Family - January 2007

my little girls mother is in the hospital on life support and the doctors are saying she is brain dead. her mother has are child because they were living there i want to know if i have the right to get my child

2007-01-02 06:19:23 · 8 answers · asked by monta i 1

What do to about my husband and his businesses?
I'm not quite sure what to do about my husband. I may be overreacting, but want an outsider's perspective. We've been married for 4 1/2 years. When we got married he had a dead-end job that paid well. Two weeks after the wedding he quit his job, and we moved back home, where we're from. He started his own business and I was very supportive. His business isn't great but he's not doing too bad. He makes about 12k a year, but only contributes about 2k a year to our checkbook, the rest goes for business expenses. Last year he started another business with the friend. It went ok and they made quite a bit of money until the friend embezzled most of it. This year my husband and his brother started yet another business, and they haven't made a dime. I pay all the bills in the house and do all of the housework, except for his laundry.

Am I out of line for wanting him to get a real job?

2007-01-02 06:17:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will be 20 this year and all my life I've never really felt that I've done anything for myself at all. I'm always saved, or overprotected, or kept out of trouble, and not a chance to make my own mistakes OR get things right on my own.

It makes me feel like I will never learn because my parents are in the way. They tell me there must always be strict rules in life (aka. religion), that I have to be smart enough, and all those this-is-life-and-growing- up crap.
Well I feel stupid, that's for sure.

And this year I would like to go to Europe for a couple of weeks to experience Summer. I really need to breathe. I have a good friend over there who will be waiting for me. I told my parents once but they said no just because I'm a girl and they don't like it that I want to go on my own. But I need this and I will try again.

But this time I want to know how to tell them in a way that they listen to me. I need them to take me seriously this time.
Some help would be appreciated, thanks

2007-01-02 06:01:17 · 15 answers · asked by HollowTree 3

i sometimes forget tp shut the garage door when i park the car inside. My husband has alwayts been upset with me when i do this but once i say i'm sorry we make up and everything, and he just says dont do it again. i forgot again but this time he was really upset and tool me over his knee and spanked me. i was really upset with him for doing this but at the same time i really liked it.

2007-01-02 05:55:13 · 4 answers · asked by Physics 101 1

2007-01-02 05:48:16 · 11 answers · asked by anon 1

We met in Oklahoma in February 2000. We were extremely happy until a tradgic automobile accident involving Robert late December 2003. Robert was struck by an elderly woman driving a car. She was apparently driving ( according to the police report ) at a speed of approximately 60 mph down a side street and didn't stop for the stop sign, striking Robert on the driver's side of his work van and plowing him into a telephone pole. Robert suffered a tramatic brain injury, resulting in short and long term memory loss. This injury left him very messed up...he can no longer read sentences with "big" words, he is not able to read his tape measure, add, subtract, multiply, or divide simple or complex math problems. We had so many plans for our future...Plans that have been put on hold indefinately because I have been fighting with our auto insurance to get Robert the help he needs to regain at least a fraction of the beautiful mind he once posessed. He also suffered bodily damage resulting in the loss of 30 percent of his right patella and severe right shoulder damage, both of which he had to under-go major surgery for. I have been working 2 full time jobs and one part time job for almost 2 years just to keep us alive. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and Robert and I share a beautiful 2 year old son together. I bought a computer to help Robert to learn to read better and do the math again so maybe he would be able to return to the work he once loved so much and be happy again. I am a nurse and I work several private home cases. I happened to get off work a little early one evening and decided to swing by our house to give Robert a hug and kiss before my next case and tell him I love him. I got out of my truck and tried to enter the front door, which I found to be locked. I went around to the back door, (which is sliding glass doors,) and stood there outside on the deck, staring through the door in shock at what I was seeing in front of me...Robert wasn't aware I was there...He was on the phone, walking around naked, talking to another woman. I listened to a bit of the conversation and was horrified and shocked by what they were talking about. (you can just imagine by what you guys have obviously shared over the webcam) I opened the door and Robert turned around and took one look at me and turned white as a ghost..I guess the look on my face was enough to make him realize the hurt and humiliation he made me feel. I was working my *** off to keep a $1500.00 a month mortgage paid...not a house in our names mind you...a house that his exwife and him shared at one time and her name was on. I stood by this man through it all, and he has done what to me??? Slandered my personal being, all of which were lies...I have not yet even married him and he says we were divorced a yr. ago...I poured all the love I had into this relationship, and I got my heart ripprd out...Boy, some Thank You, eh? I am a person that needs to know the whole truth about all things, especially when it involves something or someone I love with my total being. You, as a woman, must understand this...So I continued to dig and find out all I didn't know about what my Robert was doing with his time while I was working 20 hours a day...FOR HIM!!! I lost almost 2 years of raising our children and being there for them like a mother is supposed to be. I can't tell you the pain I felt, reading the words he had typed to you, awful degrading things about me, when I am obliviously unaware, going to work EVERYDAY, doing what a devoted woman would do for her family in crisis. I have had only one week off since January 2004. I am tired and drained all the time...missing precious time with my children..for HIM...I feel betrayed and used...as you can imagine. He disconnected my laptop while I was chatting with you about him...He has since constantly been overly apologetic and sickenly loving towards me...But, because of his deceitful behavior and lies, I find myself not able to believe anything he says to me at all anymore. I packed up all of mine and my children's belongings, rented a u-haul and planned on going back to Oklahoma, as far as I could run from this undescribable anguish and emptiness I am feeling, but he filed a court order that I could not leave the state of New Jersey with our son. And I am forced to face daily, the emotions I wanted to run away from...just his presence in the same house with me, thinking of the hurtful words this man spoke of me when all I did was love him was physically painful. He tells me he is so sorry, but he couldn't let the best thing that ever happened to him in his life...(being me, our son, and his step-children.) get away...that's the reason for the court order...not to hurt me anymore...wants to rectify the damage and hurt he has inflicted upon me...I have been trying so hard to hold myself together...But, how can one forgive or forget a cut so deep? What's your input on this one? Think I should let him "redeem" himself?

2007-01-02 05:45:56 · 13 answers · asked by stuckinarut_again 2

And whose more likely to pick up on you identity? A child, spouse, parent, sibling, or some detective agency?

2007-01-02 05:38:10 · 1 answers · asked by Celeste P 7

My mother in law is very over bearing, especially now that we have a son. My son will be one next week and my mother in law is obssesed with seeing him. i understand that my son is her first grandchild but, it is not normal the way she acts over him. This past weekend, she came to our house, UNANNOUCED by the way, which is overbearing in and of itself, and got mad because my son was down for a nap. Now she has been around long before he was born and knows he always takes an afternoon nap. ALWAYS, no exceptions. She came into my house unannounced and got mad, asked, when did he go down, as if it was her business, I explained I had just come out of his room, that very moment. She said uh, and turned and went out the front door and back to the truck to leave. Rude! to say the least. I am really having a hard time with this because I have asked my husband to speak with his parents and let them know we need our space, and privacy as a family, but it always turns into an arguement.

2007-01-02 05:37:41 · 6 answers · asked by Deb 1

I am a working mother with 2 kids 7 and 3.5. I work 4 days a week from 9 to 5 at the moment and was wondering if I would be better off working 5 days 9 to 3. At the moment I am quite stressed and find coming home at 5.30, getting the kids, cooking dinner and bedtime quite stressful and I hardly see them! If I worked 9 to 3 over 5 days I would be back to pick them from school and nursery and have a bit more time although I would loose my day off on the Friday which is also quite nice.

What do other people think would be better? To have a full day off or to be home early 5 days per week?

2007-01-02 05:33:45 · 14 answers · asked by Stephanie C 3

i met this girl in the 6th grade.. we share the same birthday we have the same color hair,eyes,skin. we are the same race in every way. were the same height, same shoe size, same size in clothing, we sometimes finish each others sentences and its weird. people always say we look alike and if we are sisters so u think we are??

2007-01-02 05:28:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-02 05:24:28 · 23 answers · asked by izzy 1

He came to work, that was why he is even here. He lives with us and works helping my father icause my father is self employed doing gardening.

Ok, but after 1 year that he's been here with us, he is starting to find friends and people and just wants to be free and roam around even till late at night, he hangs out with strangers, and goes into strangers houses and he gossips so much about everything. We ARE NOT ThAT KIND of people .we are peaceful and we settle at home at 8pm and that's it.

Yesterday he left with some strangers and didn't come until 12 at night....I keep telling him to stop being a Wacko, and to calm down and stay home but he gets eeasily lured by the people he meets. Anyway, he's not respecting our rules. He didn't come here to do what he wants, we just let him live here and be here so he can make some money.

My father is so tired of him doing this crap , me too...
What do you do when a person wants to do what he wants when it's not even his house.....

2007-01-02 05:14:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-01-02 05:13:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Will The Cycle Of Child Abuse Ever End?
I was a victim and chose to end it by not abusing my children or grand children. Often times when people are abused as children they grow up and abuse. It does not maks sense to me as you know the pain it cause's both physically and emotionally so why would you then do the same to your child. people know of the abuse and choose to say well it's not my child by ignoring you are hurting a child. If you know of a child being abused talk to the abuser about seeking help or contact someone who can help the innocent defenseless child. Bless you all! to stand by and do nothing makes us as guilty as the person doing the abuse

2007-01-02 05:10:02 · 8 answers · asked by katlady927 6

I go to college forty miles away from my parent's home. I secretly live with him and can't tell them. We truly love each other and been together for 1 1/2 years. He works and helps pay for alot. We plan on getting married one day, but definately not until I'm out of school. My parent's are putting me through school and paying for my cell phone, car, medical, dental, etc. insurance. I'm scared if they find out, they'll cut me off. What do I do?

2007-01-02 05:08:18 · 30 answers · asked by Cari 2

Me and my daughter's father were once in a relationship...then I got pregnant and he changed and wanted to get rid of the baby. Then she was born and things changed...He became a better person. He stop drinking and started coming to church but the problem is I think I love him more than he loves me and the stuff he say to me is hurtful sometimes. He said that we can forget about the past and more on but he hasn't and still say that I con him into having the baby. What should I do?

2007-01-02 05:06:55 · 22 answers · asked by kfoxy55 1

What would you do if you have witnessed your brother being cruel to his wife i.e physically and emotionally abusive.Complain all the time of how selfish she is(in his opinion)only for him to tell you that he has a new family i.e he has two kids with another woman even though he is still married to his first wife

2007-01-02 04:18:12 · 34 answers · asked by JUSEve 2

Hiello!

I have a cousin that this is about well actyually...nvm yeah Anyways! I went to visit my cousin tand her little brother this year (and aunts and uncles) anyways . What can i do to get her to do anything....i dont know how old she is..maybe like 15 i think and i dont know if its b/c of her teen years that she can not be seen not on myspace for one minute but she didnt do anything..

So i was stuck with my little cousin who is younger than me ( dont get me wrong even if hes younger he was fun!:) :) ) and sometimes i dont feel like playing with him . basically what im saying is that what can i do to want her to play or do anything ( i asked her if she watned to play a board game and she hates them now!) ive even tried to talk to her on myspace... yet my friend requests are denied.... what can i do to get her off the computer??

2007-01-02 04:10:29 · 4 answers · asked by cukypheffs 1

this situation? My dad always goes on and on with his boring football stories, and I listen, sometimes make eye contact, interject with some comments (just to be nice). HOWEVER, the minute I begin to talk about something that interests me, like politics, he will shake his head and say, "You know that stuff doesn't interest me." I HATE THIS.

2007-01-02 03:57:07 · 10 answers · asked by Philip Kiriakis 5

My dad just found out that I am having sex with my boyfriend. He is an old school man that does not believe in having sex before marriage. I am 26 and I live at home. He said that if I don't break up with my bf he won't be my father anymore. this is the first time he has said such a thing and It is just killing me. I am a full time student and I don't have a job. I don't want to break up with my bf just because of my dad and I don't want to lose my family over my bf. I don't know what to do. Please give me some advice.

2007-01-02 03:50:54 · 25 answers · asked by bitter s 1

I am interested in how other married couples met, fell in love, some of the highlights that transpired to the present. Has it been a good thing or a bad thing ? Where you compatable ? What was your biggest problem or heartache ? Thanks for helping me.
Good luck and God Bless you in this New Year.

2007-01-02 03:33:21 · 16 answers · asked by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7

My 21 year old daughter seems to think I am responsibile for her finances until I die.

2007-01-02 03:31:39 · 32 answers · asked by messedup 1

My dad grew up on a dirt farm in North Texas, and although he went on to become a University President, he never lost the colloquialisms he picked up as a child. He used to say things to me like, “They feed pigs, but they slaughter hogs,” or, “You’ve got champagne taste and a beer pocket book.”

My father’s been gone almost twenty years now, but my own son is now 13 and I hear myself saying things that my dad used to say to me. I know that more and more young people are growing up in nontraditional homes these days, but I also know I’m not the only one that opens their mouth only to hear their parents’ voice.

2007-01-02 03:27:38 · 5 answers · asked by Dave 2

My son is giving me so much grief. He is 18 years old - and only has 8 high school credits (out of 40) been in trouble with the law (drinking / smoking pot) - acts like a wanna be gangster - steals from me (right out of my wallet) if I forget to hide money at night. Now the question, he moved with a friend and his mom on Friday (Dec 29) about 2 hrs away from me - already he wants to come home. I have to say that the peace and quiet in my house is wonderful - but I do miss him. I'm a single mom - his dad and I divorced when he was 3 - I have two other children (a daugher 18 - (a twin to my son)) and a 14 year old son. The other two children are wonderful - my daughter just got a full ride scholarship to Indiana U. Should I let him come home? I think I need rules - but me being at work it's hard to enforce. I want him to have a job, finish school, - stop smoking (pot & cigs) - stop stealing. Any advice? My other kids do not want him home - because he causes so much stress ...

2007-01-02 03:16:10 · 13 answers · asked by emmmay61 1

I have recently been thinking about contacting my biological father, he left before i was born, i just have so many questions but he has a family now and i dont want 2 destroy that should i contact him or just try to forget the idea?

2007-01-02 03:14:10 · 5 answers · asked by cme 2

My mother-law hates me I think,she is always saying slick remarks to either me or my husband.She almost ruined are New Year's Day! She is emotional and changes her attitude at the drop or a hat.She brought in groceries and It was raining yesterday,so you know my a** kisser of a sister in law(she is married to my husband brother )was on her toes to get to the car and well I guess my husband didnt move fast enought to the car and she said"Oh If it was Tori you would have been out there faster,but I guess Im not as important"what in the Heck does getting groceries out of he car got to do with me?She is always saying little comments to him and I know it hurts him.We used to be at their house form Fri 2 Sun and she used to complain about that ,now that we barely come around she is still upset ,we cant please her and it breaks me heart for him ,I think she treats him like that ,because he is the only child out of the 3 of them that is not her husbands(found that out 2yrs ago)anybody feel me?

2007-01-02 03:11:31 · 12 answers · asked by youngprincez23 3

If you came home early and you entered your bedroom only to find your 15 year old daughter naked and masturbating infont of the computer web cam. What would you do.

2007-01-02 03:02:52 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

His family doesnt like me due to our rocky past, however we love each other very much and are considering marriage. However, I can't take there opinions, comments and actions much more. I want to do something about all of this. He shouldn't have to go without having them in his life but they are horrible to me when I go around so now he either doesnt go around them or I just stay home. Either way I just dont know what this is suppose to prove them holding a grudge but it isn't helping us out at all. We are both in AA and trying desperately to make all our wrongs as right as possible but they are just not understanding. The ones who say they dont mind me coming around are still rude to me when I am. It is just not worth the headache so I stay home. What could we do to make this better. No one wants to marry into a family that doesnt like them. But how could they when they dont even know me?

2007-01-02 02:58:10 · 2 answers · asked by tryntomakitrite 1

My mum always suspects me….she doent allow me to keep my door closed.talk on da fone….she alwys checks my pc…..messages on my fone….she rummages around my room .doesn’t allow me to stay in my room with a guy friend….let alone my boyfriend…..wat can I do for her to respect my privacy???

2007-01-02 02:50:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Also there wasnt a computer/any type of game system or anything like that and u couldnt go out. This isnt really something thats happening to me Im just bored and have nothing to do.

2007-01-02 02:43:59 · 14 answers · asked by Sydnee 1