Marriage & Divorce - 20 September 2006

I think my husband has an anger/temper problem, he tells me that he is normal and that EVERYONE gets mad and I make his outbursts to be more than they are...in the last two years he has: punched the steering wheel in his truck, thrown his wedding ring at me, slammed his fists down on tables, slammed doors, crushed a bag of potato chips dumped it all over my living room floor,threatened to get rid of my cat, thrown all of my stuff outside the apartmentment and locked me out, rammed a chair into the table, thrown tv remote, kicked shoes, curses saying "**** you", has told me to shut up, and has thrown his video game remote on the ground breaking it, and hit plate of cookies across the room.I tell him I'm concerned about his temper but he says he not as bad as most, and says because he does not do this EVERYDAY its not a big deal, then he tells me that everyone gets mad. I am concerend but he blows off my conerns, is he trying install fear in me by acting like this? How bad is this?

2006-09-20 07:18:34 · 27 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

who created the webpage laleeda1963@yahoo.com ?she says she didnt do it and blames me for it

2006-09-20 07:15:06 · 4 answers · asked by ransom4660 1

He is the one who asked me to leave and told me he didn't want me anymore.I want to start talking to other men(not sex)just talk,is it so soon?

2006-09-20 07:14:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

big deal to just stuff a rag into the cooler drain when we move it. The cap is missing and we are trying to move our fish to a new tank. Do you have these petty disagreements with your significant other?

2006-09-20 06:49:43 · 14 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

I've been working crazy hard, and not getting paid much to do it. (I'm hoping to impress for the big raise this week or next.) My wife says she really misses me. What can I do for her that doesn't cost an arm and a leg but says more than the usual flowers, etc?

2006-09-20 06:46:59 · 40 answers · asked by Rainier 5

Have an affair with another woman for 2 and a half?

2006-09-20 06:44:29 · 17 answers · asked by bond girl 1

In this time I have fallen in love with someone else. I got married 7 years ago because I thought it was the right thing to do even thou I love my husband like a brother. I know I shouldn't have gotten married in the first place but I did. He never wanted kids because his career was to important. Now that I have found someone else he wants to work things out. I feel sorry for him and I don't want to hurt him but I truely love this other person VERY much. What do I do?

2006-09-20 06:43:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it because physicality is less important to men?

2006-09-20 06:39:26 · 40 answers · asked by jenna b 1

he was doing steriods behind my back that i didn't know about until i found it when he was at work.

His answer when I confronted him was "I wasn't lieing ,I just didn't tell you . Is this considered a lie?

2006-09-20 06:35:05 · 26 answers · asked by rain20 1

2006-09-20 06:33:56 · 13 answers · asked by Lexus 1

y can't he just tell me ?

2006-09-20 06:33:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am getting married soon, its an arranged marriage.. i want to be a most loving wife.. what all are the good qualities of a good wife? how to show that i love him and his family members? what all i have to do and wht i shouldnt do? can u describe something.. about life after marriage

2006-09-20 06:30:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

The other night I was at my parents house and this commercial came on...there was this totally hot guy in low cut jeans, ripped abs...all sweaty...the works and it says "the essence of man"...then I look over at my Dad back in his reclyner, mouth hanging open snooring away and I thought ...no there's the essense od man...they are lying to us all...it's so not fair!!!

2006-09-20 06:17:19 · 33 answers · asked by sasha 4

2006-09-20 06:09:43 · 4 answers · asked by CHYNA 2

My wife of 10 years openly picks her nose in front of me, as if I'm not even in the room/car, etc.? After 10 years (plus dating), I'm used to it and not terribly bothered by it; I just find it very strange and wondered if any others had this "problem" with their spouse?

2006-09-20 06:04:15 · 18 answers · asked by Peter Piper 2

2006-09-20 05:59:45 · 6 answers · asked by luvscreampie 1

Lying, cheating, stealing or do you deal with it all because he/she is your spouse and the mother/father to your children?

2006-09-20 05:58:36 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

At least, Fifty Grand !!

2006-09-20 05:57:05 · 23 answers · asked by 2BaD4u 4

Does it stem from poor compromising? Where one person makes a compromise and doesn't feel the other person is making a equal one so resentments build up over time? (Being valued)
Or is it getting comfortable and not putting any effort into what your partner is going through? (To value)
Or is it some other thing I can't think of?

2006-09-20 05:55:33 · 12 answers · asked by parkdad73 1

My Wife and I have been married for only about 6 months.
She has always talked about once a month on the phone with her ex, she says its normal friendly conversations and she is still friends with him.
They broke up because he did not tell his parents that they were engaged.
I dont feel that that there was closure in that way.
Her ex now has a girlfriend and she wants to meet her.
I dont like it one bit. does she have a right to meet her?

2006-09-20 05:54:09 · 22 answers · asked by Night Guru 2

About 3 years ago, my wife and I joined a church. My job prevented me from going to church as often. My wife became friends with one of my mother's cousins in the church. He is an older guy, about 30 years older than my wife and I and I thought nothing of it. Well my wife gets it into her head to introduce this guy to her single mom. He meets her mom and says that she's nice but that he can't have any kind of romantic relationship with her because he's in love with my wife.

Well my wife tells him that he can't be in love with her because she's married.

My wife tells me this and says that she doesn't think that he's in love with her and that he is probably just glad that she talks to him. Well, my wife and I got into an argument and the first thing she does is go hang out with this guy until like 4am. We had some money problems and he gave her in excess of $4000 without me knowing..and now my wife tells me that she may be in love with him even though she still loves me?????

2006-09-20 05:48:23 · 23 answers · asked by maccleod1074 1

When a man violates his vows he justly gets cleaned out for his moral short coming, but when his wife cheats, he gets cleaned out for hers, why then be faithful, marriage vows aren't worth the time it takes a priest or minister to administer the worthless promises in today's modern society. There should be penalties for violating the contract you vowed to before God, family and friends. But hey I guess this is progress..........

2006-09-20 05:47:53 · 8 answers · asked by John H B 1

2006-09-20 05:35:54 · 7 answers · asked by Mrs Military 1

Last night my wife went out with some people she works with. She left at around 8:00 pm and didn't get home until 1:30 am. She didn't call me or anything. Should I be upset with her, or is she entitled to stay out that late?

2006-09-20 05:35:50 · 25 answers · asked by raiderphan79 2

Me and this guy have been seeing eachother the last month...he left his wife and he even lets me listen when ever she calls him, he tells her he's divorcing her and doesn't want to have anything to do with her other than the kids...he's been staying with me the last week and a half...and we work at the same place! He's been so sincere and even wants to get an apartment with me now...should we slow down???

2006-09-20 05:34:58 · 25 answers · asked by mary H 1

2006-09-20 05:31:20 · 22 answers · asked by parkdad73 1

well my x and have been seperated for about a year thing i don't get is how come she won't pay for the divorce we both agreed that if we were to split up the one who wanted it would pay for it which was her

2006-09-20 05:27:11 · 14 answers · asked by dan b 1

I might not have th quote word for word, but how bad does she have to be to be considered contentious?

2006-09-20 05:24:02 · 7 answers · asked by parkdad73 1

I have received a message today from a lady and I am wondering that is she right or not?

Message: This is a quote from what you sent in an e-mail to me “But I still confused for why I should stay in a marriage if I can't love my husband anymore and I just feel like I have to leave him again if my love for him is gone. So, please tell me what can I do"? Part of your duty to him is to never divorce him. Love is not just a feeling but also a commitment to stand by your husband no matter what. Leaving for a short time, which is called “separation”, is perfectly fine. The only problem was when you were vulnerable you became intimate with another man while being married. Stay with your husband not based on your feelings but to receive the blessing of God and your marriage will begin to prosper.
1 Peter 3:1-6
1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. 5For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

My answer:

Thanks for writing and your advice! But I am wondering that should wives submissive to their husbands no matter what, even without mutual love? One of my best friend (she is a Christian) who tell me that it is wrong to stay with my husband if I don't love him and especially it is wrong to accept his love when he's trying to make love to me - actually have sex with me. That's the main point for me to think about I have to leave him again as soon as possible because I will be going crazy to doing this with him and it is unacceptable for me now. I don't mean to against you or God, but it is just the way it is. I am sorry for saying this but it is the truth.

P.S. I loved my husband before but any more now but love him in family way.
I have a story on my page here: http://360.yahoo.com/my_profile-.1D8ZsM8erQzBETkA1iUS_ABtSSpjg--;_ylt=AsNQfoy35Yj4TVZXaOolTzXaAOJ3?cq=1 so, please give me some of your opinion and thanks!

2006-09-20 05:21:32 · 5 answers · asked by Marilyn 2

I have been married for 41/2 years to a beautiful black woman and we now have a beautiful baby girl.

2006-09-20 05:10:42 · 5 answers · asked by Poet Master 1