My wife is upset?

Question

My wife and I were discussing our fantasies. I didnt want to but she said she promised not to get upset, that it was her fault for asking if i said something she didn't like. So, I told her that I had always thought her sister was hot and would love to use her like a little vvhore while my wife watched. Now my wife is totally pi$$ed at me. I didnt even say that I would actually do it, its just a fantasy. Why do women ask questions like this and then get upset when you answer truthfully?

Answer 1

Because she expected an answer that was do able.Not the fact that you fantasise about her SISTER!!!!She wants to be the one to fufill your fanasies and now that you said it was her sister,well, that will be FOREVER in her mind and she will always worry and be jealous.Not very smart on your part.If you HAD to pick something, you should have tried something like"you are my fantasy".Or IF you HAD to pick someone,pick a movie star or someone she dosen't have to worry about you actually being in the same room with.C'mon.You were asking for the couch tonight!!Make it up to her NOW!Tell her you were just joking because you wanted to see how she'd take it.Then,try the "you are my fanatasy"line.IF she asks about a woman,pick a movie star.Go ahead and tell a little white lie,to keep from messing up your marriage.

Answer 2

if she would have asked u "do i look fat in this dress , i promise i wont get mad" would u have said yes or no?
even if she looked like the good year blimp. when she asked u something like again START SMALL...like seeing her walk around the house will only a flower between her teeth (what ever) then work up to the BIG ONE but u probably should omit family members for u fantasy's. most or the time women do tend to get emotional we don't all start out that way and really mean it when we said it. u said u never said u would actually do it but it was so on u mind it was the first the u blurted out right. this is not saying that we women are smarter BUT i have heard that us lady's use more of our senses (including) brains then men so we technically see things n a whole different way. I mean come on if she had said to u the same about u brother or any male family member..good luck watch out

Answer 3

I think most of the time? We want your fantasy to be about us. This is her sister we are talking about. She is now wondering (probably) if everytime you see her sister you are wanting to use her like your little whore. Holidays, family get togethers, the works. And then? What if your sister-in-law suddenly made a move on you? OMG would you do it?
I am sure this is all going through her head. And? It is always terrible for a woman to ask that question and then throw a fit. Tacky. What was her fantasy that she revealed to you? Did it make you angry or were you like oh okay? I would sit down and discuss this with her and see what her reasoning is behind this. Take a stand and mention this is your marriage you are talking about and you want to have MUTUAL trust and communication. If she wants you to feel comfortable talking to her about stuff then she has to be open to what you may or may not say.
And maybe next time? Pick someone OTHER than her sibling...:)

Answer 4

You haven't been married for very long have you. It is questions like this that are a set up they don't want to hear the truth, because if they say they wont get upset you had better say nothing about it or if you are good enough to answer the question without really answering it. Some other questions to watch out for: Do I look fat? Which outfit do you like? There are many others you may have to find them yourself, but they all will end with come on and tell me I won't get mad or up set

Answer 5

Well your not supposed to really tell her the truth, your supposed to extend the the truth so she won't feel bad. In fantasies, don't ever include her sisters or even any of her friends, because when you are around any of them she will not trust you. and she'll probably get mad if you say anything like, lets go visit your sister or something. Just apoloigize to her and let her know that you love her and only her. Something like, "you are the one I love and wanted to marry", even maybe, "I didn't really like the question so I gave you an answer that you wouldn't like so we didn't have talk about that subject but I didn't think you would take it all out of proportion or I didn't think that it was going to hurt you, I'm really very sory". or even "Your way more sexy and beautiful than your sister I would never really do something like that to you, I would never want to hurt you or your feelings I love you and I could never think of hurting you,or " that was a dumb question and it was a dumb answer." Tell her you love her plenty of times over and over again. Tell her your sorry over and over again. Hopefully this will work.

Answer 6

Are you insane? Even if that is your fantasy, you absolutely do not say that to your wife! Would you want your wife to tell you that she wanted your brother to f**k every hole in her body as many times as he wanted?

Women may ask and tell you that they're DYING to hear the truth, but they DON'T. What she wanted to hear was a fantasy that starred HER. Not only did you bring her sister into and use the word whore, you've got your wife as a spectator. Did you actually think that she would just let that slide? Good luck trying to calm her down.

Answer 7

Okay buddy What were you thinking? How long have you and your wife been together? I f you don't know by now that when a woman says she will not get upset about something you say, that it actually means you better not say anything to piss her off then your screwed! Anyway sorry you should apologize to her tell her that it would never happen in real life no matter if her sister walked up to you and begged you!

Answer 8

I know you were only trying to be honest, and it was your wife who asked but COME ON...HER SISTER????? That was probably the last thing she expected. Plus, now she probably can't look at her sister the same way for a while. If my fiance said that about my sister, or anyone in my family for that matter I would be PISSED. Women do appreciate honesty, but sometimes you have to remember to be a little sensitive. What if she said she wanted your father or brother to bang her? EWWWwwww....I'm sure she'll get over it once the nasty thoughts has cleared her brain!

Answer 9

You ll be gettin a divorce soon.
That was the worse thing to say, you should have replaced the sister in the fantasy with someone else at least. Believe me she'll be looking at her sister funny for a long time and I have a sister so I know

Answer 10

You probably shouldnt have said that it was her sister you fantasized about. Now every family function she is going to be suspicious of you flirting or watching the sister. Sometimes you need to bend the truth a little.. you could have told the same fantasy but put another woman in it. Would you want her fantasizing about your brother?