mum suspects?

Question

My mum always suspects me….she doent allow me to keep my door closed.talk on da fone….she alwys checks my pc…..messages on my fone….she rummages around my room .doesn’t allow me to stay in my room with a guy friend….let alone my boyfriend…..wat can I do for her to respect my privacy???

but im 16!!!!!....ive not done nething in da past for her to behave diz way

Answer 1

You have an awesome mom.

To gain more trust, I suppose be open and honest with her. Form a better relationship with her on an adult level and show that you have some maturity.

Answer 2

I know it sucks, but your Mom is doing the best thing. Kids really don't have a "right" to privacy other than being on the toilet or in bed by themselves. Until you are old enough and mature enough to move out and take responsibility for yourself and your own life, your parents are responsible for you. There is really nothing you should be doing in your life right now that should be kept "private" from your parents. If you don't want them to know about it, then chances are you shouldn't be doing it. I know that's not what you want to hear, but someday when you're a parent and are responsible for another human life, you'll understand.

--Sorry, but the advice to tell her to let you have your privacy or you'll "give her something to find" is exactly the type of immature thing that makes adults distrust their kids. You would do something irresponsible and possibly dangerous just to get at your parents? That's the type of "decision" that proves that someone is too immature to be allowed any privacy. When you can make mature decisions, on your own, all the time, then you'll be ready to be allowed real privacy.

Answer 3

I bet your mum doesnt have any idea you are on here asking such questions to complete strangers does she. See she does have a right to snoop. Perhaps if she ran across this question maybe she would talk to you about it. Instead of allowing her to come to you why dont you go to her. There is alot to be learned from our parents, this is not about control it truly is about safety and knowing you better. Maybe you should open up to her a bit more and she will feel less likely to snoop. Maybe she doesnt feel like she knows you very well perhaps it is just her way of wishing you were still her little girl. Think about how she feels realizes that you are getting older and maybe you wont see things so harshly. Remember that she loves you and she wants the best for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

I think its time to stood up to her and let her kno. Belike Mom i lov u and all but its about time u let me grow up and live my life let her kno all the snopping around lookin through ur stuff is not gonna work anymore that it has to stop or that youll give her something to look for. or just tell her if it doesnt stops things will start to heat up. Just be you dont do anything that u wouldnt do just let her kno tell her let u grow up it about time you started taking control of your own life because sghe is not gonna be arou nd forever.

Answer 5

That is what good parents do. She is just trying to keep you safe and keep you from doing something that could ruin your life. be happy you have a mom that cares so much about you that keeps you in check.

Answer 6

Sorry....but hooray for your mom.....she is doing her job......I don't know what to tell you aside from respect is earned and if your not doing anything wrong then whats so upsetting.....she was a teen once and thankfully she remembers everything she used to get up to

Answer 7

parents are like that,they never trust you because they think if you are a teen then you are trouble maker and they think you don't deserve any privacy,the answer is no,you can't do anything to get her to respect your privacy because she will never trust you.

Answer 8

Have you done anything in the past to make her this way? Trust has to be earned,Though i do think you are entitled to your privacy.Have you tried talking to her?

Answer 9

you have to prove to her that you are worthy of having privacy first.