Are people who gets divorce are very pathetic & utterly ridiculous for their dumb excuses ?

Question

People change marriages like they change their dirty socks these days. Commitment means nothing anymore and it is great sadness. It shows people could care less for values , for their consciences , & to honor the sanctitly of their ordained marriages.No one fells out from love , they fell out from commitment.Marriage is a commitment - bottom line; FOR BETTER OR WORSE . When we marry for our WHOLE lifetime ; we make a commitment to stick by OUR ORDAINED MATE through thick & thin. Commitment has cost. If our mate screws up & makes mistakes, forgive them , work it out & maintain your commitment to your mate & to God. Getting divorce is the chicken's way out of a problem likewise is killing one self is. People do not know how to deal with it so they run from it & they are too busy finding ridiculous excuses to leave their marriage than to finding answers to make it work. ANSWERS TAKES GUTS !!! The bravefulness & gutfulness people in our sick society is the ones who are married until death

Answer 1

I read your question carefully, and wondered where this was coming from. So, I looked at your Q & A and saw that most of your questions were based on the same theme. How long has it been since he dumped you?
You cannot compare divorce to suicide. Stupid statement.
You cannot judge other people's situations. If a woman is being hit, do you honestly think that she should honor that commitment? If a man is being ignored, should he stick with the person who obviously cares little about him? Abuse comes in many forms, how long should a person tolerate it?
I know that you are hurting, that you are in pain. But, you cannot make blanket judgements about people and situations that you are not familiar with. If you want to talk about your own situation, we all would be happy to help you. I would appreciate it if you would think about what you are saying.

Answer 2

Obviously you have never been married to a controlling or abusive man or a man that cheats. All marriages work like a fairy tale or a dream. It takes strength and courage to get out of a failing marriage. What makes you the authority on divorce? Why stay in a marriage that is failing and be constantly unhappy when the alternative is a better life. Its time you stopped judging other people that you know nothing about. Wake up and smell the coffee.

Answer 3

Wow, you can tell you are hurting by your previous posts. I would give up judging others- as that is not "God's way" either and focus on healing yourself. Life can really be harsh and hurtful sometimes, but please know, you ar not alone in being hurt. Most ppl are hurt, some are too strong willed to admit it. Be easy on yourself and be good to yourself. Let him go....and find some help. If you are Christian consider this:
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Is Any Divorce Acceptable?
In a general sense, God allows only three reasons for the dissolution of a marriage.

The first reason is obvious—death of one of the individuals in the marriage. See Romans chapter 7, verse 2 (Romans 7:2).
The second reason is adultery or immorality on the part of one of the individuals (Matthew 5:31,32 19:9, and so forth).
The third reason appears in First Corinthians 7:12-16. (Note that when Paul wrote “I say, not the Lord” in that passage, he did not say that this was not from God, but rather that Jesus had never addressed this topic Himself.) Here Paul states that “if the unbeliever departs” the Christian is not “under bondage.” The same concept is used again in verse 39 where the clear context of being “under bondage” was that you could not remarry. As a rule of hermeneutics, you allow the author to define the terms by what is stated in other areas of the same document. This is the author’s intended meaning. Thus, a Christian is not bound to their marriage if the unbeliever leaves them.

Answer 4

Have you ever gone through divorce? Obvously not.

I hope divorce never happens to you.

So what is the statistics nowdays? Every fouthr marriage ends in divorce? Something like that. If you're putting yourself above 1/4 of the population you're... immature.

Answer 5

2 yrs ago i would have totally disagreed with you. i left my husband and broke up a home with three kids. he had cheated on me and i on him as well. this had happened many times in the 10 yrs we had been together. and i had had enough of the lying and cheating. but lucky for both of us we got back together. i matured alot as a person after this fight. well lets just say he did it to me again and this time i fought for him. i realized that i love and respect him very much and underneath he is just human. i am trying my hardest to forgive him because i believe in the love honor, and commitments that we have between us. but in no way do i condone a violent relationship and that in my opinion should be one of the very few reason for divorce. but just being bored should not be a good enough reason. you married for a reason and that reason doesn't usually fly away with the wind.

Answer 6

Don't assume that when people make feeble excuses for leaving a marriage that they don't have areal reason.
Many times people don't give the real reason for the divorce . Typically adultery or serial philandering.

It is embarassing even to the victim to mention that there ex was cheating on them. It is safer - considered more refinded to offer an excuse

Answer 7

Well, some of what you said makes sense. Getting a divorce should not be a way out cause well for stupid reasons like, being bored, dont love them anymore, we dont agree with things, i want something more, because thats just being selfish and actually pretty lazy at times. You get married and your vows are very sacred, not to be mest with. Would be nice if people took those words to heart. BUT........i'm one who has had a divorce. My ex left me, so what am I supposed to do. When he left, I didnt want him back. He was very abusive. Not really physically, well he did push me a couple of times, but I mean verbally and controling. He didnt care if my son was in the car, he would tell me to shut up. He was mad at me all the time and no one wanted me to be with him. He has a temper, never hit me, but hit the refrigerator, walls, and when he found out i was pregnant before we even thought about marriage and I wanted to keep the baby, he hit the head board to our bed, dented it and hurt his hand. I know I wasnt the perfect wife, but i never did anything that diserved the way i was treated. I love going to church, and I had to beg for him to go with me. I probably should never have married him, I just wanted to try and was hoping he really loved me. He planned to leave me. We even went to his parents in Washington, we live in california, and spent Christmas their. Things went back and forth for us their but I thought things would get better. January 12, I came home from work, and half of our apartment was gone. He even left me a dear john letter on the back of my sons letter from santa clause!! My son 3 at the time and was pretty upset wondering where all our stuff was. He caused me and my son a lot of grief so when he left I was upset, but not devastated. He had planned the whole thing. Now you tell me, is that the type of person im supposed to love and trust?!? I think not. I am now married to a wonderful man who loves me and my son. I have a step daughter and we now have a 2 year old daughter. I cant believe i allowed someone to belittle and reduce my self esteem as much as he did.

Answer 8

No, but you are pathetic and utterly ridiculous for being a troll on this board.

Answer 9

alot of what you say is very true but what if your mate changes over time into a completely different person like my ex did? the way things are between us right now I truly and honestly can say that its a good thing for her theres alot of miles between us because i would cause her great bodily harm at the very least.

Answer 10

My husband cheated and yes I stayed my husband hit and yes I stayed. Do I condemn everyone else for their choices? No everyone knows the commitment they make when they say their wedding vows!!! You aren't the one to remind them! And to answer anyone elses question: If he did it again I would leave with my kids and everything he owns!!!!