me and my boyfriend have been together like 4 months but thats just sense we have been back together. we were together for like 3 years then we broke up for a year and 4 months ago, well u get the picture. anyways im 18 and hes 20 and i want to go to college but i want to get married before my nana passes away and im not saying shes like in the hospital or nothing but shes 82. so how long should i wait?
2006-08-25 08:12:52 · 37 answers · asked by ThE GreAtEsT thEr eVer wAs! JaNa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Long enough to know if its what you really want in life. I was 18 when I married the first time. We were both too young and it just didn't work out. I'm 36 now and I've been married to my husband for 3 years and I can say I am happy and he is what I want in life. It took me a really long time to figure out what I wanted. I have been in love seceral times but this one is right. So just make sure that you know what you really want in a man and in life before you decide. If not....we all learn from our mistakes. :)
Good luck.
2006-08-25 08:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very least, wait until you finish college.
Right now you have no idea how much you will grow and change as a person in the next four years. You also have no idea who you may meet.
Don't rush into anything. If you and your boyfriend share true love then it will only grow stronger while you are in college and you'll know for sure that he's the right one.
What you don't want is to end up with a divorce under your belt because you got married for the wrong reasons. And wanting to be married before your Nana dies, while sweet, is the wrong reason.
2006-08-25 08:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should get married whenever u think u r ready to be in a serious and commited relationship. But in my opinion give ur relationship a lil' more time before getting married, i mean live together for sometime and see whether u can handle being around each other all the time. If u rush into things, u might end up divorced. Also u should finish college first and get a good job so that u two are financially secure when u get married.
2006-08-25 08:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18, and in all honesty, I wish I would've waited until I was older. I wasn't old enough to settle down, although I thought I was. I think that ppl shouldn't get married until they are over 23-25 yrs old. Travel, become financially stable and independant, get any partying out of your system and enjoy being single before completely settling down. I'm not saying go out and screw everyone, I just mean enjoy being your own person and everything that comes with it. Your in love,.so whats a cpl more years? I understand your point about wanting someone very special there. Have you thought about maybe having a commitment ceremony or something? Or perhaps you could just get engaged and wait to do the wedding. Whatever you choose to do, it's your decision, just keep in mind that there's no rush, sometimes when we rush, we tend not to think everything through, which results in many problems down the road. Please make sure to discuss everything with your partner, kids, finances, responsibilities, feelings, morals and beliefs. Better to know now rather than after spending thousands on a wedding and then finding out that you're so opposite that there's just no chance.
2006-08-25 10:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r getting married for yourseld and not your nana! Your nana wont be happier seeing you getting married to someone you r not sure is the love of your life! If he/she just wants to see your marriage no matter what that your nana has a problem!
You are a better judge here in deciding if the marriage is right for you guys! Marriage involves a lot of commitment! and especially with workload associated with college and his career now is defiently not the right time for you guys to get married! Probably wait till you finish college atleast! and he gets a Job!
The minimum age should be 22 for women and 24 for men..
2006-08-25 08:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Someday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you want your nana to see you get married, however marriage is a lifetime commitment. I think you should go to college and experience life before you make such a big commitment, and if it is meant to be it will be.
Not to add to the fact that you guys seem like you break up a lot. I can tell by the way you talk that you love and respect you nana. However you have to get married because YOU want to. Your nana will be happy as long as you are happy and confident with your life.
2006-08-25 08:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you are completely ready for it then its time.
My parents got married at 15 and 20, a LONG time ago.
But, it ended in divorce because they jumped onto the idea really fast.
If you feel this is the man you want, and you want to spend the rest of your life with, then yes do it.
Make sure you live together first, make sure you can stand being together. You can still go to college, just don't have any kids yet. Wait for that until both of you are done with your educations.
2006-08-25 08:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 is too young.. Finish College first! Grandma will be so very proud of you for getting your education. There is no reason why your relationship can't continue.
Not to mention, you get all of your college expenses out of the way. You get a good job and together you two will be happy and financially secure when you start you loving life together!
You should wait because it is the right thing to do. It allows you time to build your foundation emotionally, financially and simply rounding our your lives educationally too!
Best wishes, but definitely finish college first.! You two can do it!!
2006-08-25 08:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till Nana is 90
2006-08-25 08:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Steve G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember one of my teachers telling the class one day, "Don't get married until u r aleast 30." I'll never forget it cause i thought man that is a long time. But really it is not. Reading through the other answers, someone else said 30 and I have to agree. You will grow and learn so much about yourself thru your late 20's, that by age 30 you might be smart enough to MAINTAIN a MARRIAGE, not just get married. best wishes!
2006-08-25 09:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by analylical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋