My mom is a person who gets mad for the sake of being mad. I have a real hard tim talking to her about anything. includung girl stuff. the only time i ever really talk to her is at night and she gets mad at me and thinks that i am just trying to get out of going to bed. How can i start talking to her without worrying that she'll get mad at me agian.
2007-03-21 14:51:37 · 8 answers · asked by Nameless 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And I am an Only child with no older sister or anything
2007-03-21 14:52:08 · update #1
Ok Ok...my mom does not have mental problems. She was raised in an envirment with no dad around and she had to take care of her brothers and sisters. She loves me very much. She jsut get really mad when she wants to. She doesn't try to direct it at me but she does anyway.
2007-03-21 15:06:12 · update #2
You might try telling her that you're worried about her because she seems unhappy lately and you'd like to help her, maybe by taking on an extra chore around the house or helping with dinner, etc. If you think she'll get mad at you for talking in the evening, make her a card (don't buy one) and write her a little note, mentioning your concern. Make sure you get to bed on time and she'll have no reason to be mad at you for that.
If she's getting mad "for the sake of being mad", she probably really is unhappy about something. She may not want to discuss it with you, but it will probably reassure her some to know you are being sympathetic and supportive (even though this isn't your job, at your age, it's nice of you to care and be supportive). Sometimes even Moms feel like vulnerable teenage girls inside. They don't know how to deal with some things in life or they want things they can't have or afford or they have been hurt by a guy... you know, the usual stuff.
You can try to draw her out to talk more by asking her how her day was, and when she tells you, keep asking casual questions that will keep her talking about things--because sometimes just talking about things makes you feel better, even if you can't improve things at the moment.
You are a very sweet daughter, to want to be close to your mom. I hope your mom will look past her own personal frustrations and listen to you and talk.
2007-03-21 15:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to arrange just a mother/daughter day togather? I had an only child, a daughter and sometimes our relationship was very hard, I don't know why communication was so difficult between us. Maybe it was because there was no other sibling and she had no one else to talk to. I got so wrapped up in my job and I was tired when I came home at night, I just didn't want to be bothered. Now I realize what a mistake I made. There were a few occasions when we had a day togather, just the two of us, doing nothing special, but we really managed to communicate on those days. I wish I would have made more of those. She is in her mid 20's now, and our relationship is good, but it has taken work. Your mom must put effort into this. Find a way to spend an afternoon togather with no pressure. Make it a routine. Don't give up on your mom, she really does love you very much.
2007-03-21 22:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Granny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I feel really bad for you. Your mom sounds like she has real problems. I would say don't waste your time, she won't change. Find friends, or some female older people to bring into your life. Talk to your school counselor. You can email me if you need someone to talk to, I am 39, and the mom of a little girl who is also an only child. My heart goes out to you.
2007-03-21 21:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried asking your mom why it is that the two of you can't just sit down and discuss things...anything? If that is not possible, then you need to find an older female to discuss the things that you need advice on or just to talk..everyone needs someone with some experience to discuss everyday problems with...if you can't find someone...email me...I am a mother of 2 and raising my 15 year granddaughter...be happy to talk to you. Good Luck
2007-03-21 22:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by mamaonetexasone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you--but mom's never change--it is her. I went through the same thing with mine--I am 35 now and is still the same. Just realize it is not you--look for one of your friends moms to talk with. You need to realize you are a great person and live a great life-love your mom for who she is.
2007-03-21 22:55:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try telling her that you want have a heart to heart talk. try asking her why she gets so mad at you when you try to talk to her. i hope everything goes well. good luck
2007-03-21 22:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by god's child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever asked her why she gets mad at you? maybe she doesn't even realize she's being so mean or whatever. if you mention it to her just ask calmly
2007-03-21 22:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you know why get mad?
2007-03-21 22:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋