My husband's ex in laws have his kids because of their mother (long story). My husband and I told his 16 teen year old that if he wanted some extras he would have to get a small part time job. Like one or two days a week. We are both going to school and have every little money to spread around.
He wanted to go to homecoming this weekend he is in 10th grade. We found out 4 days before hand. That has not give us time to even think about how to get the money or save for it you know. So, I told his grandmother that he knew if he wanted extras he needs to find a small job this is what we all agreed on.
Well, She got mad and told me I was a parent of convenace and f ing B this and that. She kept e mailing me harassing e mails so I cahnged my e mail address, she kept calling my cell and harassing me there so I changeds my number. Now she is calling my husband's cell.
I am so tierd of the drama. Anything those boys needed we always provided. Now we are bad parents because we said no
2006-09-30 05:21:35 · 13 answers · asked by debbie_jo72 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They have full custody, So they are not going to loose them.
2006-09-30 05:29:29 · update #1
You know no matter what you do it will not be enough, whether right or wrong, so don't worry about it. One day you will get your chance to explain to your step son, Just be honest with him, and say, I am sorry, but we really did not have the money, I hope that you understand. In future let your husband deal with the ex-in-laws. Because you will be fighting a losing battle. Just be their for your husband, I am sure he needs your support, in dealing with the ex-in-laws. Keep praying!
2006-09-30 05:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Stop allowing her to win.
a. You should not have changed your email address. Just mark her as spam, and that takes care of that.
b. You should not have changed your phone no., you can call block her.
2. She is harrassing you, because you are the weakest link and give in.
3. Confront her and let her know that you are not going to break the rules and she shouldn't either. Stick to your guns. Once you let her know that she does not scare you.
4. Let her know that if the harrassment continues, you will take the emails and phone bills to the police and file charges against her for harrassment.
5. Make sure the child understands that you need to stand by your word, if he agreed to get a parttime job, then he needs to do it to get the extras, or not do it and be content with not having the extras.
6. Help him find the job, and help him manage his money. Teach him to save and budget.
2006-09-30 05:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Seeking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 days isn't very long for a 16 yr old to get a job and save money for something he knew (probably for a couple of months) was coming. i bet he'll start saving for prom. does this kid have any idea how far a dollar goes these days? live and learn.
he's not a boyscout, i take it.
2006-09-30 06:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with rich, she sounds like a complete nut job! Keep proof of her emails and if she leaves voice mails keep those, too. Show them to the police, when you have a partial stash.
2006-09-30 05:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they are actually raising the kids, they have the say in whether the kid has to get a job or not. If you do not want to contribute to this request, then don't. How they see you is not what you should be worried about.
2006-09-30 05:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your husband should have been the one to tell her. It makes you look like the bad guy. They don't blame him, they think it is you. I am sure they think if it weren't for you, he would do it. I agree with your stance if they want extras they should have to work for it. I also agree he should have given you more notice but you really need to let him stand up to his ex-inlaws.
2006-09-30 05:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by buckking_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow she sounds like she has problems. I know it must be very hard on you but please try and understand it is very hard for grannies as we constantly feel threatened with the possible loss of our grand kids through marriage break up. If she won't pull into line you may have to cut contact
2006-09-30 05:26:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the ex-mother-in law, if she did not like your answer, then she give it to him. because you and your husband, gets him what he needs, not what he want. he should have a after school job.
2006-09-30 05:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by queenmidas1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why dont they call up the real mother and leave you alone? they should not be harassing you if they have any issues at all their dealings should be with your husband only
2006-09-30 05:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a nut job,, and that aint good for the kid,
save her emails and contact police,
2006-09-30 05:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋