I have told him time after time that I will never do such a thing. But he is very persistant. (that is how he got me, by being so persistant) Should I finally give in and do what he wans. He says he only wants to watch, he would never touch the other female. So what should I do?
2006-07-11 15:59:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TELL HIM NO.
T'S YOUR BODY AND YOU HAVE THE CHOICE OF WHAT YOU WILL DO WITH IT. iF HE LOVES YOU HE WILL RESPECT THAT CHOICE AND STOP HAVING HIS INFANTILE TEMPER TANTRUMS.
iF DESPITE MY GOOD ADVICE YOU CHOSE-AGAINST YOUR WISHES- TO DO THIS, WHAT HAPPENS ? ANSWER; YOU LOOSE ALL RESPECT FOR YOURSELF AND WHATEVER RESPECT HE CLAIMS TO HAVE FOR YOU GOES DOWN A COUPLE OF NOTCHES.
NOT A GOOD OUTCOME
2006-07-11 17:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do that , I promise you that your marriage is OVER! All bad things start off as small requests but they never stop there. All the respect you ever got from your husband will be gone forever and you can kiss the last 6 years goodbye. So tell your hubby to keep his fantasies in the shower and leave the respect in the relationship!! Trust me I've been here before
2006-07-11 16:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by deathtrapp1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,not if you don't want to.If you did want to, then that would be a different story.Your husband should not expect you to do something your not comfortable with and if he "makes"you,then you really need to rethink your relationship.And the fact that he wants to"just watch"is his way of getting you to do it.IF he can bug you to the point that you give in,what happens when he bugs you to the point that you give in again,but this time HE gets to be with both of you??Is that really something that you can handle???STOP him before he gets you in a situation that you can't get out of.Tell him if he loves you,then he wouldn't ask you to do something that your completely against.On the other hand,if you are interested in having a 3sum,just make sure that you are ready to handle whatever comes along with it.Once you do it once,then he's going to keep on and on and on.Ever heard that saying...........Give 'em an inch,He'll take a mile??????????Be careful and ONLY do what you want to not what he wants.He is your husband and should respect you enough to let you make up your own mind and then respect your decision!!!Good luck.
2006-07-11 16:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 21:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since that approach got him you that must be the type of person he is so you know he is never going to give up on this. Why can't you give it a try? if it really just turned you off then i can understand but if you could then perhaps you should. at least try it.
2006-07-11 17:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I'd suggest this is an appropriate occasion to cut him off. Tell him he gets the nookie again when he starts acting like a man.
This is also a good occasion to say lets discuss this one with our parents and see what they say?
2006-07-11 16:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen u and i are in the same situation, at first he wanted to see me with an other girl, but now he wants to see me doing it with a guy. i kind of like the idea, but then i think that he might start later reminding me of it and telling me that if i like the other guy or if i want to do it again. or being jealous and we have to end our marriage of 12 years.
2006-07-11 16:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want. Don't let him "force" you to do something you're uncomfortable with just to make him happy. Ask him to have sex with another guy in front of you and see what he says.
2006-07-11 16:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u feel uncomfortable with the situation. DONT DO IT. Marriage is respect for each other. Tell him u dont feel right with his idea and if he insists u can kiss yr six years goodbye and tell hinm 2 go 2 hell.No man is worth it if we women degrade ourselves 2 please them.
2006-07-11 16:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is saying the same thing. he say ed that he want me to play with the other woman while he has sex with me. but he will not touch her. i thought about it but i told him. no i do not feel comfortable with that.
2006-07-11 16:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by taby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋