I love my husband, and one would think that since I get along so well with him that I would get along with his parents. Such is not the case. In the last year, I have been made to feel like I am not a member of their family at all. My husband was bought a ticket to surprise his mother on Mother's day, but I wasn't consulted about it (nor was a ticket bought for our only child). No calls of congratulations on our anniversary, etc, etc. I am not entirely blameless in this rift, since being around them makes me edgy and irritable--we are so different, even our scent preferences are opposite! My question is this: in regards to recent treatment, should I simply remove myself from my in-laws' equation? I'm not saying divorce my husband or prevent my child(ren) from knowing their grandparents; rather, avoid personal contact with them whenever possible to prevent turbulence and ill feelings on both sides. Opinions? Thank you for answering.
2006-12-09 16:19:29 · 3 answers · asked by shoujomaniac101 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe his family did not have the money for everyone. As far as dealing with them, why isn't he dealing with them. He should be standing up for you. He should have turned down the ticket unless it was discussed with you ahead of time before the ticket was purchased for just him. He needs to be a man and tell his family what they are doing is not right. Failing that, you need to stand up to them and let them know such behavior will not be tolerated in the future.
2006-12-09 16:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand! My mother in law and I have very different tastes in things, made the wedding a nightmare. (She even wanted to wear a white dress to our wedding) My advice is this, your husband needs to show a united front to his family which means that if you're not welcome then he's not coming, when he married you, you became a unit that should not be divided. He should not have accepted the ticket and in the future he can nicely decline to go without his wife. As for your part, put on your best smile and fake it til you make it, it worked for me, I get along rather well with my mother in law now, and try to forget the past.
2006-12-09 18:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by 1 Supermom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what I would do, if it is that difficult to be around them, I would only do some when absolutely necessary. And when you are around them just bite your tongue. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-09 16:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋