My mother is in the hospital in critical condition. My dad is with her. The hospital is 2 hours away. My brother and his girlfriend have been staying at mom and dad's house- not cleaning up after themselves- not doing ANYTHING to help my parents while there and today I caught them trying to steal from my parents and yelled at them. My other sister had called me earlier asking if mom had any pain pills at her house that she could go get (prescription ones) so I had to run to mom and dad's and get the pills and hide them before someone else got them. My other 2 sisters are roommates and have been bickering and fighting all day and I had to leave my house THREE TIMES to go over there (at the request of their other roommate) to break the fights up and then one left the other at work and I had to go give her a ride home. It's my husband's birthday today and we've been trying to have a nice calm quiet day and I've had to settle all this stuff.
2006-12-09 15:30:56 · 6 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I finally told them I didn't care if they slit each other's throats not to call me again- I don't know if I should call my dad and let him know what all is going on or not. With mom being sick and so far away- do you think it's best I just keep trying to handle everything?
2006-12-09 15:31:40 · update #1
Actually I'm not the oldest.. Only one of them is actually younger than me.
2006-12-09 15:39:01 · update #2
Yikes. There's always one, isn't there? In your case, more than one. I'm so sorry.
Take a nice hot bath, kiss your husband a lot, and get to bed. Tomorrow is a new day.
Just know that the sacrifices you are making for your mom are wonderful and she needs you and is lucky to have you!
I would suggest celebrating your husband's birthday in a few days when the "storm" dies down; I'm sure he would understand. Then you can focus most of your energy on him and enjoy your time together more as well.
Best of luck to you, and your mother will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care.
p.s. I wouldn't suggest telling your father - he has enough to worry about...not that YOU deserve to have to take care of all of this, but let him concentrate on being with your mom without further worries. He'll thank you for it one day.
2006-12-09 15:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anne C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same with my siblings. I'm the middle child but I have to be the responsible one most of the time. I don't think you should call your dad with all of this, not right now and not with the only thing to tell him is your children are acting like brats. If it is your husbands Birthday, turn off your phone. First call and make sure your mom is OK, then you won't be worrying about that all night long. But if you keep trying to take care of all of them, and it seems like they don't try to take care of you, just take a break from all of it. It will only do more harm to keep running when they call. Stop trying to take care of everyone else and take care of yourself. I know that's better said huh! People tell me that all the time. It's hard to walk away, but trust me, you'll end up with some ill feelings. If anything, speak up and tell them to grow up.
I hope your mom gets better. Think of your self. Good luck.
2006-12-09 15:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, DON'T tell your mom. She will take it badly and it could make her take longer to recover. You could tell your dad. . .which I partially suggest, because parental control usually stops unruly behavior (usually). See if it clears up after that, otherwise you will most likely be taking care of it for a while.
2006-12-09 15:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Isabela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite your tong and keep it from dad. he has enough on his plate right now. i am going to assume you are the oldest. so go over there, do some screaming, and bring all valuables home with you.
2006-12-09 15:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by karma_goddess84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have like a family meeting or something. MAKE them all come together tell them what is up and tell them how selfish they are being. "lay down the law"!
2006-12-09 15:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by ~*mwah*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. you have a crazy family... ( im talking bout ur brothers and sisters)
2006-12-09 15:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by *~*Esme*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋