My mother-law hates me I think,she is always saying slick remarks to either me or my husband.She almost ruined are New Year's Day! She is emotional and changes her attitude at the drop or a hat.She brought in groceries and It was raining yesterday,so you know my a** kisser of a sister in law(she is married to my husband brother )was on her toes to get to the car and well I guess my husband didnt move fast enought to the car and she said"Oh If it was Tori you would have been out there faster,but I guess Im not as important"what in the Heck does getting groceries out of he car got to do with me?She is always saying little comments to him and I know it hurts him.We used to be at their house form Fri 2 Sun and she used to complain about that ,now that we barely come around she is still upset ,we cant please her and it breaks me heart for him ,I think she treats him like that ,because he is the only child out of the 3 of them that is not her husbands(found that out 2yrs ago)anybody feel me?
2007-01-02 03:11:31 · 12 answers · asked by youngprincez23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she has also told him on different occassions that when she was pregnant with him she didnt want him.She was drinking when she said it ,but still how do you say stuff like that?He wants to make her proud and prove to her that he is somebody .He is the only one out of the 3 of them that is doing something with his life.His older brother has 3 kids and is always out runing the streets cheats on his girlfriend (she has the 3 kids with her) steals stuff off peoples car(which his mom knows and keeps it at her house)and always leaves his girlfriend at his moms house.His younger sister also has 3 kids is 21yrs old (3 different baby daddies)no job,his mom takes care of all of them and still lives at home.By the way his older brother has a truck in her name and His sister had a car in her name.Him on the other hand has a good job (me included)we pay our bills by ourself we dont cheat on each other,we have 2 kids 5&6yrs old ,and we have been together since we were 14yrs old now 23yrs old!
2007-01-02 03:19:33 · update #1
Im just not sure why she doesnt tell him how proud she is of him ,I just dont know ,somebody give me some insight please.........
2007-01-02 03:21:10 · update #2
You need distance, distance, distance. Your m-i-l has some major issues that has nothing to do with you or her son (really). It has to do more with her own choices in her life and her inablility to deal with them properly.
You have the right to draw some clean boundaries in your life. If she is bringing so much bad energy to your life, cut her off. Don't give her the opportunity to bring you down.
I don't know what this would be like, because my m-i-l is one of my best friends.!
2007-01-02 03:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did, I moved an hour away from them and guess what..........my wife is happier than me. Her mother is a whiner like most old women. Very negative environment, not good to be in.
Inlaws have and will ruin marriages, they stick their goddam noses everywhere, and try to control you. Well.........it didn't happen to me did it? Nope!
I told my wife, if you want to marry me, we're moving, if not, there's the door. Be extremely careful with kids too, once you have them, inlaws will really bury you.
This is another reason I won't have kids.
Get away from ANY negative invironment. Best of luck
2007-01-02 05:01:03 · answer #2 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to be a man and stand up to his Mother, she is not being very respectable to either of you. Explain to your husband how it makes you feel to watch her ridicule everyone. If he can not stand up for you and himself then maybe you need to tell her that you do not appreciate the way she is treating you and your husband. Your husband doesn't have to prove anything to her. She really doesn't care anyway. You both need to get on with your lives and tell her to not come around if she can not say anything nice.
2007-01-02 03:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, those stingy comments. They'll get ya. I'm not sure if it has anything to do with you. Sounds like she has issues with her son. Sounds like she has issues period. That's not a mother in law thing that's mental problems she has. Talk to your husband about therapy/or counseling. He needs to distance himself from her. She has a lot of control over him and putting him down is part of it. Don't be surprised if she smacked him around when he was younger.
2007-01-02 03:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband needs to remind your MIL that the Bible says "a man shall leave his mother and father and cleave unto his wife". She did her job by raising him, now he has to answer to you.
I understand him wanting a relationship with her, but she doesn't need to try and make him feel guilty for having a family.
I am lucky that my MIL is really great to me (and my husband)...it was hard for her to let him go when we got married, but she now sees that it was the best thing for him and her. They are still close, but she knows that his wife and kids come first.
I wish you all the best. It sounds like someone needs to put her in her place.
2007-01-02 03:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by luvRoush99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are emotional black holes. Your MIL is one of them. You will NEVER please her and she will NEVER tell her son that she is proud of him.
Cut her out of your life entirely. Go live a happy and healthy life without her. Seriously, I know that sounds harsh, but sometimes you have to do what is right for your family.
Eventually she will say terrible things about you in front of your children....end it before it starts.
2007-01-02 05:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get along with my mother-in-law. She is mean spirited and rude. And than wonders why no one wants her around on holidays. Your not along with MIL problems.
2007-01-02 03:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by goldensparkler61 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a wench. I guess I got lucky. My MIL is awesome.
2007-01-02 03:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might have angry feelings towards your husbands father that 'she cant disclose so she's lashing out at your husband. Distant yourself to her then.
2007-01-02 05:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by mareko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel ya ! my mother - n - law is the devil herself !! she is 2 faced as **** ! i really can*t get started on mine !! she is devious as **** ! but she has met her match !! i don*t take no **** off her ! she*s just a ***** ! good luck with yours !
2007-01-02 05:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Barbie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋