to top it off, she stole all your wedding ideas and now trys to brag to you about her marriage - how do you get past that ??! any words of wisdom, how you can i get over feeling left out and taking everything personal , when she talks about her marriage and constanly refers to her husband as her " my husband" instead of using hes name ?! is she trying to make me feel bad or what ?
2006-08-25 08:40:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, talk to your friend. Tell her how you feel about it, but try to be friendly and not to scream. Just say, "you know, this is funny, I feel so jealous that you're married and I'm not, and also - you're not gonna believe this - it seems to me that you stole my wedding ideas and that you are deliberately making me feel bad about the whole thing." This is exactly what you have to say, because, first of all, it is FUNNY that you're so jealous, because you're really a good friend and you wish her happiness. And it really only SEEMS to you that she's making you feel bad - you know what, she's probably simply so genuinely happy about her marriage, that she cannot resist repeating that to her friend in every possible form. Then, have a laugh together, and then tell her how left out and lonely you feel because of her, and how much you'd like your boyfriend to propose. It's a good thing to discuss such issues with friends.
Then, go talk to your boyfriend. Tell him pretty much the same thing. Tell him that your friend's marriage got you thinking about your own situation. Tell himthat you feel jealous, that you'd like a white dress and a big party - or whatever it is you like about weddings. Don't push him, just discuss those feelings of yours and try to figure out - TOGETHER - why is it that you want a wedding and if you want a wedding or a marriage, and why hasn't he proposed yet and if he intends to do that.
And all the time, keep in mind: this is all in your head. Those are people who love you and care for you and have absolutely no intention of hurting you. They just don't know how you feel if you don;t tell them.
Good luck girl!
2006-08-25 09:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is so bad, don't be friends with her anymore. You should take it as a compliment that she used some of the ideas that you had. That is what friends do is exchange ideas. There is no reason that you can't use them all one day. It sounds more and more like you are bitter and angry because she got married and you are not. You are the one with the problem. She probably doesn't even know how you feel.
2006-08-25 08:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is her husband. Why cant she call him that ?? Lots of women do. Your just extremely jealous and becoming hateful because of it. Your blaming her because he's not proposing. Have you been waiting a long time for him to do it ?? Maybe you need to stop waiting on him and find someone new. In the meantime try to be happy for others and stop being so selfish. I know it sucks to see everybody else getting what you want but what you have to realize is if your not getting what you want you have to change things. That way good things will happen for you too.
2006-08-25 08:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your best to be happy for your friend. Your day will come and you'll get to plan your dream wedding. Learn as much as you can from her wedding so that you don't make some of the mistakes she may make.
2006-08-25 09:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Annie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to let it bother you. Pretend it doesn't in case she is doing it on purpose. I was envy of my friends that got married before me but guess what my wedding turned out better! Just try not to let it get to you. It'll be your turn soon enough & then all eyes will be on you!
Good luck!!
2006-08-25 08:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by beachbum26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one way to look at it is she will also get a divorce before you do! Live your own life and stop with the petty sh^t.
2006-08-25 09:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by cindy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IN LIFE THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMEONE WHO IS PRETTIER,SMARTER,RICHER,ETC.. MOST OF US WILL NEVER HAVE IT ALL SO JUST BE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU HAVE AND LET HER LIVE HER WAY,WHICH WILL PROBABLY END UP NOT ALL THAT HAPPY SINCE SHE IS THE WAY SHE IS. SHE CAN ONLY MAKE YOU FEEL BAD IF YOU LET HER.
2006-08-25 09:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋