I have been married for a few years, and I can honestly say I am not happy anymore. My wife continues to lie to me, do things behind my back, and I am sick of it. This problem has come up before, and it continues. I am at my wits end with it. How do I tell her it's over?
2006-07-11 15:03:12 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't be so easy to call it quits..Tell her you can't take any more something has got to give....If she is not willing to make changes and you as well then may as well get it started one or the other needs to move out..
2006-07-11 15:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can lie to a person, and maybe gain their trust back once. After a lot of proving your love, and proving your changes. Although, if you keep on lying and betraying the one you love, then it just no longer works. She can not expect you to keep forgiving her. You have no room left to forgive. It's already going to take a long time for you to trust some one else.
The sad thing is, if she ever does learn to change. It will take something really big, like you leaving. Then she may give her trust and respect to another. Just remember you teach people how to treat you, by what you let them get away with. You are doing the right thing by getting out. I couldn't even consider my husband a true companion if he continuously betrayed me. Everyone deserves respect. You don't even owe her an explanation. If she can't figure out why you are through, than she needs some counseling. Tell her you you can't trust her, she knows why. You don't expect to ever be able to trust her in the future, so this has to end. Good luck hun...:)
2006-07-11 15:21:18 · answer #2 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My x-brother-in-law threw a big 25 year anniversary for my sister at their house with everyone they knew. When all the guests left and she was in a very good mood he served her divorce papers.
It was cruel and crushed my sister who was the faithful party. She walked away from everything wanting nothing to do with what they had in common.
Two years later she married her best friend from high school after returning home and they have been extremely happily married for 6 years now.
Expect the worst when you tell. Stand close to the door so you can make a quick exit. Take everything out that you want (of yours) before you drop the bomb. Then go and don't turn back.
If there are children involved forget everything I said and reconsider.
2006-07-11 15:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by BP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this with my husband a year or so back . Personally, I found the best way was to sit down and talk about it. Just tell her that you can't handle the way she treats you any longer and you refuse to put up with it. If you don't love her anylonger tell her that. She needs to know. Be nice about it though you don't want things to get ugly. Let her know exactly how you feel and tell her you think it is in both of your best interest that you get a divorce and go your seperate ways.
Good luck I hope evewrything works out for you.
2006-07-11 15:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her that you know things have not changed I am no longer in love with you and we need to separate. I fell if you keep it honest and to the point , not alot of blaming a finger pointing it will go much better. You might be surprised for she might want the same thing. Then there is always the letter approach and you give it time to sink in that way if you fear she will fly off the handle because people can't argue with a letter. Best of luck there is no easy way.
2006-07-11 15:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife that you're not happy and you can't live like this anymore. If this has happened before it won't get better. Tell her the only thing that can happen is to make a break of it and maybe you both can find happiness.
2006-07-11 15:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you tell her you are going to divorce her make a list. List of assets, a list of bank accounts and her social security number. Then contact an attorney. Give him this information and then get papers together and then give them to her and let her know why you are filing for divorce. If she says she wants to work on it, give her the chance, but make marriage counseling the condition of working on it. Good luck.
2006-07-11 15:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT TELL HER ITS OVER. . .
Get lawyered up first, it is very important to your financial security.
It may feel heartless at first but if she has continued to lied to you about small things in the past she cannot ever be trusted in the future.
Don't tell her its over let the lawyer and the paperwork tell her, after you've found a place to live, of course.
2006-07-11 16:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by African-American Thug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. My advice is to get your personal and financial business in order very, very quietly before you decide to move on. Make sure that you have enough money to get a place to live (if needed) and to cover any legal costs. This might mean for you to live with her for a few months in order to get your business in order. Trust me, once the woman knows and accepts the undeniable fact that you want out, GET READY FOR THE STORM.
2006-07-11 15:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by MrG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want to have anal sex with her best friend, how much her mother resembles an elephant, how her father has a brain the size of a lizards, and how her cootch smells like wet, week old garbage. Then tell her you want a divorce, and duck (frying pans to the head really hurt. lol).
2006-07-11 15:28:04 · answer #10 · answered by schnewschnew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋