What does it mean, if you overhear your father talking about you to your mother saying...?

Question

"Where did we go wrong with him?"

Answer 1

Aww hun, dont take it to heart... have you done something wrong that maybe annoyed your dad a bit? it might not even be about you.

And dont listen to the stupid asshole above me!

Chin up, kiddo :)

Answer 2

Did you hear the whole conversation? It must have pretty hard on you. Best thing to do would be to tell your mother you couldn't help but overhear what your father said, tell her her hurtful it was for you to hear it and see what she has to say. Don't get angry when asking, stay calm!

Also remember your parents have their own expectations of you, usually want their children to do better than they did. It could be anything! From school work/jobs/relationships anything at all! So make a point of asking your mother what they expect from you and tell her that overhearing this kind of conversation is not helpful but stressful to you. Don't forget to tell her that you love her as well! She might well talk to your father and smack his wrist!

Answer 3

All parents try do the best they can with the bringing up of their children, its a tough world out there. You have probably done something they have not agreed with and the;y are feeling that they have done something wrong or gone wrong somewhere. Dont take it too hard however as it is not easy being a parent you will find out in due time, and it wont be then until you will understand where they are coming from. Your parents only want the best for you just remember that!

Answer 4

When a parent starts reflecting on where THEY went wrong... it means they are trying to take some responsibility for something you did that seems so out of line with the way they were intending on you being raised or turning out.

How about reflecting on where you are now. What kind of son are you? Are you really straying from the way you know your parents raised you? Is it possible you are rebelling against them? Have you taken on a different set of morals and values that are completely opposite from what you know they believe? Are you setting your goals below what you know you are capable of due to fears?

When a parent searches this question.... they are really hurting. Nothing hurts more than to think "we must have missed something, we should have done so and so and he would have turned out a more productive, capable, stable, upstanding adult." Sometimes the fault does belong on the parents shoulders..sometimes it doesnt.

Try to reflect and see if there is a way you can help ease their burdened hearts.

Answer 5

Hey. Listen up. I am 53 and have the BEST two kids in the entire world. My son is 22 and my daughter is 18. They are the GREATEST. They are also my best friends. And guess what? My wife and I have had that same conversation about BOTH of them. We have asked each other, where did we go wrong with that kid? Nobody is perfect! Parents always question each other and ask the other one if they can see something that either one of them did while they were growing up to cause the human faults of their kids. It doesn't mean a thing! Don't worry. Chill out. Unless you know you are a total ****-up, just forget about it. You'll be fine.

Answer 6

Firtst it means that you shouldn't be eavesdropping. Second that you're going to get busted for something 'bad' you have done pretty soon.
Time to come up with excuses for all the bad things you have done in the past 6 months, to be sure of course.

On the other hand, parents have assumptions and can be rather narrow minded. Don't sweat it, and when they do come to you with 'whatever' it is, be honest. That's all.

Answer 7

That must have hurt so much, I think you should speak with your father or mother, it could be something innocent. Maybe you annoyed him about something, who knows but you wont be able to put it behind you untill you find out for yourself. I am sure your father will be devastated when he finds out you overheard and would prefer you told him. Good luck xx

Answer 8

Nothing dont take it so personally.. he could very well of just been joking, or ur doing something that he feels is so out of character that he's asking himself if he could of done something better to of gotten u to make the right choices.. i think most parents at one time or another doubt themselves as parents, or their children do something so nutty that u have to ask yourself what u did wrong.. dont take it personally.. :)

Answer 9

Obviously, you have done something that your parents aren't proud of. Maybe a report card, maybe something like friends. Whatever it is, then you have to think about it and figure it out. Chances are it's just a minor thing, however, if you know that you have done something that would upset them, be honest with yourself.

Answer 10

It means they feel something you done has disappointed them. You have done something they disapprove of.

I would just simply ask them what it is you have done that they are disappointed in you for. If you don't already know what it is
Best wishes to you and remember parents are hard on themselves when a child does something they feel is wrong :) But we as parents will always love our kids just sometimes we don't like the choices they make and it upset us :)

Answer 11

It means your father is insensitive. It is perhaps very hurtful to you. Allow yourself to feel bad, but dont dwell on it, as this will only hurt you, not him. By the way, because he's your father after all, I didn't want to call him a jerk.