Family - December 2006

I love my husband, and one would think that since I get along so well with him that I would get along with his parents. Such is not the case. In the last year, I have been made to feel like I am not a member of their family at all. My husband was bought a ticket to surprise his mother on Mother's day, but I wasn't consulted about it (nor was a ticket bought for our only child). No calls of congratulations on our anniversary, etc, etc. I am not entirely blameless in this rift, since being around them makes me edgy and irritable--we are so different, even our scent preferences are opposite! My question is this: in regards to recent treatment, should I simply remove myself from my in-laws' equation? I'm not saying divorce my husband or prevent my child(ren) from knowing their grandparents; rather, avoid personal contact with them whenever possible to prevent turbulence and ill feelings on both sides. Opinions? Thank you for answering.

2006-12-09 16:19:29 · 3 answers · asked by shoujomaniac101 5

2006-12-09 15:53:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

she hates me. she only cares about my sister and brother and always tells me whats wrong with me and jumps down my throat every time she speaks to me. either shes barking orders or yelling at me about who i am( i can't change that!) i'm sick of her yelling at me and i'm sick of arguing with her. what should i do?

2006-12-09 15:43:28 · 9 answers · asked by corie j 3

What makes a family a family? Is it blood, or is it a different kind of bond? Can you make your friends you family? If no, then how does adoption work - the two are smiliar. Thoughts and opinions.

2006-12-09 15:41:18 · 11 answers · asked by The Pope 5

My mother is in the hospital in critical condition. My dad is with her. The hospital is 2 hours away. My brother and his girlfriend have been staying at mom and dad's house- not cleaning up after themselves- not doing ANYTHING to help my parents while there and today I caught them trying to steal from my parents and yelled at them. My other sister had called me earlier asking if mom had any pain pills at her house that she could go get (prescription ones) so I had to run to mom and dad's and get the pills and hide them before someone else got them. My other 2 sisters are roommates and have been bickering and fighting all day and I had to leave my house THREE TIMES to go over there (at the request of their other roommate) to break the fights up and then one left the other at work and I had to go give her a ride home. It's my husband's birthday today and we've been trying to have a nice calm quiet day and I've had to settle all this stuff.

2006-12-09 15:30:56 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6

A couple years ago I was in a car accident. My car slid on ice and I went into a very deep ditch and missed hitting a telephone pole by 6 inches. I called my Dad and told him I needed help-he yelled at me like a maniac and told me to move out and never asked me how I was. He always yelled at me or my mother for no apparent reason and has always been a complete lunatic.

I moved out-never telling him where I lived.
He calls me at work and harrasses me- he says he's going to hire a PI to track me down to see where I live-can he do this?
I would tell my mother where I live but I know it would get back to him.

Can he get a PI to track me down, so he can harrass me

2006-12-09 15:23:26 · 35 answers · asked by sis79 2

A good decision on their part? They brought me into this world. They raised me. Shouldn't they love me no matter what?

2006-12-09 15:21:02 · 16 answers · asked by fresh2 4

though they have to watch almost everything I put or have on my computer. Did I mention That I am 24, and that I need my space. And that they really have to back up off me? What should I do. I can't move. and I cannot stand this anymore. When I bring it up, Most of the time they totaly lie about it.

2006-12-09 15:16:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, well my sister lies a lot you see. Well, my sister got in trouble at school for something she didn't do, and it was major so she get suspended for like 2 weeks. My mom dosen't believe me or my sister. How can I help prove my sister didn't do it?

2006-12-09 15:13:45 · 17 answers · asked by sara_shae34 1

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2006-12-09 15:05:43 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-09 15:02:13 · 16 answers · asked by Katie 2

i just finished talking to my parents upstairs, and my step-dad said that we need to set a dead line for when my room has to be cleaned everyweek. like.. wtf .. any ways.. he said saturday by 2 pm. i said no. sunday. he said no, cause then it wont get done. whats the diff if i do it sat or sun. then my mom said sundays fine. and he said by 2. and i said no. i'll just do it .. when ever on sunday .. and he kept saying it needs to be clean by 2, blah blah blah. finally my mom stepped in and said 4 on sundays is fine.. this is stupid i know, but what do you think. is it just me that thinks that my step-dad is rediculous? im 15 by the way .. not 5

2006-12-09 15:01:00 · 18 answers · asked by jordan m 1

My mom started to date this guy a few months ago. I didn't really want her to date in the first place, but I learned to except it...but then...my mom started spending the night at his house. I am a strong Christian and I strongly disapprove of it. She goes over there a lot. Sometimes spending the night 3 or 4 times a week. Leaving my brother, sister, and I alone all night. I am sorta acting a little "cold" towards her. I don't nessessarily not like the guy, but I don't like the thought of him and my mom. Am I being selfish. I don't think so but....ya. Anyway...reply please!

2006-12-09 15:00:12 · 6 answers · asked by em<3 6

My mom is around forty years old and I am in my mid-teens (15). In my family it seems that I am always arguing wiht my mom. I have a sister and a dad too, we are a full family not divorced. My dad and mom usually do not get into arguements with her because they are usually more passive. Once and a while my mom just ends up yelling at my dad. I notice that alot of my arguing with my mom stems from the fact that she thinks she is absolutely perfect and my arguementative personality. She told me I was wasteful one day and I asked her if she had wasted anything in her whole entire life and she said no. Whenever I prove something to her such as a fact, like lets say we argued about the percentage of people with aids and I went on a website and showed her I was right, (she loves to make up fake information and say that she read it somewhere) she would say that she can't remember everything because I'm so loud. These behaviors might stem from her mother who does the same exact thing.

2006-12-09 14:56:56 · 15 answers · asked by Helpppppp! 1

My husband has a younger sister who is severely developmentally disabled. My two sisters- although not developmentally disabled- are ignorant. They're often using the slang "That's so retarded" when referring to things that they don't like. My husband hasn't said anything about it, but I find it offensive that they use that slang in front of him, knowing he has a "retarded" sister. I have asked them several times to refrain from using that word, and they tell me I'm being too uptight about it. Even though my husband doesn't SAY it bothers him, I can still tell that it does- What more can I do?

2006-12-09 14:52:05 · 4 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6

My mum only thinks of her favourite son but she doesn’t think for me. Dad wanted to buy me a car and she immediately stopped him and convinced him to buy something for my brother. My mum always discourages me to buy things which I like. Not long ago, I have to use most of my savings to pay her and my brother's debts. She now wanted me to pay some of my brother's monthly expenses. Is this fair? What should I do?

2006-12-09 14:40:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do. Do you?

2006-12-09 14:34:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do everything for my mom and stepdad. When I say that I mean everything! I cook, clean, drive my 5 little brothers and sisters around, take care of HER two year old twins, do the laundry. Everything. Anyways I asked her for a laptop for christmas this year. And she said no. I know I deserve it, and I'll need it next year when I go to college. I've worked so hard since I was 10, and have gotten absolutely nothing. I pay for my own clothes, gas, even most of my own food. I know she has the money, I do the books for the business my parents run, and half the time for the house. My little sister is getting a 60 GB I pod, and she doesn't even do anything! How do i tell my mom that I deserve a stupid laptop after all I've done for her.

2006-12-09 14:30:03 · 5 answers · asked by motoprincess16 1

2006-12-09 14:20:03 · 1 answers · asked by Tanya F 1

I have no clue to what I should get my dad for Christmas. He is into Traxxas cars and things like that. I have no clue. I am only 15 and dont have a job so I can only spend about 20 - possible 30 dollars. Please help

2006-12-09 14:12:46 · 2 answers · asked by bling***bling 3

My parents have been fighting a lot and worried they will get a divorce is there anything i can do to help them stay together and my sister isn't helping because she just makes them have more to fight about but she doesn't care any ideas about my sisters or parents. anything will help right now

2006-12-09 14:05:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-09 14:02:34 · 5 answers · asked by blonde chick! 1

2006-12-09 13:50:18 · 24 answers · asked by blonde chick! 1

...and a trustworthy university student offers to shop and deliver groceries to her every Saturday, does $10 seem reasonable?

Best wishes,

pup

2006-12-09 13:31:42 · 6 answers · asked by . 6

My dad was just on trail for tax evasion, and was sentenced to pay 800k in back taxes or go to jail. My father was not the best dad growing up abusive ect. He blames me for his financial situation because of the money he spent raising me. The reality is that my father mismanaged his money and bought a new hundred thousand dollar car every 3 years. My dad now has to sell one of his million dollar homes(he has two). Everybody in my family is acting like its a huge tradgedy, but frankly I dont feel bad. He mismanaged his money and has to make a sacrafice. Is it wrong not to feel bad, would you?

2006-12-09 13:23:36 · 11 answers · asked by BossHogg R 2

my mom and dad are divorced. ever since she never talks to me or my brothers and they are only 5 and 6.im 13 and she has never really talked to me for a while. i dont even care if she talks to me anymore i just want my brothers to feel like they are loved by their mom.The only kid she pays attention to is her new boyfriends daughter and me and my brothers absolutely dislike her. How should i tell my mom how i feel?

2006-12-09 13:21:29 · 11 answers · asked by dylan n 2

my wife is always complaining that my mom is too hard on our kids and is always bossing her and she is also complaining about how much stuff in the house my mom uses.

my mom is always saying that my wife ignores her and is rude to her and that she hates her. my wife says that she doesn't do any of those things. i want to believe my wife but the other is my mom.

what to do? my mom wants to live with us but she can support herself and is physicly capable of taking care of herself and my wife says she needs to go.

2006-12-09 12:27:48 · 15 answers · asked by Stoney D 1

my father has three bolging disc in his neck and can't work, my mother has md. and is on disability and that isn't bringing in any money in ether.

2006-12-09 12:21:18 · 5 answers · asked by shyhearted 1

They think because I haven't gone to grad school yet, and becuase I'm not getting married, I am ruining their lives, and nothing has ever worked out for them. I'm 26, and they are indian, so that's where this whole thing comes from.

2006-12-09 12:17:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you think it's possible to be laid back if your family is sooooo stressful? I know that as an adult you can chose your lifestyle. But, your family will always be in your life. My laid back friends all have laid back people in their family (at least a brother, sister, or SOMEONE!)..But all I have in the US is a sister and parents and they are all sooooo stressed out and depressing! Am I doomed?

2006-12-09 11:58:05 · 4 answers · asked by friendlygal 2