Last night my wife went out with some people she works with. She left at around 8:00 pm and didn't get home until 1:30 am. She didn't call me or anything. Should I be upset with her, or is she entitled to stay out that late?
2006-09-20 05:35:50 · 25 answers · asked by raiderphan79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While she could have shown more consideration and given you a call this is forgiveable and be clear with her about the next time. If she doesn't make a habit of staying out this late it really isn't that big of a deal. Was there anything preventing you from calling her? I guess the issue of how late she stayed out would depend upon what sort of activity they were engaged in. Was it a late drinks then a late dinner? or Dinner and then out clubing? Clubing would explain the 1:30 late hour as time flies when you are having fun. Try not to let jealousy and insecurity cloud your judgement. Take her out sometime too.
2006-09-20 05:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she is entitled to stay out that late. But I also think that you are entitled to be upset. If she did not inform you what time she would be back - and wasn't going to be home within a time she normally would - it was rude of her not to phone. You were probably obviously concerned about her safety and that is why you were upset.
2006-09-20 12:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by someonefromsomewhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the amount of time you should be worried about. You should be concerned with who she was REALLY with and what she was doing until 1:30am. Personally I think as a man you need to keep your woman on a long leash and if they stay out that late it's nice to call and say "hey I'm with a hot guy who's taking me home so I won't come home to you until 1:30am - love you, tee-hee"
2006-09-20 13:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by roshambo76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1:30 is really not that late since she didn't leave until 8:00. if she had stayed out all night, then you could be mad. but you need to let this one go.
2006-09-20 12:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she does this all the time and everyone can use some time out with people who aren't their spouse. Give her a little space and feel free to call up your buddies sometime and just go out with them and you'll see how enjoyable it can be.
As long as neither of you are doing anything that would make the other person suspicious of inapropriate behaviour - you should feel free to go out with co-workers and friends without your spouse once and awhile.
2006-09-20 12:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by ms_know_it_all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was inconsiderate of her not to call home & let you know she'll be late. However, having a few drinks with co - workers isn't a big deal. If you have trust issues with your woman perhaps you should deal with them or things will only get worse. Your not her father to say when she should get home, if you continue to react this way you'll only drive a wedge between the two of you.
2006-09-20 13:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lee Ann M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a adult which entitles her to stay out late but u are her husband and probably was worried or something. so i think u should not be mad but let her know that it bothers you and you would appreciate it if she would call or let u know so u dont worry. make sure u just do it nicely and I'm sure u will get results.
2006-09-20 12:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by darkvamp4542 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there may be some underlying issues in the relationship. I don't think you should be upset but if this bothers you I do believe there should be some dialougue regarding how her actions have upset you and hopefully you two can talk through how you both can resolve this and prevent this from happening again.
2006-09-20 12:39:34 · answer #8 · answered by NICOLE J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1:30 a.m. is nothing. Now if it were 3,4,5,6, YES. Most bars close at 1:30. Let her live a little. Everyone needs time to have fun. She was having fun and probably lost track of time especially if she likes dancing. You knew she was going out.
2006-09-20 13:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by Hasslick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she should have been thoughtful enough to call you so you would not worry about her. I would be upset about that but not about the fact that she came in at 1:30
2006-09-20 12:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋