how do you know when your marriage is over?

Answer 1

Having just recently gone through a divorce, after nearly 17 years of marriage I will say that the little things matter.
- When you can't stand the sound of each other's voice
- When critiques become critisms
- When you sleep on your side of the bed and can't stand his touch
- When you spend more time arguing than making love
- When you are entertaining fantasies of leaving
- When you words are harsh instead of soft
- When there is a battle for control
- When you no longer hold hands
- When everything is a battle
- When you can't seem to find a middle ground
- When you forgot why you married each other in the first place
- When there is no room for forgiveness
- When you start to think you would be better off alone

Answer 2

I don't think you really do know until the hammer drops one day and one of you just up and announces it. I've been divorced twice and remarried now for 17 years (not without difficult times) and both times that led to divorce it happened that way. One night after sex, my young wife up and tells me she wants other lovers and I won't let her. She's up and out of there in an hour. My second wife had a power trip going and one afternoon I got fed up with her abuse, packed a bag and left. I got the divorce after a year-and-a-half the first time. My second wife got it that time. I maybe should have seen some signs of it coming, but you know, you think things will work out and you get blindsided. Normally, from what I've read, marriages are over long before they actually end.

Answer 3

When the wide meaning of the word communication is a perfect stranger in the marriage.

Answer 4

In my case it was when I found out he had been dating someone else for 7 months. 24 years together was erased in an instant! I am much better off for having the pride to refuse to take the insult. I remarried to a handsome, wonderful man who is six years younger than me ! We've now been happily together for 10 years. His loss as my new husband says.

Answer 5

I agree with Marlyn but I will add one thing, when he cheats on you after 20 years of marriage and you have always been faithful.

Answer 6

You know your marriage is over when your spouse is no longer your reason for living.

Answer 7

When one person isn't willing to try anything and just doesn't care anymore. As much as the other person might want to make things work, they can't change the other person or make them care. As long as both people are willing to work on the relationship, it has a chance.

Answer 8

When the last thing you want to do at the end of a long hard day is go home. Home becomes welcomed. I feel for your troubles. I wish there was something i could do.

Answer 9

When talking leads to arguments, when counseling doesn't help, when a addiction interferes with day to day activities. Nobody can really tell you when its over. You and your husband are the only ones who can decided this

Answer 10

I agree with Marlyn C too. But would like to add that if you have lost the connection and grown apart it is far better to leave being civil to each other.