I tell him all the time I love him but all he says is are you sure you love me and no one else. Are you sure you want to be with me for the rest of your life. And i hope you love me as much as you say you do.
I just dont know how to prove to him I love him and no one else. Please if anybody has any answers help me!!
2006-08-25 07:33:55 · 62 answers · asked by frenchiejamie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's probably not much you can do that you aren't already doing, he seems to have security or trust issues. He will probably need counseling eventually if he wants to deal with it.
2006-08-25 07:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You needn't prove you love him, because love can't be proved. Tell him he's going to need to wait for thirty or forty years to get the proof he wants. Then spend the next thirty or forty years SHOWING you love him. Little things are what proves love. Learn to fix his favorite food "like Mom used to fix it." If he fishes, learn how to fish. If he enjoys sports, learn about football, baseball, or whatever sports he enjoys. Brew coffee to suit HIS taste. Make sure he has a cold coke in the fridge, or a beer on a hot day. Put notes in his lunch. Act like, and consider HIM your best friend. Do these things, and he'll probably be joking about IF you love him, fifty years from now. Good luck.
2006-08-25 08:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your married! I think you proved to him how much you loved him that day! NO one in there right mind would marry someone they didn't love! There's no majical formula that you can say see, HONEY!! if it turns blue, it means I love you. Love is something that you can't see and can only be "proven" so to speak by your actions. He just sounds like a very insecure man. Let him see that you posted this question, because you were really trying to figure out what it was you had to do to show him how much you cared && loved him.
2006-08-25 07:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by lost_carolina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell made you marry this guy?
Where is the trust?
Why is he questioning your integrity?
Something is just not right with this picture...and I suspect there is something going on in your husbands past to make him say those things.
Did you two take any kind of pre-marital counseling or did sex and all those fuzzy feelings lead you two to the alter to say "I Do"???
Listen, sister - best get some family counseling for the both of you, and fast.
If what you are saying is true, he's not being totally honest with you and that means he doesn't trust you and that means your marriage will be over within a few months.
Good luck!
2006-08-25 07:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by docscholl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him he is everything to you, and if words dont say it then the connection in the relationship should. Maybe he has a guilty conscience or he thinks lower of himself thinking he could easily be dumped for a better guy. Im sure he knows you love him, you both are new to the newly wed thing! Happily ever after
2006-08-25 07:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by blackjadedrose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married him and you are still there, that should do it. Honey your man is insecure and it really isn't helping him to feed that monster. Those issues are about HIM not you and it makes him a bottomless pit in that area. You can never do enough to fill him up because the issue is not you or your love its him. If you really want to show how much you love him you will help him realize that he has a problem here and he needs to find a way to solve it or he will eventually drive your marriage right in to a ditch because of it. You have been married for 4 months so you still think its cute...imagine listening to that for 4 years, imagine that you never do anything wrong, never give him any reason to doubt you but he still does...that will just make you feel like he doesn't think much of who you are and honestly (I know you don't believe me) but you WILL get tired of constantly having to reassure him. Its like watching the same movie every single day of your life, no matter how much you like the movie enough is enough and you will get to a point where you never want to see it again. No matter how much you love pizza you don't want to eat pizza every single day this week let alone for the rest of your life. Do both of you a huge favor and help him find a way to fix HIS problem while you do still love him and think its cute. Also be aware that guys that start out doing this are exactly the guys who become abusive later on, they convince themselves you are cheating or doing wrong and don't love them enough, they blame you because you didn't fix whats wrong with them (of course you can't, they have to but they don't get that) and things get way out of control. Issues like this grow with time, they don't shrink unless HE takes the actions necessary to shrink them.
2006-08-25 07:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have been only married for 4 months. If your husband was not sure about how you felt about him, then you should have waited longer.... He should not be questioning your loyalty.. You've already showed him, by marrying him...
If you really want to show him you love him; all you have to do is be yourself. You can also leave him little notes saying you love him, call him from time to timeand tell him you miss him. Make a special candle light dinner (with something he likes). Wear sexy lingerie from time to time and have it on, when he comes home from work....
2006-08-25 07:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by Torres 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You married him didn't you, You prove it everyday by waking up besides him and every other small thing you do each day. If your man expects you to give examples of ways to prove that you love him, he is just playing the I am better than you game.
2006-08-25 07:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg your husband is a total dummy. im sorry! If marriage and being with him 24-7 doesnt prove you are in love with him than he has issues... He needs to tell you why he is asking you these questions? maybe he is cheating on you and he is afraid he will be caught. just in my opinion... Seriously. talk to him and find out.. tell him being married to him and him coming home to u should be enough. go to marriage counseling if thats not helping.. or if you are religious seek a pastor/priest.. good luck hun!
2006-08-25 08:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by natalie_rivera03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband may have some insecurities that may need to be discovered, but if you really want to show him and not tell him how much you love him read "1 Corinthians 13" in the bible, it covers it all.
2006-08-25 07:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Paul B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying a person is longest journey in every body's life. You no need to prove that you love him. Just love him that is key for living happily together till end.
2006-08-25 07:38:28 · answer #11 · answered by sree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋