They think because I haven't gone to grad school yet, and becuase I'm not getting married, I am ruining their lives, and nothing has ever worked out for them. I'm 26, and they are indian, so that's where this whole thing comes from.
2006-12-09 12:17:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree with what nurses said. They're trying to manipulate you and make you feel guilty because you're not doing exactly what they want you to do. You're not responsible for their actions, just for yours. If they don't like it, then they're the ones that need to grow up. You are their child, and they should love you unconditionally, or they need to reexamine what it means to be parents.
2006-12-09 12:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through this. Although I know that other cultures take things like marriage and education very seriously. So seriously that they completely rely on their children to succeed in both events, just to make them proud. Money in certain country's is not as important as education status and marriage status, mainly because those countries are poor. Living here in the US, if you do, those family values don't stop. It may sound as though I am giving them an excuse because that is a horrible thing to hear and know your parents are feeling and saying those things and I hope you stand strong. Remember parents always want the best for their kids but they usually screw things up with the stupid things they say. Sorry about your pain. I am sure you make them proud just being their son.
2006-12-09 20:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that their lives will NOT be ruined because you aren't living as THEY desire! Tell them you have more brains than to allow them to manipulate you like that. It sounds like they should count their BLESSINGS in life, rather than ***** about the things they didn't get!! You deserve to live your own life and if you are happy, then THAT itself should make them happy! YOU are not responsible for patching up their lives or making everyone around you happy. That will only make you live a miserable life. They sound like controlling people and I think you're a fine individual and I don't even know you. You just be YOU.
2006-12-09 21:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend that you go to counselling so that you can have a professional's perspective on this.
YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR PARENT'S HAPPINESS.
It sounds like your parents need therapy, but you are only responsible for yourself. They may never change, but you can have the proper tools to deal with their criticisms.
Just remember, no matter what they tell you... it's not your fault their miserable.
2006-12-09 20:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Wren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just sad. I guess there's really nothing you can do except not listen to them. They are trying to make you feel guilty. I don't think they'd really kill themselves! They should be proud of you no matter what....just because you are their son! If they would accept counseling, I'd refer them.
2006-12-09 20:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're not going to kill themselves, they're trying to shame you and manipulate you into doing what they want. Tell them you love them very much, but you can only live your own life, not theirs.
2006-12-09 20:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to get over themselves and realize you are their child and youre doing the best you can.........all parents should be proud of their children.......
2006-12-09 20:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by SpinKick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all parents should be proud of their kids, unless they killed someone or are strung out on drugs or a pro.
2006-12-09 20:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents or not, you don't need people like that in your life... bid them farewell... and Shame on them !!
2006-12-09 21:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about their lives..... it's yours you should
be concerned about........ they need to get over
themselves....
2006-12-09 23:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋