Marriage & Divorce - 25 August 2006

Right after we got married the only time we would have sex was in the middle of the night. If I tried to initiate he pushed away.

I tried to talk about it but he never wanted to. I stopped having sex in the middle of the night - I wrongly thought he would want it during the day.

After that I started having an affair (I did not look for it, it just happend) I few months ago I quit that. I could not focus on making a decision about my marriage when I was distracted.

I love my husband - it has never been the butterfly-in-the-stomach kind of love. He is an AWESOME husband - text-book - just no chemistry. Even when we were dating the sex was only sporadic and felt forced.

Help!
I have thought about leaving- then I think I'm not giving it a chance. I dont want to throw away a great thing. I wont be happy without sex - cheating makes me feel more confused. I dont want to have sex with him now - maybe from everything that has happened.

What now? Counseling? Or am I done?

2006-08-25 20:16:49 · 25 answers · asked by Nicky 1

a gal who lets me call her in a suitable time 2 or 3 times in a week , yesterday she told me she only considers me as a friend, a brother. but i confused she told me before, she'll think me at 1st
when she think about marriage.

Dear Sir / Mom, what is her real attitude on me?

2006-08-25 20:08:19 · 4 answers · asked by arisaung 1

she's only 16, marryed, dropped, out of school,and marryed at the age of 15,(with the parents signature) and has 5 kids!!!!!!!!!!
Can I have a lot of help PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-08-25 20:05:10 · 24 answers · asked by alexzandria 2

2006-08-25 19:57:47 · 19 answers · asked by truelover 1

I am tring to get some help the mrs. and I are kinda in a rut with the bed room it is good but I would like to pleace her and she is not in to telling me what she wants can you give me some pointers that will help me give her the ride of her life.

2006-08-25 19:54:43 · 8 answers · asked by sweet al 2

i'm only 16 please mail me some advice at
alexzandriaprefontaine@yahoo.com

2006-08-25 19:48:58 · 101 answers · asked by alexzandria 2

no rude answers please. me and my husband split up recently for alot of reasons. i disrespected him often and what not and was down right rude to him. So i moved out and took the kids with me. He wants me to come home with our children and live in the same house with him so that the kids can have both of us. I love my husband and would do anything for him i was being a b*tch so to speak. and he found i did something a long time ago that makes its worse. but the question is he said when i come home with the kids nothing changes how can you live in a house with your husband wife whatever and not be together? he doesnt have no one else and neither do i. and i know he would never bring a female into our home and i would never do that either. I dont know if this is his way of wanting me to show him i do love and respect him that i am a better person now. but i just need some advice he is still very hurt over alot of things i have done to him. so what do i do?

2006-08-25 19:42:19 · 8 answers · asked by horrible wife 2

And did you let him or told him to get lost. Men usually get this morning erection but more often than not the wife or gf is still sleeping. So what do you do? Do you give in or give your man the brush-off?

2006-08-25 19:41:53 · 14 answers · asked by louie m 2

My parents are going through a lot of divorce issues right now. They've been seperated for 3 years, and barely now they're getting divorced.

In the beginning it was fine, but now it turned into this whole nasty situation. I've always had more trouble at my dad's house then at my mom's, and my mom told the court that, and now we're in the middle of it. We've been in the middle of it since my mom told the court she wanted more money from my dad.

Now my dad is mad at me, so is his girlfriend, and everything is tense. I suffer from panic attacks and this makes everything 10x worse. I cry all day and my dad says he's hurt, and that we backstabbed him or something, because he had also said he wanted us to live with him, but I told him I didn't want to, now he's taking it on us.

We talked to a mediator, and she told us that my dad was passive agressive, but I seriously can't deal with this right now. I'm spending the WEEKEND with him. :[

2006-08-25 19:40:24 · 6 answers · asked by babyloveee92 2

I am so scared to be married. I have been dating a guy since May 2005 and we even went and had a little boy together (on purpose)! In november of 2005 he asked me to marry him and i said yes.
But now all he does is play World of Warcraft and does not give me that much attention anymore. He plays with the baby, but it seems to me that he only wants sex from me. Not to do what we used to while dating. Now i'm thinking this is all i'm going to live for - watching the baby and him playing games.
I'm afraid i've bored him into this! i don't know how but thats how i feel. he knows i have a low selfesteem and do not think much of myself. I just hear so many couples where the girl gets married after having the baby and the guy cheats on her. i'm scared it would happen to me.
I don't know what to do!

2006-08-25 19:23:57 · 22 answers · asked by Kai 2

2006-08-25 19:12:19 · 12 answers · asked by katina m 1

2006-08-25 18:58:46 · 19 answers · asked by ali 1

must be legal, and not using more than 50 english pounds.

2006-08-25 18:57:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

People change marriages like they change their dirty socks these days. Commitment means nothing anymore and it is great sadness. It shows people could care less for values , for their consciences , & to honor the sanctitly of their ordained marriages.No one fells out from love , they fell out from commitment.Marriage is a commitment - bottom line; FOR BETTER OR WORSE . When we marry for our WHOLE lifetime ; we make a commitment to stick by OUR ORDAINED MATE through thick & thin. Commitment has cost. If our mate screws up & makes mistakes, forgive them , work it out & maintain your commitment to your mate & to God. Getting divorce is the chicken's way out of a problem likewise is killing one self is. People do not know how to deal with it so they run from it & they are too busy finding ridiculous excuses to leave their marriage than to finding answers to make it work. ANSWERS TAKES GUTS !!! The bravefulness & gutfulness people in our sick society is the ones who are married until death

2006-08-25 18:56:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-25 18:46:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

and if so, why? lets just say an oppurtunity is knocking . . . .

2006-08-25 18:38:05 · 13 answers · asked by x o 1

2006-08-25 18:37:09 · 9 answers · asked by a j 2

2006-08-25 18:28:31 · 18 answers · asked by a j 2

explain the situation of how it happened and did you feel good or bad about it afterward. I will not judge you. Also, did it get you sexually aroused during or after the beating?

2006-08-25 18:27:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

put yourself in this situation. you've been married for 15 years to the first love of your life. he has never performed oral sex on you. it isn't something he wants to do or seems willing to do. what do you do?

2006-08-25 18:25:18 · 15 answers · asked by x o 1

it seems like i hve lost what ive been fighting for.. and ive been hoping for this..is this a proof that he doenst realyy loveme? nor did he ever loved me? i still love him so much

2006-08-25 18:02:53 · 10 answers · asked by trichomegirl 1

2006-08-25 17:58:13 · 25 answers · asked by deangelis88 3

2006-08-25 17:51:47 · 7 answers · asked by saeed e 1

We have 1 remaining minor child living at home. It appeared as tho we had worked out all the details, and suddenly he states he can't pay me child support... (We looked at his monthly bills.. there is no money left).. we have always had separate accounts/bills.. i give him 1/2 house pmt.. that is it.. he pays rest of bills.. i dont make enough to leave without him paying me support.. but there is no money left.. what other options do i have.. i just can't stay here one more day.

2006-08-25 17:46:48 · 21 answers · asked by kris_mom_of_4_girls 2

2006-08-25 17:39:06 · 8 answers · asked by Lindsay 2

I have been separated for three month married for 11 years. I left for mental abuse and hurtful words and time with my husband . it this natural to still have feel for the guy. he love material things and put there before me . he said I was a wife this was a marriage and he didn't marry to take care of me. we have no communication he never have time to spend with me. he put his furniture in storage go me and the children didn't sit on it. I was tired and move out. he moved around the complex to me in a one bed room not two for his kids with they visit him he is very self. why i wonder. he bought girls cell phone to talk to them so he won't have to conver with me and walkie talkie he gave them in my house. I feel bad because i think about the things he doone to me. and it hurt because it could have been prevented. I known when child support hit him , he he goiing to have a hiss fit. but i have to take care of my children. what advice came you give me to forget him.

2006-08-25 17:37:27 · 8 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1

i guess, this is not really a question, but, an observation of my life in general.everytime my spouse was mad or violent, or hit me, i would mess around, trying to find the "right" guy. hahahaha, what a joke . i just made a mess of my life.

2006-08-25 17:35:01 · 6 answers · asked by ? 2

2006-08-25 17:24:10 · 20 answers · asked by angie 2

my daughter has been in the nicu in a hospital an hour away from home since monday. She was born on sunday, a month early. i have 3 kids at home and have been taking the drive back and forth to the hospital, staying with my baby, then coming home to be here for my other girls. very little sleep, very little money, lots of stress.
today i talked with 2 of the other nicu moms, i felt guilty for the blessings i have, because i dont apreciate them as much as i should...both of these women had thier babys at least 3 months early, one only wieghed 1 lb. 6 oz. they had both had a previouse stillbirth, neither had any other living children, and here i am, getting to take her home any day, with 3 other beuitiful children at home, and i'm completely wraped up in how much stuff is going on in my life. i am so much more fortunate than many others, i think by understanding that no matter how bad things are, someone else is or has suffered more...
what makes you appreciate your blessings more?

2006-08-25 17:20:46 · 18 answers · asked by Rose 3

2006-08-25 17:18:57 · 27 answers · asked by angie 2