I've been working crazy hard, and not getting paid much to do it. (I'm hoping to impress for the big raise this week or next.) My wife says she really misses me. What can I do for her that doesn't cost an arm and a leg but says more than the usual flowers, etc?
2006-09-20 06:46:59 · 40 answers · asked by Rainier 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Put aside some time JUST for her, it dosn't have to cost anything, a walk in the park, a backrub. Some times just a conversation about her day, how she feels, not your job. She knows that your doing this for both of you, she just needs to feel like she is as important at your job is.
2006-09-20 06:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by tdybear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband works crazy hard all the time. And once in awhile he'll plan a night without the kids. He'll take me to a movie of my choice and dinner. Or He''l make me dinner and do the dishes. Sometimes all we really need is to know is your mind does think about us. So get her a card that tells her how much you appreciate her, and take her out. But let her choose where. Because believe it or not, the wife needs a break as well. And all we really need is to hear that we're appreciated. Sometimes in all the confusion of our daily lives we start to question if what we do every day really compares to what the men do. I am a stay at home mom and i feel like my job is nothing compared to what my husband does everyday. We appreciate your hard work, and a loving word and recognition can go a long way.
2006-09-20 07:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by purple_roses48 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way would be to award her by giving her an evening off, time permiting. Make dinner for the two of you, clean up the dishes when you're done, and make sure dinner gets put away.
Then/Or, buy some lotion or massage oil and give her a nice back/shoulder/foot/body massage. It's sweet, because it shows that you care for all the work and stress she goes through, plus it's physically rewarding. And, if you end it on a more sensual note, perhaps it will lead to a fun night for the both of you.
Good luck! I hope you get the raise and some more time off with your wife.
2006-09-20 07:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Emerilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a love letter. Tell her what you appreciate about her, why she is so special and dear to you, how lucky you are to be with such an understanding, supportive person, and, yes, as crazy busy as you are, you really miss her too.
If you have any time, there are lots of inexpensive things you can do for her: give her a massage; fill the bathroom with candles and draw a warm bubble bath for her; bring her breakfast in bed (on the weekend).
Don't dismiss the "usual flowers". If you get her her favorite blossoms, it shows that you're thinking of her, not just grabbing the first bunch you see to bring home.
And when you get that raise, find a chunk of time to share the wealth: get away for a weekend or go out to a favorite restaurant.
My husband has to travel A LOT for his work. What I appreciate the most is that when he is here, he IS HERE, he's "present" as "they" say in psychobabble. He's attentive, really listens and shares what has been going on for him (and NOT just or all about WORK). In in these situations, it's the QUALITY not the quantity of the time that's important.
Good luck!
2006-09-20 07:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by pat z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, hope all the hard work gets you the raise. Does she like to dance? Go to a movie, not a horror or guy flick. Is there someplace she's always wanted to go, a restaurant?...would cost probably a little more than nice flowers anyway....My husband and I aren't rich, and he got me one of those diamond circle pendants from walmart jewelry dept.,I have had more compliments on that little necklace than you could imagine...(he told me, so I wouldn't think he spent an arm and a leg, when he needs things too, that it was under a hundred dollars...)...If she likes jewlery, you can't go wrong with something in a little box!!!
2006-09-20 06:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell ya what, bub, flowers mean a lot more to the gals than y'might think. So does a night out, say twice a month. So don't take her to the fanciest restaurant in town, but not Micky-Dee's, either. What, you can't spring fifty bucks for a dinner and a movie or a night out dancing once or twice a month? So cut out the weekly golf game, leave the car go unwashed/waxed for a change, sell the motorcycle and fishing boat 'n don't blow wads of bucks on a bigger HDTV! Man, you can find ways to afford to treat that lady right - 'cause if you don't, I certainly can! And I'd have no compunction whatsoever taking advantage of a neglected housewife! ...Okay, maybe I would, but there's plenty of guys out there who're hot after any "desperate housewives"!!! Y'got a treasure there, bucko; don't lose her to a scoundrel like me drinkin' buddy!
2006-09-20 06:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget the flowers....too many occasions for those already! Do these things....go to the store and pick up some grapes, crackers, cheese, maybe some wine, or champagne...don't forget the glasses, and some napkins, take her on a picnic!
Do this also... make a budget with her and put aside money to
vacation...even short ones are great opportunities to take a break from the reality we live in day to day! Another inexpensive way to spend time together is after dinner take a walk...fresh air and exercise will help any relationship!
2006-09-20 06:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely Romance Her!!
Use sweet simple things... Start with a simple card saying how she makes you feel leading to an all night lovemaking session (does wonders!)... soft music, kisses, hugs and just making her feel special and the center of your undivided attention. Be charming. If you have kids include a date invitation in the card to a back rub on your bed at an hour after your children go to sleep. It gives her something to think about while you make dinner with her... have a sense of humor and flirt with her. Remember how you feel when she does things for you... the way she looks at you... the way she touches you and holds onto you one minute longer than you have to give in the morning. If she misses you it's "quality" time she is missing... let her know that you love her and that you understand the sacrifices she's made to let you do your job... but that tonight you want to give something back to her and that you will do whatever it takes to accomplish this...one kiss at a time.
2006-09-20 08:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by chance_ghost 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the phone, spend some alone time together, or help her finish some couple project she has been wanting to do. Ask her what she would like to do if you had some free time. Make it a theoretical question, then surprise her with it.
Write her a little not telling her how much you appreciate her patience and understanding. Tell her you love her for being such a good sport.
2006-09-20 06:52:04 · answer #9 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh. you are a sweet man to be so sensitive. My husband usually get me flowers and once he made reservations for a weekend at the le meridian. That was really nice.
How about stay in the city (downtown) go to the theatre, see a play or a show and then also go out to a really nice restaruant for dinner?
or make her dinner at home, with a romantic setting, watch a romantic movie or something hot...it might turn her on and maybe you'll make passionate love to her?
How about treat her to a manicure and pedicure?
2006-09-20 06:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋