If your mother or father died now, would you have any regrets that you wished you had done?

Question

Say for instance your mother or father came down with a sudden unexpected illness and they died right now would you have any regrets about not doing or saying anything beforehand.

Far too many people dont think of these things and perhaps they had trials and tribulations in the past and never quite could bring yourself to forgive or even just hear their side of the story. So would anybody have any regrests if any of their parents died suddenly.

Answer 1

I've lost both of my parents and no matter how good of a relationship you have with them, there are always feeling of regrets. I can tell you this much, after losing both of them and at a rather young age (18 and 22) I look at life in a totally different manner and appreciate every day that I am alive.

My mother use to say "You have to lose to gain". Never really understood just what those words meant until a few years ago. I think the hardest part about losing my parents is I no longer have unconditional love in my life. I had to learn to love myself as a person, which I thought I did before losing them, but had to learn to love myself even more once they were gone. Make sense? I hope it does, if just a little.

Answer 2

My mother died 2 years ago, I spent 5 months helping her through her chemo, every week. We never talked about what if she didn' make it because there was no doubt she would beat cancer, well she went to sleep one balmy August night, forever. What do I regret? Nothing. I glad we didn't waste one precious day worrying about her impending death. We lived like each day was like any other. I do wish I would have done more when she was healthier, but you can't change the past, she knew how very much I loved her. You are NEVER to old to stop needing your parents. Take care of any issues with them now, regrets, that is a sack of crap you don't want to carry around for the rest of your life.

Answer 3

It's inevitable to have regrets, friend. That's the very heart of human nature.

We all get so tied up in our everyday lives that we tend to take for granted the things that should be important.....our family, our health, our impression on others........yes, even that.

I'm disabled. I live with regret every single day, cause there are so many things I wish I could do, and can no longer. I had the chances......and passed them by, thinking there would always be another day for it. Boy, was I wrong.

People, NEVER forget those that matter......NEVER, EVER let an opportunity pass you by to experience something new!!! You never know if you will have that chance again!!

Answer 4

My father died in 1999,and 2 weeks before he died he wanted to see me.He told me when he died he didn't want me or my husband nor daughter at his funeral cause my husband is black and my daughter is mixed.Even though they was not planning to attend his funeral,He still said I didn't need to come. It hurt me so much to hear my father tell me this That I lost it and I told him I hope he rots in hell.That was the last thing I said to my father. And even though most people say I done the right thing.I know i got to live with the fact of what I said and I wish I can take it back.Cause no matter how father felt he was still my dad,and I loved him.

Answer 5

My Dad died of a heart attack in July. I remember coming home from work on a Thursday night with a message to call my mom back and i didn't. On Friday morning they called me to tell me that they didn't think my father would make it throught the day. He died on that Sunday.

I have regrets for sure. I wish that I would have listened to him when he told me that boys were no good. I wish that instead of spending time rebelling against him i could have spent time with him. But my biggest regret of all is that he never got to meet his granddaughter.

It breaks my heart.

♥

Answer 6

I do not think that approach, however I have identical emotions...My husband has 2 sons (10 and thirteen) together with his ex-spouse. He needed to have a paternity scan to end up his older son was once truthfully his due to the fact the mummy wasn't definite. Well, he ended up marrying the lady, that they had an additional baby after which divorced. I additionally had a baby with an additional guy who I left due to the fact he was once abusive and he hasn't noticeable his daughter in three a million/two years. We presently have complete custody of my husbands more youthful son, and we plan on getting custody of his older son while we've got a bigger residence to are living in (correct now we are living in a 2 bed room condominium). Well, the opposite day, my husband and I had been gambling with my 7 month historic son after the older children had been in mattress. I requested him, "Don't you want we began out this fashion?" He was once careworn by means of my statements so I mentioned, "Don't you want we began with every different and acquired to do the whole thing from the begninning with one baby at a time as a substitute of getting children with different humans and having to head via the "step-father or mother" roles?" Well, I bet he did not think the equal approach due to the fact he gave me this appear like I must be embarrassed about myself. Honestly, I cannot assume my daughter another approach than how she is...which of path approach she could want her dad's genes. But I do want I might have made a greater alternative in a father for her to begin out with so she does not need to move via the heartbreak of knowing her organic dad does not love her ample to do what is great for her. But she does have a first-rate step-father who's actually a truly father to her in each and every approach.

Answer 7

No, I wouldn't have any regrets.

They know I love them, and every time we talk on the phone I tell them so. We are in good standing with each other, and I'm proud to say that my mother is my best friend. We (mom and I) have gone on vacation together every year for 4 years, and the family (mom, dad, husband and I) have gone to Hawaii and Paris, France and Gatlinburg TN. together. We always have a great time and look forward to the next family vacation. Holidays are always a blast no matter whose house we are at.

Don't get me wrong. I would miss them TERRIBLY, but I wouldn't have any regrets.

Answer 8

I've really been thinking about this lately because a friend of mine's mom just passed away suddenly. It doesn't matter how close or how far you are from your parents, when these things happen, it really hits you hard. As for me, I don't know what I would do if either of my parents died. I'd just wish i had spent more time with them i guess, because you don't know what you have until its too late.

Answer 9

Without going into a lot YES I would regret not saying a lot of things and I only wish my parents were not so many thousands of miles apart, one in one direction and the other in another. I just hope and pray to god I will have the chance to see them just one more time to talk to them, so many things I want answers for and so many things I want to say to them.
The biggest thing I want to say is I Love you Mom and Dad.

Answer 10

My parents both died when I was in my 20's. Now years later, I have my own family and my BIGGEST regret is not finding out more about them; what they were like as kids, their how they got their work ethic, how they learned to be such good parents, etc. I really wish I had spent more time learning from them.