My husband was just layed off from his job of 4 years- what can I do to booste his spirits and make him feel better? He is soooo down on himself and 3 times sex last only helped for the moment!!!!! I dont want him to feel he has let us down! Any adivce?
2006-09-30 04:54:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh this is a hard one. Let him know you are behind him and believe in him. That he has not let you down. There are good times and bad times in a marriage. That you know he will find something better!! Maybe encourage him to take this time to continue his education. I don't believe in living off the government BUT at a time like this, I would take advantage of any programs out there that would help him get a better job and better training. Unemployment is so high right now that everyone knows someone who is unemployed. I wish there was a magic answer but there's not. All you can do is love him, encourage him to not give up, and to look at this as one door closing and finding the door that is opening. Is there anything he has been wanting to do? This may be a time that he could venture into starting his own business. Encourage him to use his natural talents. Is he good with cars? Maybe he could do car repairs on the side. There are many things he could do on his own. Lawn care, washing cars, handyman, etc. You know which skills he has, this would be a good time to use them. Good Luck.
2006-09-30 05:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by buckking_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself but maybe a little more understanding. IF, and when, he brings up the subject then let him know that he isn't letting the family down and, while looking into his eyes, tell him why. Let him know that him finding a job-again-would make it easier, monetarily but, it is not necessary for his family to love him. Tell him all of the things, big or small, that enable him to help his family.
2006-09-30 12:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him and keep supporting him. I have beent there with my husband. He felt the same way. Just keep letting him know that the both of you will get through it and will always be there for him no matter how bad it gets because that is what love is. Just try to keep him smiling and keep is spirits up and let him know that everything happens for a reason. Good Luck to you.
2006-09-30 12:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Aries Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband is down I try to do little thing to let him know I love him and that he is a good father. I leave little notes telling him I love him, e mails telling how I feel about him, and just being there even if you don't have the answers helps to validate his feelings.
2006-09-30 12:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by debbie_jo72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that it was the business that wasn't busy enough to keep him working. It has nothing to do with him. Help him get out there and look for a new job. That will boost his spirits.
Good luck.
2006-09-30 12:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with it, you know it was not his fault and you also realise he needs to feel he stilll has something to offer so the sex is a great start. He will find another better job and you will both find it is just another of lifes hurdles...
2006-10-02 04:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and honest with him, keep the lines of communication open.
Tell him how you are feeling and what you are thinking. You will get through this together and he needs to know this. If you are giving him more sex than usual, then he will think it is pity sex and won't appreciate it.
2006-09-30 11:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes depressed cause he believes the men support the family. i know how you feel that has happened to my hubby to. just be supportive and help him get back out there! never put him down on this. if your working have him do some chores or have him do some fishing or whatever he liked to do before. good luck! always tell him how much you love him.
2006-09-30 12:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by countrygalsline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepare a very fancy dinner and talk it over with him. Let him blow off steam and listen to his complaints.
Reassure him that you will support him 100% in any job options that he will consider in the near future and help him succeed goals.
2006-09-30 12:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a great book called "Shifting Sands" by Steve Donahue.
It's a guidebook for crossing the deserts of change in our lives. Highly recommended. You can read more at:
http://www.gmrdesign.com/lifechallenges.org/door/Steve_Donahue.html
2006-09-30 12:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by ideaquest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋