Marriage & Divorce - 25 August 2006

a) someone who is financially stable, has no family burdens, is a nice person, but isnt affectionate (or when they are affectionate, it just doesnt feel right), looks at the "physical" alot, and doesnt communicate well.

b) someone who is NOT financially stable, has family burdens, dont quite know what they want to do with their life just yet, however, communicates well, very attentive, very affectionate, and loving.

Which one, and why?

2006-08-25 08:57:35 · 15 answers · asked by Kimmie 2

My husband and me had a huge fight 2 days ago. He disrespected me with his words in every possible way he could. Before when something like this happened I always was the one to go to him and forgive him. He left the house yesterday night because I didnt give him any attantion. Before he left I told him that he hurt me very badly/ He send me tax message today but it didnt seem like he felt bad that he hurt me. I want him to understand how I feel, I want him to appoligize and I want to feel that he cares and loves me. What can I do?

2006-08-25 08:48:54 · 32 answers · asked by sophie12780 1

Turns out this is why:After6.5 years together(she 40 me44)has decided she wants kids.We had this talk 5 years ago,decided not to and I believed she was O.K. with it.I like my/our life,we work hard,have little down time, but when we do we spend it together ususlly motorcycling.I am not willing to give up riding ever,no way.I admit I really don't want kids,even so this seems wrong.If you've got time,check this out,tell me what you think.Her reasons for wanting kids are1.someone to always love her2.someone to care for her when she's old3.to fill an indescribable void4.it makes others happy.Never have I heard" To raise a healthy,well balanced,happy and productive kid".Further.there is a history of addiction on both sides of our families(We've been clean many years) and we each have siblings with psychiatric problems. I'm sure you can guess there is much more to it,but I see these as the significant issues....Do you think we/she should have kids?

2006-08-25 08:48:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do women ever consider swinging? It seems like a made up thing by and for men's fantasy. Is that true, or do you wonder about it too?

2006-08-25 08:44:39 · 18 answers · asked by whudda 1

to top it off, she stole all your wedding ideas and now trys to brag to you about her marriage - how do you get past that ??! any words of wisdom, how you can i get over feeling left out and taking everything personal , when she talks about her marriage and constanly refers to her husband as her " my husband" instead of using hes name ?! is she trying to make me feel bad or what ?

2006-08-25 08:40:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-25 08:39:20 · 13 answers · asked by rainfingers 4

My wife and I have been together since she was 16 and I was 17. We have been together for 6 years now and married since Nov 2004. We have a little girl that is 2 now.

I have never cheated once. I love my wife and child and I do everything I can to make them happy and have all the things they want. My wife on the other time has cheated twice that I know of. I had to find out each time.

First time was about three years ago before we were married. She lied and said it happen once and she cried the whole time and after the guy was done he ask what was wrong and she told him all she could think about was me. I later found out she did him 3 times but still claims she cried first and last time ect. This all came out the latest time of her cheating. She cheated about 3 months ago with a guy that claimed to be 18 but turned out to be 15! She blamed it on we was always fighting and she didn't feel loved but I know its bull. She said he was around and made her feel wanted.

2006-08-25 08:29:18 · 29 answers · asked by pws8us 2

I was having a tupperware party and things started to get out of controll. My wife is on her way back home from work. Is it ethical to yell fire even though half of them aren't even clothed?

2006-08-25 08:27:41 · 16 answers · asked by iggwad ™ 5

soon?

2006-08-25 08:24:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-25 08:23:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is a stay at home mom caring for two girls (one is 2 years 8 mo. and the other is 1 year 3 mo.) she is a bit overwhelmed with the girls. With that said, I also want her to take care of keeping the house in order, things like a clean or semi-clean kitchen, and general organization in the house so it does not feel like we are always in the middle of a tornado.

So getting to my question:

Is it fair to ask my wife to keep up the house and care for the kids; while my responsibilities fall outside of the home, like working two jobs, household shopping, maintain the bills, trash, and maintaining the exterior of the house?

2006-08-25 08:21:12 · 22 answers · asked by Paul B 1

My husband and I have been married 4 2yrs.We both were married before & both have children from R previous marriage.My ex-husband is tolerable, his ex-wife is nuts!!!She calls daily, up to 8 times a day & e-mails constantly.We finally had to ask her not to call R house & only call the kids on their cell phones.She is constantly screaming about everything, tries to schedule things 4 the kids on R time, tries to tell us what we can & can't buy 4 them, wants us to pay 4 things & say they're from her, picks the kids up on OUR time when they're spending time with my husband's mother without asking, etc. She's mentally unstable, really, she's seen a therapist atleast 1 X per week 4 the last 10yrs & takes a lot of pills to keep her 1/2 sane.The 13yr old boy wants nothing to do with her,10yr old girl still holding on.They hate spending time with her & her b/f b/c he's so racist they can't sit near anyone of another color!We R going 4 full custody Any sug. 4 ammo against her & sanity til then?

2006-08-25 08:20:15 · 16 answers · asked by henryswrecker_fr 2

she keeps taking me back to court trying to get back custody of the kids.she is a alcoholic,my son just turned 17 and she got him from school and said he moving in with her even though i have custody of him and his sister.

2006-08-25 08:19:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-25 08:15:13 · 20 answers · asked by falzalnz 6

Last week, at a concert, my wife was waiting outside a bathroom for her sister, and a young guy starts working her (she's hot). He asks to check out her cell, and proceeds to call his..so he will have her number. Despite her pleas about being married, much older and a mother of 3, this guy calls & texts her all week. She was flattered at the time, but now she feels harrassed.
Are guys getting this brash out there?

2006-08-25 08:13:50 · 12 answers · asked by hellsbells 2

me and my boyfriend have been together like 4 months but thats just sense we have been back together. we were together for like 3 years then we broke up for a year and 4 months ago, well u get the picture. anyways im 18 and hes 20 and i want to go to college but i want to get married before my nana passes away and im not saying shes like in the hospital or nothing but shes 82. so how long should i wait?

2006-08-25 08:12:52 · 37 answers · asked by ThE GreAtEsT thEr eVer wAs! JaNa 2

Recenty we have been having "issues" keeping the house "clean" so I told my wife to look into having a maid come by twice a week and that bothered her. Rather than taking it as me trying to help she took it as me complaining when I was not..... it was just a suggestion.

We have 2 kids age 4 and 8 months so I totally understand that they can wreck the house quickly and I also understand that my wifes time is spread a little thin lately.

I am also a little anal about things being clean,I cant help that. Before you get all over me just know that I do my fair share of household chores too.

how can I offer her help without it sounding as if I am complaining?

2006-08-25 08:11:35 · 26 answers · asked by RedEye 3

my ex-wife (custodial parent) signed the form for all future years giving me (non-custodial) the exemption until my daughter reaches 18 years of age. She now wants to revoke that form. She is going to take me back to court to get that back. What I've researched she cannot revoke unless I as the non-custodial parent refrain from claiming her. There is no way to revoke per IRS 200007031. Can anybody help?

2006-08-25 08:11:25 · 3 answers · asked by J W 1

2006-08-25 08:10:47 · 13 answers · asked by babybirdmb24 1

Do you have any idea how lucky you are to have someone out there in this crazy world who will always love you and be there for you? Through the best times or the worst you have someone who is honest, sincere, who loves you, and who you can trust.

2006-08-25 08:10:11 · 7 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7

i left my husband because all he did was treat me like i was a nobody and just told me he didnt want to have anything to do with me at all, that he was just sick of me accusing him of cheating, gosh he wouldnt come home til 12, 1, 2am sometimes not at all every single day, he would never answer any of my call, never. Yes, i know is pretty clear but why do i keep calling him why do i keep begging him if he treats me so shiety why do i still hope that things between us will get better? we have 2 girls and its been 3 days since i left, and not even cuz i called him, he asks for the girls. i need to stop calling him, he says i do is call him to accuse him of things, when i just ask him how hes doing, how school is going, just because i said his schools end pretty late10:30pm he started saying there i was thinking he was somewhere instead at school!

2006-08-25 08:08:13 · 13 answers · asked by why 1

My husband of 2 years (together 6) has told me good friend of 20 years (and next door neighbor) that he wants to have sex with her. We party every weekend at her house. I guess he has done this a few times in the past month. She finally told me and he admitted it. He said it's the drinking that made him say that. Do you believe drinking would cause that? I have a hard time believing that excuse. She said he has never touched her or said anything sober. She is also a big flirt (but I am not blaming her). After I confronted him he admitted everything and told me what he said to her (she wouldn't tell me what he said).

2006-08-25 08:04:23 · 55 answers · asked by jill 1

How do you lift yourself up again? In my case, my boyfriend of 3 years rejected me again and again for 7 months until I moved out and he admitted he felt 'too young' for a relationship (he is middle aged). He simply wanted a 'trial' to see if he was ready to settle down but discovered he wasn't. I gave everything up to be with him and now have nothing. We spent a lot of time renovating his house together but now I live in a tiny rented flat which doesn't feel like home. I have work problems and face losing my job soon. Our mutual friends have chosen to keep in contact with him, not me. I find I wish to do nothing but stay in bed, I have fallen way behind with my work, I cannot concentrate and I cannot stop crying. I have no confidence left and I feel worthless. How can I go on like this? I need help.

2006-08-25 08:01:22 · 38 answers · asked by jimbie 4

My husband hasn't giving me a BIG reason to distrust him but it's little things like he works 10.5 hours a day but gets paid for 9.... he said he doesn't get paid for lunch adn breaks. I can see that.
His first day of work he came home i asked him do you work with nice people he said yeah the lady in the office is kinda cute.... I got mad and didn't talk to him for hours.
but just the other day he was giveing our 9 month old son a bath and I saw marks like nail marks on his back so I asked him about it. he said it was from work.
sometime when I call his cell phone it said he is on the phone leave a message
and when it comes time to ckeck his email it has to be done when I am either putting the baby to bed or I am in the bath

2006-08-25 08:01:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my ex who (ex fiancee) used to have multiply myspace accounts..and he has email accounts and different accounts in several instant messenger services. one time i caught him because a girl sent sms on his blackberry...he said he was just tripping on her for his ego or something..not necessarily those words but somewhat that context.
anyway we were together since 2002 and he broke up with me around 10 months ago but we still talk...always. i found out recently he made an awful myspace account asking women to sleep with him. his mom tells me hes just lonely because he is away and all that in a city where he doesnt have any friends. his sister tells me that he loves me.

i didnt "ask" them to tell me those things, its what they think. but personally after seeing that myspace account ...i finally got the slap of reality i thought i wanted (but obviously needed)
if anyone has an advice..please tell me. it was really awful and disconcerting
some people say that its nothing, its just myspace

2006-08-25 07:59:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i would never do something like this but i think him and my best friend of 25 years are sleeping together behind my back. i have been with my husband for 15 years and this is something i need to know! thanks to all for your help!

2006-08-25 07:58:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

how did u meet your significant other....?

2006-08-25 07:56:54 · 13 answers · asked by NYmasonman 1

2006-08-25 07:55:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tell him all the time I love him but all he says is are you sure you love me and no one else. Are you sure you want to be with me for the rest of your life. And i hope you love me as much as you say you do.
I just dont know how to prove to him I love him and no one else. Please if anybody has any answers help me!!

2006-08-25 07:33:55 · 62 answers · asked by frenchiejamie 1

I'm thinking of buying a set to surprise my wife. I think it might be fun. Has anyone ever tried them? Do they make a difference at all?

2006-08-25 07:31:58 · 27 answers · asked by whudda 1