2006-09-20 06:33:56 · 13 answers · asked by Lexus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have never had anyone cheat on me while i was married to them but my ex husband and i stayed together after our divorce and i found out he was seeing someone else well 2 assalt charges later I'm happily remarried he is in prison and his new wife is raising their baby alone so no i would never take someone back and people like that get whats coming to them she choose to sleep with a man that abandoned his kids for durgs and a whore now she raises her child alone while he is in prison
2006-09-20 06:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain! I was cheated on too, it's been 5 years now, but still hurts at times. I did leave him for awhile, but came back hoping it was just a painful mistake and things would eventually pan out. We had a rough year after getting back together. Things did work out and I do think it was a mistake, I still don't know if it will happen again, but I keep my hopes up that it wont. We did attend counseling, trying to help me get my hurt feelings out in the open. Needless to say, trusting him completely is out of the picture, but day by day, I trust a little bit more and more. I will say this, if you love your spouse and feel you can't live life without her and she feels the same way back.... then try again. If you don't think you can recover from the pain, then leave. But know that once you have left, there is a chance of never coming back. The first year will be hard... I sure do know the pain you must be feeling and although counseling is a pain in the rear, it sure does help some. Good luck, I sure hope your life straightens out soon, I am betting you feel completely upside down right now and your not alone, it happens to many of us.
2006-09-20 06:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is never a cut & dry question when it comes to infidelity within the marriage. However, I will say that there were problems in your marriage long before the affair ever took place. Every marriage is different and if their are children involved it complicates the issue.
If it were just a boyfriend then I would advise you to drop him like a hot potato. With a husband it all depends on what you can live with and if you can truly forgive.
If you elect to forgive then he must be truly remorseful. He must change everything that enabled that relationship. Also, there can never be any contact with the other woman. You on the other hand can't keep throwing it in his face every chance you get or he will never be able to forget about it and will think that he might as well do it if you keep harping on it.
If he should ever break your trust again then that is a deal breaker and you should be prepared to act accordingly.
2006-09-20 06:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was married and he cheated. The answer is no i would not
take him back. Once a cheater,Always a cheater. He cheated once and make no mistake he will do it again. There is no excuse. No ifs,ands or buts. He does not deserve another chance. Adultery is too extremely hard to forget and forgive. Myself
could not go on living the rest of my married life, knowing what he did. And wondering. An apology and i will never do it again speech is not good
enough.
2006-09-20 08:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by CIA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance use to be a chronic cheater I don't personaly get devastated or feel betrayed by this behavior it's all in what you personaly will tolerate I however have things I will not tolerate and he knows those too. As the years have gone on he's calmed down and given up the crap to be a settled companion to me and after it was out of his system I got a big diamond ring out of the deal so It worked for me. Not that I am saying all woman should feel as I do my bestfriend wouldn't ever tolerate a cheater so it's all in your own personal perspective.
2006-09-20 06:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has had the temptation to cheat but never has. He knows that is the one thing I would never forgive.
2006-09-20 07:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't my husband just my fiance and yes I took him back and tried to make things work BUT I realized I could never trust him again, and I could never live my life always wondering.
2006-09-20 06:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by Varacha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has never cheated on me before. But if he did, I would not take him back. There is a saying : "ones a dog always a dog"! think about it. If you let him do it one time, he will do it over and over...
2006-09-20 07:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My x husband did while i was pregnant with our daughter. I divorced him cause he not only disrespected me, he betrayed me and my daughter. No woman should ever put up with a man who disrespects her in any way! if you do, then you are co-dependent and insecure, needy and troubled.YOu have to have respect in a partnership.
2006-09-20 06:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married but know of a friend who took him back and they seemed to be okay.. although i think he is just a habitual liar..
2006-09-20 06:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by bond girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋