My Wife and I have been married for only about 6 months.
She has always talked about once a month on the phone with her ex, she says its normal friendly conversations and she is still friends with him.
They broke up because he did not tell his parents that they were engaged.
I dont feel that that there was closure in that way.
Her ex now has a girlfriend and she wants to meet her.
I dont like it one bit. does she have a right to meet her?
2006-09-20 05:54:09 · 22 answers · asked by Night Guru 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU ARE NOT HER FATHER OR HER KEEPER, COMMUNICATION ABOUT THE ISSUES YOU HAVE SHOULD BE DISCUSSED WITH YOUR WIFE.
2006-09-20 05:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was trying to hide it behind your back that she communicates with her ex that is one thing but she was upfront with you and wouldn't she not tell you if she had something to hide? I am still friends with my ex and maybe she wants to meet the girlfriend so that the girlfriend won't have the same suspicions that you are having. I would trust her. She obviously values the relationship that you two have because she tells you everything where she could be sneaky and not tell you anything. She chose you to be with, not her ex. What difference does it make if she met the girlfriend?It is not like she told you she would like to meet up with him alone. You need to have a heart to heart talk with her about your feelings, without being mad or loud, and see what she have to say about it to see what actions you should take next. Good luck. I hope everything works out.
2006-09-20 06:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I know that this can be hard but honestly right before me and my husband got together we both got out of long relationships and it was hard for us. But we managed to get through it and here we are almost four years from then and were amrried and have a little one. Now I think you should defenitley talk to your wife about it or a close friend because who are we to tell you what to do. But since you did ask :) No she shouldnt be talking to him no matter what. You and him are not friends and I think it is total disrespect that she doesnt have your feeling s in mind. Does she knows you feel this way and still continues to talk to him anyways? Because then I think and believe this calls for you adn her to really sit down and talk about this and let her know that this is a big deal. I dont see why her ex's girlfriend wants to meet her but I'm sure its not to be friends...TRUST ME WOMEN are the samea dn we just want to know if the other girl is competition and if she has to worry about her or not....Talk to her and go from there.
2006-09-20 06:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is your wife then she has no business talking with the EX boyfriend. He wants her to meet his new GF so that he can symbolicly say look at my new toy. Eat your heart out now. As for closure; the door was shut when she said "I do" with you. Continuing a friendship with this person isn't showing a desire for closure. Stop making excuses for this. If you don't like it ; you are justified. Tell her to knock it off or maybe she wouldn't mind if you started calling your ex-'s on a regular basis too.
2006-09-20 06:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, this incredibly is a sticky concern. provided that he's the boy's father he does certainly need to be responsive to that the youngster is ill. it incredibly is that if he cared. I doubt that he does, nevertheless, by way of fact if he did he'd be making common visits with the youngster and could be responsive to his concern already. If I have been you i'd purely permit napping dogs lie and not provide him an probability to attempt to control your spouse right into a dating. the only ingredient you're able to rigidity approximately is the indisputable fact that he would, faster or later, want to have a dating together with his son. If he does which will propose common visits. Does he pay toddler help? Has he relinquished all custodial rights? Has he made any tries at verbal substitute together with his son? provided that i don't be responsive to lots approximately his dating together with his son i will purely anticipate, from the limited information which you have provided, that he's a self-absorbed jerk who purely cares approximately himself and is keen to commit adultery and destroy up a marriage so as to further his own time table. If I have been you, i'd tell my spouse to no longer communicate with him till he shows himself to be a to blame father. while he starts appearing like he cares with reference to the youngster THEN he could be counseled approximately any emergencies and well-being issues. till then she would not owe him a ingredient.
2016-10-01 04:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is not whether she has a right to meet her -- it's a free country. The question is whether she is respecting your feelings about her ongoing relationship with her ex. If you feel uncomfortable with your wife's behavior, and it's understandable that you would, given that she was engaged to the guy, it's time for you to express clearly and unequivocally what your needs are, and how she can avoid hurting your feelings.
2006-09-20 05:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most (the best) marriages are negotiated which means they aren't dictatorships. You exhibit enough stress over this deal that you need to explain that to your wife that and say you don't want to produce resentment in her by forbidding, or prohibiting (you can't legislate her fidelity in any case) but that you are having great difficulty with her relationship with this guy and you need some help. See if you can't work something out where she has an open book connection with the guy and his girl.
2006-09-20 06:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to trust her inorder to keep the relationship going. and if the worst thing happen are u ready to forgive her for what she did and accept her back? if she still continue, let her know how u feel but never confront her esp. in anger, this will only lead to an ugly scene. remember if u love her and don't want to end up asking how to get her back, then don't do anything silly.
2006-09-20 06:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I feel that when ex's are in the picture, only bad things can come out of it. You have totally proved our point!
This is not fair to you and your marriage, this ex should just stay away!
Put your foot down and tell her this is ridiculous!
2006-09-20 06:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't u ask your wife to introduce u to her ex and his girlfriend and perhaps the four of u can go out and have fun together?
2006-09-20 06:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why did u marry her if she still talks to her ex? anyways you are screwed whether you tell her to stop or not. I wonder if you were just a rebound for her and she wants to size up her ex's gf.
2006-09-20 05:57:12 · answer #11 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋