We live at my MIL's house.. it's a temporary situation, but she and I had a great relationship during my pregnancy... then when the baby was born she changed towards me completely.. mainly what's bothering me right now is that in front of me she will only get close to him for a few seconds.. but every oportunity she gets she takes him to her room and away from me.. it just makes me feel like she doesn't like to be around him when I'm near.. and it bugs me like crazy.. Why can't she just be normal like everyone else and just stick around with everyone and play with him in front of me... I love seeing my FIL play with him.. it's not like I'd be mean about her doing the same! she's also made comments, she'll talk to him and say.. "they haven't let me see you today" or "they keep you from me" Am I wrong to be bothered by this??
2007-03-21 16:30:46 · 8 answers · asked by CSS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she's possessive of your child.
She misses her son being a child. Likely she'll grow out of it.
Be careful about letting her "go to her room with your kid."
She's trying to subconsciuously "Take control" of the child.
Seems like your family needs some communication therapy. good luck.
2007-03-21 16:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly be bothered. I'm going to assume she's not joking around when she says those things to the baby. If it keeps up as the baby gets older, she's going to give the child a guilt complex.
Your husband needs to stand up to her. You'll just be the bad DIL if you do it.
2007-03-22 00:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Marina D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong at all! I would sit her and your husband down and talk this out before it gets out of hand. I have a MIL that was oh so nice to me in the beginning but soon after we got married she has tried EVERYTHING to split us up! Be wary of her!
2007-03-21 23:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i lived with my mother when i was pregnant and my mother used to take my daughter to her room alot not to be selfish or rude but just because it was quieter in her room and it seemed like she knew sometimes i just needed a break
i wouldnt worry too much over it have you ever just thought to peek in ?
say its feeding time or bath time just to let her know you are there
grandmothers like their alone time with babies i used to stand outside my moms door and listen to her talk to my daughter about how much she would accomplish in life and how beautiful she was as well as telling my daughter stories about me when i was a child
i dont think she is being possesive but have you thought that maybe she feels uncomfortable playing with the baby around you? afraid of how you feel about her?
2007-03-21 23:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by crystal s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. She has issues. I'd talk to her about it, with my hus present, before this gets out of hand.
2007-03-21 23:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad. Confront her about this if it begins to bother you more.
2007-03-21 23:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Cole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i would be bothered as well, maybe she hust diesn't want to take the baby away from your arms? the best thing is to just ask her so there is no tension
2007-03-21 23:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by tesla 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no you have every purpose to be concern about this situation
2007-03-21 23:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by Evangeline U 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋