Family - March 2007

Please, I need some help DESPERATELY. DCF is investigating me beacuse my mother made false accusations against me about abusing illegal methadone and smoking pot...We had a big blow out fight, because she let my brother who is 2& a half yrs. older than me move back in with her after his 11 yr. crack habit. He refuses to get clean and he burnt to complete ashes all of the bridges he had. He dosen't want any help and has had 66 convictions as far as the law. He molested me when I was a young girl for yrs, and currently he will do ANYTHING for his crack..He has numerous "Suger daddies" and they are all MEN.I could go on forever talking about his exploits. And I really am trying to make this as short as possible, If you want to know more and are willing to help me then I can tell you some crazy stories..But the bottom line is my mother let him move in after numerous times of saying"He belongs in jail."and"He is dead to me." She told him on the phone, when he tried to call for money to forget about her.. and for years she knows what a crazy person he is..hes 30 now and just got back out of jail 3 months ago and was smokin the first night. Then started burglurizing houses for $ for drugs. He dosent care. And I try to tell her that but she fell for it when he told her he was clean and had nowhere else to go. She let him come there(knowing er and I were close. I dont understand how she can do that to her grandson. Well, we got into a fight and my brother punched me in the face. So I called the police and my mother tried to protect HIM, and accused me of abusing illegal drugs, So they came to my home and seen it was ok and there were no problems there, but he called me back today and said he wants to wrap this up but he needs me to take a drug test..I went numb..I do smoke pot sometimes, Im not gonna lie, and I do take methadone , but its PRESCRIBED. I was in a bad accident. I have never used heroin in my life, but thats what people associate it with. but I had no choice ...I took the test. And I would just like to know if ANYONE has been through anything like this. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE..If you just want to respond to say hurtful things..PLEASE dont..I dont think I can handle that right now. OK..HERES THE WORST PART...Sunday morning around 5am I smoked a joint my cousin because it was her birthday. After we lit the joint she tells me it's her b-day joint and she laced it with coke. I had already taken a big ol' toke. So im definetly worried about that too, I cant believe my own mom did this to me. She was my best friend, I dont get it and I feel like Im loosing my mind.PLEASE HELP!

2007-03-21 16:40:45 · 3 answers · asked by Sexykel 1

when he got married to my aunt, he must've thought that it was an excuse to treat me like crap! My dad said that he talked to him and that he wouldnt bother me anymore. Now it is really awkward at their house and I still think of him like that. How can I deal with it???

2007-03-21 16:33:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been seening this blue van for a past couple of days now. It looks old and ragy, mainly duigsuting.
At first, i saw the van near my house or by my neighbor's house, then at the dowtown mall when we were just leaving, the car was leaving too and was at the same place as us, then i saw the van at the beach and then face to face at my dad's car, he was parked right smacked in front of my dad's car and there was another person there too. I know they were two males.

Im kinda worried and i know this is the same car because i looked at the lincense plate every time i got the chance. its the same.
Yesterday, the car was parked by my dad's car and i was kinda stalking them back for a few minutes to see what they were doin and they were staring at my house and then after awhile, i called my dad and he went outside and told them to leave now. They didnt say anything and just drove away.
I dont know what they were doing, like drugs or just talking us ro whatever.

2007-03-21 16:33:09 · 8 answers · asked by Nobody 1

We live at my MIL's house.. it's a temporary situation, but she and I had a great relationship during my pregnancy... then when the baby was born she changed towards me completely.. mainly what's bothering me right now is that in front of me she will only get close to him for a few seconds.. but every oportunity she gets she takes him to her room and away from me.. it just makes me feel like she doesn't like to be around him when I'm near.. and it bugs me like crazy.. Why can't she just be normal like everyone else and just stick around with everyone and play with him in front of me... I love seeing my FIL play with him.. it's not like I'd be mean about her doing the same! she's also made comments, she'll talk to him and say.. "they haven't let me see you today" or "they keep you from me" Am I wrong to be bothered by this??

2007-03-21 16:30:46 · 8 answers · asked by CSS 2

I have $360 lying in my wallet saved up for a year and all my parents do is borrow it! My parents never let me spend ANY of my money and I have 1000s of thing I wanna buy! What should I tell them?

2007-03-21 16:26:53 · 8 answers · asked by Cole 2

when my son was born. The hospital did not required that the father was present to sign the birth certificate so i use the father last name in the certificate. His father never help me with anything, when he was 1yr old i meet this guy and i have be with him for 10yrs now and he and i will like my son to have his last name, just like my other 2 children. please help me this is now creating problems between my sons.

2007-03-21 16:20:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-21 16:19:56 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

in my family, i am the one that never gets attention because of my truble makeing sister, can you tell me some ways to get some attention in my family without getting into trouble?

2007-03-21 16:17:28 · 11 answers · asked by omgukilledkennyn 1

I have a complicated situation..My grandparent and I have had a falling out due to my father and I not having a relationship..I had not spoken to my grandparents in almost a year until recently around Christmas time..I have not seen them in over a year and I am going to be by their house on friday for a job interview..I was thinking of calling them to see if I could stop by for a visit..I'm nervous to call as to what they might say since I have not spoken with them since Christmas.I was not the one who chose to not see them or speak to them and when i did talk to them they seemed happy to hear from me. The only thing is that I asked them if we could get together and they said they would get back to me and have not..So I'm wondering is it a good idea to call and ask or just not even bother?

2007-03-21 16:14:39 · 11 answers · asked by Colie 2

Now i feel bad.....should i call her and tell her before its too late....what if it already is?????????????

2007-03-21 16:13:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Almost a year ago my father passed away and my mom has been living alone. She is very depressed. I have tried to help, I have let her come stay with me periodically and have spent many weekends with her. I also went on a vacation with her for 2 weeks. I had some difficulity with my mom wanting to spend a lot of time with me and being very co-dependent (she was always like that), so I had to put the brakes on and spend less time with her. My mom has become angry about this and needs someone in her life, but doesn't want to reach out to others and be friendly, she only trusts family. To compound the issue, she also found out my brother is gay during this year and will not have anything to do with him anymore, so all the pressure is on me. Recently my mom has started leaving mean and angry messages on my voicemail and it giving me ultimatums...that I need to spend time with her, or tell her that I don't want her in my life. She wants to have a dramatic confrontation, help me please!

2007-03-21 16:12:50 · 5 answers · asked by What_A_Gass 1

my mom is an OCD neat freak who doesn't even let me say the word suck. im not allowed to go on the computer or watch TV during the weekdays but i do anyway. im also not allowed to wear eyeliner because according to my mom i put too much on during homecoming (according to her i had the most on) when 2 of my other friends had tons more than me so she revoked my eyeliner privildge. my dad's job keeps him out of the house monday through thursday but he still be a jerk. he gets stupid ideas in his head that my guys friends would rape me and both of my parents hardly let me go out with friends. i usually have to change what actually goes on at my friends parties just so i can go if they let me. im hardly allowed to see friends after school. they still think im an innocent child who doesn't know anything about the birds and the bees when in reality i know more than most of my friends. im almost 16 and i want this treatment to stop. what should i do?

2007-03-21 15:59:56 · 16 answers · asked by brubabe 5

Hi,
last year I was a great student. I siduied hard. GOt straight A's. In fact I studied all the time except for 1-2 hrs a day when I ate and worked out. THis year, I still am a great student. School gets harder so I still have straight A's on my report card but I get a B on a test once in a while, but I maintain straight A's on the report card. THis year, I got involved in other things. Such as student activities and music (I play concerts). My parents were always really proud of me. But lately it feels like they hate me. I am ALWAYS getting yelled at. I dont understand why. It seems that everything I do, my mom always blames it on the music. If I study late into the night because I have many tests and am tired...its because of the music I play. If I happen to be forgetful...its bacuas eo fthe music I play. Also my hair is a tad bitlong. So my mom keeps saying..."your eyes look so small with that hair, you used to be a good kid, now we, your parents are scared of you" I dont understa

2007-03-21 15:54:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Yesterday I asked a question about my daughter's birthday coming up and I do not know how to find out where the responces are. You see this is my first time on yahoo answers, or belonging to a group, so if I seem a little unsure, please forgive me just give me the chance to figure it all out. My daughter will be sweet 16. from janie.

2007-03-21 15:40:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok here is sum backstory. my friend jayson & me spent all sumer at a church car wash to maek some money. we ecah made like 85% and wanted to buy some new cleoths 4 school.

fast forward 2 this week, we r at teh store and looking 4 clothes 2 buy, when jayson is all liek "dude if we put our money 2gether we can get that set of walkie" talkis. im like "dude we deceded to get the clothes its 2 late to change ur mind.

but then i thougt about it and walkies talkis sound REALY fun so we bougt them from a shraper image.

but hear is my question-- they BROAM like 2 days after we bogt them! tere is no warnty (we checked the packgign and instruction and stuff). so what can we do? the store said "all sales are final" but is that realy it? we spent ALL our sumer money on these and they are broken.

who else HAETS a shraper image!!!

2007-03-21 15:38:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a bunch of friends who go out drinking every weekend (we're all freshman in high school). So far they've respected me because I don't want to drink, and it's cool when we hang out, but my parents know about my friend. I have a good relationship with my parents, but I can see their trust in me starting to slip. Should I hang out with these guys because they're great, the only bad thing about them is they drink, at the risk of my parents trust, or still hang out with them keeping my values hoping that they'll just trust that they did a good job raising me?

2007-03-21 15:37:24 · 14 answers · asked by bbal40 3

My ex is locked up because of what he did. He says that regret doing what he did. I have da power in my hand. It is all up to me. I want to move on with my life without him. I don't think he would like it if I just come right out and tell him that. I haven't talk to him in a while.He had someone come around my house to see if I was okay. I was worried because he hasn't heard from me.
I have a week to decide what I really want to do cause court is next week.

But to top it off we have a child together.

What should I do? I want to live peaceful but I want my child to know their father. I need some good advice Please help me.

2007-03-21 15:28:13 · 4 answers · asked by Tel 1

My mom had a heart attack almost a month ago, and she went and saw her doctor today and now she thinks she doesnt even have a year left to live.. The doctor did not say that.. How can I get her to stop thinking that

2007-03-21 15:18:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well iam glad i live in this century now
because in the future some smart guy makes a high-tec killing robot and builds more robots which will probably take over the world and kill people with their weapons. And when the world is about to end i will make fun of my great great great great great great great great great great great grand children for living when the world is about to end. MUHAHAHA :]
Oh and they need more cooler cellphones.

2007-03-21 15:04:39 · 4 answers · asked by Thrills 5

Back in Thanksgiving, I had a fairly major disagreement with my mother in law. Well, it is March and for some reason, I cannot let it go. It is very unlike me to hold on to stuff this long. In fact, it is the only time, especially over something like this (how I raise my daughter--important, and I did have a right to be angry initially, but it is NOT worth 4+ months of anger. I honestly have no idea what my problem is). I need some tips on how you have gotten past issues and forgiven people in the past. I need to forgive because my mother in law is the way she is because of extreme bitterness and anger and I do NOT want to be like her. Usually, I am a VERY forgiving person and that is one of the reasons my husband married me. But for some reason, I just cannot let this go, and yes, I have tried to talk to her about it but she cut me off (along with her other daughter in law). Help! :)

2007-03-21 14:57:52 · 8 answers · asked by mountain_laurel1183 5

My mom is a person who gets mad for the sake of being mad. I have a real hard tim talking to her about anything. includung girl stuff. the only time i ever really talk to her is at night and she gets mad at me and thinks that i am just trying to get out of going to bed. How can i start talking to her without worrying that she'll get mad at me agian.

2007-03-21 14:51:37 · 8 answers · asked by Nameless 2

Say for instance your mother or father came down with a sudden unexpected illness and they died right now would you have any regrets about not doing or saying anything beforehand.

Far too many people dont think of these things and perhaps they had trials and tribulations in the past and never quite could bring yourself to forgive or even just hear their side of the story. So would anybody have any regrests if any of their parents died suddenly.

2007-03-21 14:51:26 · 29 answers · asked by Real Deal 1

Ok, on friday the boys and girls club is going skating. My mom was like,"I don't know" and my dad doesn't care so how do I convince my mom to let me go. The only reason when why she says she doesn't know was because it is from 6:00-9:00 and I'm 13 almost 14 I don't understand what there is to think about, well please let me know wut u think, bye.

2007-03-21 14:49:50 · 8 answers · asked by tweetybird81993 1

2007-03-21 14:46:16 · 18 answers · asked by kiwi 1

when my dad saw the cuts on my arm he said that if he sees anymore he'd take me to a shrink. the a few days later i got bored in class and started erasing on my arm and hand. when he saw that he said if he sees amymore wounds on my skin he's gonna take me to a shrink. he does the same thing when it comes to my lava lamp. i'll leave it on at night and all day and he said if he sees it on again when im not in my room then he'll take it away. he's already said that about 3 or 4 times. should i keep pushing my luck?i just want to see if he'll really do what he says he will, i dont think he will. also he should know that even if he does take me to a psychologist im not gonna talk at all (at least he would if he was ever home long enough to know more about me than my name). so should i?

2007-03-21 14:43:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

but they caused alot of drama i mean serous stuff so they can play the victms and i cant let them be part of the family they need to be by them selves. will my question is how do i help my other aunt not there mother to wake up and stop making exuses for them and defending what theve done? like all the guys in the family are molesteres and it sickens me. i k now there always be my cousins but i dont have to put up with it they need to be by them self.

2007-03-21 14:26:10 · 3 answers · asked by dvcgurl 7

I hate my Parents
I DONT WANNA COME HOME 2MOROW AFTER SCHOOL
I HOPE I DONT EVER SEE EM AGAIN
THEY ALWAYS MAKE ME FEEL INSECURE BOUT HOW I LOOK AND HOW DUMB I AM IM TIRED OF THAT AND THE COUNCOLOR WONT EVEN F%^&* BELEIVE ME CUZ MA MOM IS LYING TO THE HER
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
AND THEY ALWAYS YELL AT ME EVEN IF ITS NOT MY FOULT!!!

2007-03-21 14:19:31 · 6 answers · asked by Caroline E 1

2007-03-21 14:18:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I overheard my cousin on the bus showing his friends his chewing tobacco. he saw that I overheard and thought that I would tell his mom. I'm not sure if I should. If I do he will try to make my life a living hell. He is 15 so im pretty sure it is illegal in washington state.

2007-03-21 14:18:02 · 25 answers · asked by Blondi 1

One brother here.

2007-03-21 14:09:33 · 42 answers · asked by Bre-Bre 1