Marriage & Divorce - 11 July 2006

Basically, we have been separated for several months, living apart as I have struggled through all this to make a better life and things between us. Meaning, I have gotten a much better job, given her Money that was due, affection that has been rejected for a long time now, and have been more than fair seeing that we have been apart and or separated. As far as I know and feel in my heart, there is not another man in her life as far as more than friends. Well, the man she is best friends with is gay, I have known him through her for 10 years, but he also lost his boyfriend, maybe I am blinded by my love for her, who knows. Women, how can she truely say she wants me one week, and the next, says sorry, it over. What in the hell is going on. Anyone have advice, tell me.

2006-07-11 16:45:32 · 9 answers · asked by billyboy5529 1

2006-07-11 16:44:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in the middle of a divorce and my ex-wife refuses to sign the divorce papers unless I give her visitation. She claims she has rights to my kids. My story is that she only lived with the kids for six months but when we got married the kids called her mommy. I have full custody of my two kids and I seeked guidence from their biological mother and she agrees with my decision. Additionally my ex-wife lives in a different state and has been in and out of the kids lives for about two years now.

2006-07-11 16:24:58 · 14 answers · asked by YngSSR 1

I spent years with an untrustworthy woman who put me thru every kind of mental abuse you can think of, at times even hitting me in the face or baseball bat in the back if i tried to walk away. One day i'd had enough of hoping it would get better and slapped the #%@* out of her after she had finally pushed me to my limit, and it felt good. But i'd never struck a woman before or since. She actually called the cops who took me to jail without so much as a question. Now I look like the mean abusive ex-husband. If she had a conscience she'd know she was wrong, but I don't think she does.We divorced 8 years ago and it still eats at me. Shes wrong and so is this horrible "justice" system. According to todays definition I'm an abuser, and once an abuser always an abuser so it is said. But I know I'm not, but who beleives me or cares anyway?

2006-07-11 16:20:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I were discussing our fantasies. I didnt want to but she said she promised not to get upset, that it was her fault for asking if i said something she didn't like. So, I told her that I had always thought her sister was hot and would love to use her like a little vvhore while my wife watched. Now my wife is totally pi$$ed at me. I didnt even say that I would actually do it, its just a fantasy. Why do women ask questions like this and then get upset when you answer truthfully?

2006-07-11 16:00:44 · 38 answers · asked by schnewschnew 1

I have told him time after time that I will never do such a thing. But he is very persistant. (that is how he got me, by being so persistant) Should I finally give in and do what he wans. He says he only wants to watch, he would never touch the other female. So what should I do?

2006-07-11 15:59:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-11 15:45:20 · 5 answers · asked by ernie3232 2

Why would anyone want to get married? There is absolutely no reason to get married. It adds nothing but a complicated way to end a relationship. Live together and call each other husband and wife. Does the marriage certificate validate the love you feel? Is the tax-breaks really worth it? Are you so insecure that you MUST own your partner legally?

2006-07-11 15:38:18 · 21 answers · asked by schnewschnew 1

I know all marriages go through ups and downs but this down is caused by me. I am not a very affectionate person and my husband gets upset by that. he knew i was this way b4 we married but he is really bothered by it now. when it comes to sex i am not an initiator and never have been. and alot of times i want nothing to do wih it at all. He gets very upset with me over it. I try too sometimes but i feel comfortable. Another problem I have is that I am very flirtacious. but not towards my hubby. i love him because he is the father of my babies and he helped me when i needed someone. but it is not the same kind of love that a wife should have for her husband. I thought it was when we got married but after a few weeks i knew that wasnt why i married him. I was trying to get out of a way of life that i did not want my daughter raised in.my ex was very abusive and a druggie and never had a job . so i knew once she was born i had to get out of there. so i did. and thats how i got here.

2006-07-11 15:35:07 · 19 answers · asked by ? 2

"Where did we go wrong with him?"

2006-07-11 15:27:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for a few years, and I can honestly say I am not happy anymore. My wife continues to lie to me, do things behind my back, and I am sick of it. This problem has come up before, and it continues. I am at my wits end with it. How do I tell her it's over?

2006-07-11 15:03:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am heading for separation and already it is way too hard .

2006-07-11 15:02:37 · 9 answers · asked by kevman0713 2

2006-07-11 14:57:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

if my husband thinks i am fat and is tring to get me to have a threesome

2006-07-11 14:57:42 · 16 answers · asked by taby 3

2006-07-11 14:53:46 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

my step kids are in a battle with their first step mom and their dad, she was full custdy of them and now she has visitation rights. she said that i am a bad mother and that is not true i have two little ones and all she wants is money. she has put the kids in the middle of it. The first set of papers are dated in april and the second set is dated may and the last set is july. I just want to know if there is a time frame of when they are dated to when they are served. she also had her sister-in-law give them to me.PLEASE respond i need the help

2006-07-11 14:51:54 · 3 answers · asked by Brandy F 1

2006-07-11 14:42:44 · 3 answers · asked by jasanda100 2

I cant seem to get anything right 6 months ago my wife handed me papers that said I had two days to leave so I left I was very angry and it was over my anger and drinking we have 4 children been married 8 years July 25 I never hit her but i was verbally abusive at times. In the last 6 months I have sought counselling have been going to AA and have 60 days straight my temper is gone dont even get mad at work. I have done everything I can thing of to show her how much I love her I helped her move by myself I look after the kids so she can go away i walked 5 miles in a downpour to give her child support money. but whenever I talk about us or my feelings she jumps all over me screaming at me and telling me its always about me and how much I havent changed even sober. but she wont give me a divorce And I wont give up on my family. sometime she gets mad and says it is over other times she says that it isnt. right now she is totally mad at me and im not allowed to talk to her for 3 weeks arg

2006-07-11 14:36:25 · 8 answers · asked by trythis 2

if after you have been married awhile, your spouse develops a condition in which your normal married life doesn't work any more. things like brain damage, paralasis, disibilities. i'm thinking of the terry schivo case and also a woman i worked with had a brain anurism. she lost her memory, ability to walk, etc. she slowly regained some of it and her husband stayed with her, but eventually divorced her due to stress.

so how long would you stay with someone if after an accident, they wasn't the same person you married? are there conditions you would place, like until they get like this __? just wondering what everyone would say.

2006-07-11 14:23:52 · 29 answers · asked by midnightrose 4

2006-07-11 14:16:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-11 14:12:45 · 31 answers · asked by Jim's Lady 4

I haven't been honest about a few things. HOWEVER, no infidelities have been committed. No matter what is said to my husband, he believes that I am an adulterer. He has totally turned around some situations and is making me look and sound awful!! He has even gone so far as to say I'm not a good mother. However, I seem to be the only one that is available to care for our 2 kids. What should I do?? I refuse to grovel and apologize for actions I am not guilty of. I am willing to take responsibility for the stupid mistakes I have made. Keep in mind we have two small children!

2006-07-11 14:10:26 · 22 answers · asked by sickofit 1

2006-07-11 14:00:09 · 7 answers · asked by maniac 4

I’m in love with two men, and it is growing ever impossible to pick which one I should be with. The two of them are great to me, but no one can seem to help me out on this, not even the people that would seem like they have the answers.
The first one is Chris. He has a beautiful kid, who is two, and says that one day when we both are on our feet, that he would like for me to be the mother figure to his child. Sure, that’s what I want, because sometimes I think that living that lifestyle will calm me down from my wildin’ out days. He wants me to be with him for the rest of his life because he says that I am the only girlfriend he has had that has actually treated him good. He treats me like a queen, and gives me everything I want, even though I’m not used to such riches. I’ve always been dirt poor.
On the other hand, there is Chino. Chino and I have dated once before, and all people could say was how right we are for each other. They used to tell me that I was the female version of him. I ****** up on him, but he took me back. We were young then anyway. Chino is poor himself. I didn’t want to be with someone who couldn’t support me, so he went and found himself a small time job with good pay, and he says that he is willing to work forever to keep me. Chino likes everything that I do as far as interests and goals, and we both want to move to the same place in the world because of culture. I’m so into culture and life, but Chris isn’t. Chris is all about being a family man, since he’s already had his fun in his days. The both of them are literally begging for me, and that sucks. I cant make up my mind and its driving me nuts….Please help!

2006-07-11 13:55:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have some money but she is right about being adament about keeping every penny for a vehicle purchase in August. If I dared spend a dime of it the result would be much worse than if I didn't get her anything. Don't get me wrong, she is very cool about things, but sometimes I just think we should be able to take a little money out to recognize certain milestones. Anyway, do you have any suggestions?

2006-07-11 13:53:58 · 24 answers · asked by TryingToLearn 2

2006-07-11 13:48:55 · 28 answers · asked by maniac 4

2006-07-11 13:48:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

you know what i mean... when your partner refuses to tell you the truth about his/her "other life". the one that you already know about, but need to have absolute proof of, for your own sanity.

2006-07-11 13:48:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I divored my husand last fall. New years eve I went to this party and this guy was checking me out and I was checking him out too.We danced all not and morning then got each other #'s we mate for drinks later on that week and then got to getother every night until he had to leave and go back to NY. Yes we had sex also that last night. When we sow each other it was love at first sight. We talked and find out he was my ex-hubsand 1st cousin but they had never mate each outher because he move when he was 6 and my ex was not born yet. He come home again last week and we have been togother everyday and night this time we say how much we love each other and we won't to be togother but we are scraced what other may think. What sould we do???????

2006-07-11 13:36:02 · 8 answers · asked by Wow 1

To me i think if ur in luv then what ever u want to do....do it....it doesn't matter what everone else thinks!

2006-07-11 13:32:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous