i have depression, might be because of conditons at home. I can hire a lawyer to legally end the marriage but my husband is threatening me of fighting for kids. I do not want my kid to grow up as Narcissitic with him getting custody. It had been very difficult for me to earn and save some money. I do not have too much to afford attorney fees.

2006-09-30 03:28:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hear about italian men and their familys?are they based on fact or fiction my husband is Italian american and currently trying too see if any of the sterotypes fit him?they dont seem too ?People saying they are all momas boys and expect their wives to wait on them and all have large familys.

2006-09-30 03:14:27 · 3 answers · asked by kelly v 1

How come they cannot just spend the rest of their lives together without the marriage? Couldn't they just be like husband and wife without the marriage? I do not understand why people marry each other.

2006-09-30 03:13:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Let's say there are two people that fell in love in 1st sight. Is it still possible that they can break up and divorce? What are your insights of the concept of "Love at 1st sight?"

2006-09-30 03:09:26 · 18 answers · asked by KHCOM 1

2006-09-30 03:04:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-30 02:59:32 · 38 answers · asked by rebeldina 2

more for me to do - more arguments. Sometimes I just feel constantly exhausted mentally and even physically.

2006-09-30 02:34:20 · 6 answers · asked by Zelda Hunter 7

when one or both parents uses the child against the other parent in a shared parenting agreement--what are the options

2006-09-30 02:33:32 · 17 answers · asked by bumblebee 1

i'm married now for 2yrs n1/2 but for the last time i have been regreting alot why i got married with him coz i came to realize that he is not the man i was dreaming of.i feel a big pain because he is not anymore good in bed he just change his behaviour but i think he was like this before but he was hiding.
i'm very lonely at the moment.i just wanted to get married once but ithink it will not work.help please

2006-09-30 02:31:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-30 02:30:42 · 11 answers · asked by Ah Ngeok 1