Shes's 22, and I'm 19, and anytime I don't come over (i stay there almost every night) she gets extremely upset and it causes a few days of awkwardness.. I plan on marrying her someday, but I'm not even married yet and she gets mad?? I don't live with her, but I might as well, she works a lot as a manager at zales and I'm a server so we don't get to see eachother til night, and sometimes I just want to hang out with my friends! She hasn't met and is avoiding meeting my friends. Do you have any advice on how to tell her i'm not married to you and stop trying to whip me!!
2006-09-30 04:12:15 · 13 answers · asked by Brad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I've been through times like this with my man. If she is as understanding as I'm, then she needs to realize ever man needs time for just the boys. Everyone knows that. And maybe she thinks that she can run you because your a little younger. Think if shes like this and your not married think how she's going to be when you are. Tell her to stop being so insecure and chill.
2006-09-30 04:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by erilso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello sweetie!! Look just come out and tell her that you are not ready for that type of commitment. She may not appreciate it now but in the future if you two plan to get married and the moment is just right she will thank you. Because then if yall would have rushed into things they might not have worked out. So just tell her how you feel and if she cares about you and she loves you she will be able to except the change. GOOD LUCK!!! Be the man that you already seem to be.
2006-09-30 11:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 5171989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend who had this exact problem and he was around your age, perhaps a bit younger. His girl was *very* possessive. I thought the guy was lucky, to be honest, to have a girl fawning over him all the time. He seemed to like the attention as well. However, they seemed to fight a lot. Eventually, they broke up several times. It seemed so crazy to me!
I think you'll find there's no easy answer to your dilemma. Either the two of you will work it out over time or you'll eventually split. Not everyone is made for eachother, to be sure. I can also suggest picking up a book at a libary on the topic of relationships. Try Dr. John Gray's "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus". Link: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=br_ss_hs/104-7239058-7039151?platform=gurupa&url=index%3Dstripbooks%3Arelevance-above&keywords=Men+are+from+Mars+women+are+from+venus
2006-09-30 11:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Bruce Almighty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you can't spent every second of the day with her. You are your own man and like to do things without her. That doesn't mean you don't care for her.
2006-09-30 11:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me on this one....You need to get out now!!
If she's like this now...she will be even worse when you get married. She is obviously not secure with herself so she's showing you that 1) she doesnt trust you. and 2) She just plain hates to be alone with herself.
2006-09-30 11:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by sent_from_heaven2me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest her meeting your other friends and maybe all of you guys go out... she has to realize that if she keeps smothering you, you will resent her and will eventually break it off with her..she needs her space as well as you do... trust is the word that comes to mind.
2006-09-30 11:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by shelly v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19's too young to be involved at this age i dont think so u can make decisions for ur future life becauz i belive most people began to understand love wen they re in their 20's ...as far thi sgrl's concerned u re waisting ur time she needs a psychaitrist
2006-09-30 11:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by lovelace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it occur to you you are just a little younger and not quite
ready for the kind of relationship she is. You have to find a way to tell her this, and wear your fastest running shoes when you do!!!!
2006-09-30 12:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by POPPY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're better off calling it quits. She's one of them clingy types and they don't get better in time.
2006-09-30 11:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow , you may need to just have a serious talk with her asking about and confirming that she can trust you.
2006-09-30 11:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋