My husband and me had a huge fight 2 days ago. He disrespected me with his words in every possible way he could. Before when something like this happened I always was the one to go to him and forgive him. He left the house yesterday night because I didnt give him any attantion. Before he left I told him that he hurt me very badly/ He send me tax message today but it didnt seem like he felt bad that he hurt me. I want him to understand how I feel, I want him to appoligize and I want to feel that he cares and loves me. What can I do?
2006-08-25 08:48:54 · 32 answers · asked by sophie12780 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Communication, you do not have to apologize, but let him know again that he hurt you so bad, and that you feel he owes you an apology. Tell him you miss him, they like hearing that...he will apologize if he loves you and is any kind of man.
2006-08-25 08:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right and maybe he just wants you to beg him as you always do. he must be a *** hole if he treats you so bad and you should not answer him in anyway ,not my cell phone or text messages. Let him dwell on missing you for a while . He will just keep doing you the same way if you take him back easy. Be strong and be a woman , make him be kissing your feet not the other way around. He will then respect you . men are like dogs you have to train him.
2006-08-25 09:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By sending the text message, he is probably trying to judge your reaction. I know it's hard, but if you feel that he needs to come to you and apologize, you're going to have to wait. Another thing is, when people get mad, they say the worst things. 9 times out of 10 they don't mean it, and are just trying to hurt your feelings. It's not right, but that's how it happens at my house. And we go for broke sometimes with the things we say to each other. Just give yourselves a few days to calm down and assess the situation. It'll work out.
2006-08-25 08:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Tamara C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to expect an appology. However, if his text message included the words "I'm Sorry" in any form whatsoever, you need to swallow your pride and forgive him.
Women seem to expect WAY too much from guys in this area. We mess up sometimes, and it takes a man to admit it and apologize. If we do, take it for its face value. Too many times, women want us to grovel and cry before they'll believe we're serious. If you can't take him at his word, its your problem.
Obviously, this does not apply to genuinely abusive situations. If he's hurting you, get away from him and get help.
2006-08-25 08:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is still being disrespectful to you by not recognizing your feelings and by not acknowledging his part in the argument. I will tell you this...Wishing, hoping, crying, yelling, begging, explaining, discussing, debating, ignoring, nagging, butt kissing...none of these will ever change him. In fact, he will be more set in his ways with the passage of time and as he ages. If you both are open to marriage counseling, maybe you have a chance...but he sounds selfish. And, sorry to say it, you sound needy. Codependency is a common reason people stay together. Good luck.
2006-08-25 08:57:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did nothing wrong then stand your ground and let him come to you. Been there and when I was wrong I went to him and when he was wrong and didn't apologize because he didn't understand I wrote him a letter and explained to him how I felt and how we could make it work. You need to compromise. If he disrespects you all the time then you need to find someone who will love you for you and not put you down.
2006-08-25 08:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by marieL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. Take all the money out of your accounts and put them in an account in just your name. Call all your credit card companies and tell them you lost your cards and have them reissue new ones. Then get the best divorce attorney his money can buy. If this has happened more than once, it will happen again and again. Life is too short to waste unhappily.
2006-08-25 09:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by itzmedbd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you two fight a lot. It seems like the fights are pretty bad. Talk to your husband and present the idea of going to counseling. A councilor can help you mediate your disagreements and help you both get what you want.
2006-08-25 08:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by bigchin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the exact themng happend to me over the weekend but i left, now im back and he says i dont give hime enough attention.....what is up with men these days. All i can say is do what is best for you, if you really love you husband then tell him what you want and ask him what he wants, it won't be easy but its a start.
2006-08-25 08:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by Monique G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a REALLY sucky marriage, why in the world did you even marry this guy? All you do is whine and complain about how sucky everything in your marriage is. If I were your husband, I would disrespect you too, because you disrespect yourself.
2006-08-25 08:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋