Why do more MEN than WOMEN forgive a cheating spouse?

Question

Is it because physicality is less important to men?

Answer 1

I'd like to know where you got that "fact." I don't believe it's true.

It's much more insulting for a woman to cheat on a man. Socially, men are expected to be dogs and sleep around. Maybe not expected, but it's certainly not as shocking. When a man sleeps around, society says that it's because he's a pig. When a woman sleeps around, society says that her man must not be very good in bed.

Answer 2

For men it's a ego trip and a double standard. When men cheat on their wives it's always "he's a man and a man is going to mess around regardless" but when it's a woman, she's always labeled as a whore and how could she do that. It's not fair but that is the way it is, if I cheated on my husband he would have a fit and I'd probably wouldn't be answering your question right now. I would forgive my husband one time and one time only. If it happened again, either I'm gone or he's gone. You can kick me in the *** one time believe me you won't do it twice. If you TRULY love your wife, sit down with her and talk to her. See what led her to this guy maybe it was something that you or she could have resolved if you had an open line of communication. When you feel that the other person is cheating, don't be afraid to ask. As for your friend, he's not a sissy, he is a MAN who loves his wife and can find it in his heart to forgive her but don't think for one moment he will forget, because you never do.

Answer 3

The physical act of infidelity is not necessarily the most damaging element. An extra-marital affair is almost always conducted in secrecy. This secrecy particularly once it is discovered, undermines an otherwise healthy marriage The idea of trust, openness, sharing and the belief that you belong to something all will unquestionably be damaged. At this point, the cheater needs to own up to things and the victim needs to be able to express what they are going through openly. Then the issue that led to the affair can be addressed and both parties need to take responsibility for the problems and how they will be fixed. Marriage can survive infidelity and a happy marriage can be restored with patience, sincerity and the effort. Some of the hurdles that will arise are the victim’ inability to get over the deception, the adulterer’s inability to realize what they have done and how wrong it is or a general inability to address and fix the underlying problems. To answer your question, I think that men better address issue described above.

Answer 4

I seriously doubt that information is accurate. And how would anyone go about finding such statistics anyway? I do agree with what has been said already. A man who cheats is not as surprising as a woman who cheats. This makes sense scientifically speaking because men have an unlimited amount of sperm to spread around while women have a set amount of eggs that only decrease in supply during her lifetime. Therefor I can see where men would be more physically driven to sew there seeds.

Answer 5

No, if anything it's the opposite. Men are more bothered by the physical interaction than the emotional one. If my wife fell in love with another man, I would be upset, and I would work to win her back. But what would create a serious crisis for me would be if she actually engaged in sexual activity with him.

However, it takes a long time to heal the emotional wounds of an affair. The physical wounds, not so much. As long as there is still physical interaction going on, men might be more apt to forgive or forget. (Not necessarily both.) I don't know the actual statistics.

Answer 6

I would think it was because sex isn't as emotional to a guy, its definitely a physicality. For women, we usually attach the emotions and all the loving deep comittment feelings with sex. So when a spouse cheats its pure betrayal to us. Betrayal is a hard thing to just go on about.

Did you know that is one of the reasons in the bible that you can be free from a spouse in God's eyes? Adultery Even God knew it was a hurt soo deep that can destroy a marriage.

Answer 7

Maybe there are more stupid men than stupid women....but I though it was the other way around.....its been my experience that women will forgive physical cheating but will get more upset with emotional intimacy of a spouse to someone else. Most guys I know get more upset with physical cheating than emotional intimacy....but I could be wrong.

Answer 8

In my opinion, more WOMEN forgive a cheating spouse.
Men see women as their property and after that property's been "damaged" they don't want it anymore. They beat up the guy, they yell at the woman and then they move on to someone else. They're not going to forgive the woman and just forget it all.

Answer 9

More women forgive a cheating spouse for various reasons.Physicality is more important to men.The Clintons for example.

Answer 10

I think you have it the wrong way. Men are more likely not to forgive their women for cheating. They can't imagine their women being touched by another man.