my mom is an OCD neat freak who doesn't even let me say the word suck. im not allowed to go on the computer or watch TV during the weekdays but i do anyway. im also not allowed to wear eyeliner because according to my mom i put too much on during homecoming (according to her i had the most on) when 2 of my other friends had tons more than me so she revoked my eyeliner privildge. my dad's job keeps him out of the house monday through thursday but he still be a jerk. he gets stupid ideas in his head that my guys friends would rape me and both of my parents hardly let me go out with friends. i usually have to change what actually goes on at my friends parties just so i can go if they let me. im hardly allowed to see friends after school. they still think im an innocent child who doesn't know anything about the birds and the bees when in reality i know more than most of my friends. im almost 16 and i want this treatment to stop. what should i do?
2007-03-21 15:59:56 · 16 answers · asked by brubabe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try and speak with your parents and tell them how you are feeling, say you respect that they care for you but you are growing up and want to experience the same as your friends....
make sure you let them know that you are not silly, you know the dangers of growing up, and that you will always ask their advice if you need it...
Parents do find it hard when their child grows up, we like to try and keep you as babies for as long as we can....
2007-03-21 16:08:34 · answer #1 · answered by AngeleyesOddette... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make-up & parties are really not all that important.
What is important is that you are honest, sensible - you can make good decisions & demonstrate self-control...
... too late when you've been raped...
Who will you blame then?
You live in a society where kids do get into trouble... so you should be THANKFUL 1) you have parents 2) They care 3) You have a home 4) You have the chance of a decent future.
There are about 40 million? kids out there in the big, bad world, on the streets, with NO hope of getting what you have.
So stop acting like a spoilt brat & then maybe you wont be treated like one!
Sorry if that sounds harsh but you didn't mention a single problem that made me feel you have a hard life!
If you still feel you have genuine concerns, then TALK about those openly to the right people i.e. your parents, then a mediator... Don't lie, cheat, cuss your mom & dad... that only puts you in the wrong...
You are demanding they are should be ever so understanding - without understanding them or their need/s... & you are doing that disrepectfully! Get some respect back into your life, for yourself, & for your parents!
2007-03-22 05:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep your head down and try to keep the peace at home until your education is finished or you go to university.Then you need to leave home and live independently so you can have more freedom in your life.
This is hard when you are only 15 but remember you are nearly grown up and your parents are only strict because they love you (even if they have got the balance wrong).
Please dont rebel and get pregnant as you'll find yourself in another demanding restrictive relationship with your child without ever having the freedom to do what you want.
IN a few years these difficult teen years will be behind you and you will have the rext of life in front of you.
2007-03-22 06:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by bri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am sorry to tell you this but you are still 16 and under their roof so while you are there you HAVE to abide by their rules....is your dad a jerk when he's handing out money to you? i guess not.....your mum is not nagging you about your (eyeliner) what she is telling you is....you are way too young to be putting that crap on your face and wearing too much eyeliner is giving off the wrong signals to the lads...too much make-up on a girl of you age looks trashy...and your dad only cares about your well being thats why he is going on about your (male) mates....be thankful that you have 2 parents and a roof over your head, some kids of your age don't have that privilage.... so stop whining and get some respect for your parents, without them, you'd be nothing....
2007-03-22 16:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can suggest is to have you parents talk to some of your friends parents whom are a bit more lenient. Maybe get your mom and your friend and her mom to go to lunch/shopping and your mom can see how other mom's are.
I have a daughter whom is almost 18 and I totally trust her and she has full privileges until she does something wrong.
Tell your parents they raised you right and should trust you.
The best thing is to have your mom meet your friends mom.
2007-03-21 23:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't go through quite all of that when I lived with my parent's but went through a lot of it. You can try talking to them. I know it doesnt work that well though. A counselor might be a good idea if you can get them to go with you. I hope you get to start doing a few more things on your own soon sweetie! Hugs
2007-03-21 23:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_05_06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents only care about you and remember that they were your age not too long ago.
I suggest that you print out your question and look at it again in ten years time, you thoughts will be pretty much like your parents are now. You have plenty of time to have fun, your parents are just trying to make sure of that.
Beat Wishes
2007-03-22 06:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by thinker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
their not control freaks they r just worried. they love u lots and r concerned for ur safety. my daughter is eleven and im scared already. i dont like the thought of her having boyfriends etc. its scary, i try but in a freindly way to make her think having boyfriends r stupid and that she's too young 4 them, and i dont let her go to friends houses as i know all her friends talk about is boyfriends i know she will get one one day but i dont want her growing up 2 quickly, thats the scary part. ur parents dont want u growing up too quickly. i know u dont like it but wot child does u have to build trust with ur parents and not break it then they mite just give u some slack. sorry if i sound moany. im just a worried mum too.
2007-03-22 04:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by hunny 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dang.. your parents are strict... that sucks... well maybe you should try going to a councler with your parents.. i did that with my dad and well things are going bak down hill.. but thats only because my dads a stubborn ***... but im sure it will work.. there being very unfair.. and im 15 too and my mom lets me do all of the things your parents wont let you do
2007-03-21 23:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They love you girl its a big bad world out there but they are a bit over the top you need to sit down with them and talk to them reassure them you need there trust talk is good.
2007-03-22 05:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋