Family & Relationships - 29 December 2007

I am in highschool, engaged to the most amazing guy ever. I love him and I know he loves me to but, he wants to get married really soon, and i want to wait till im 21. He wants to get married before i start college because he thinks i will find someone else. I have tried over and over to talk to him about it but he just wont budge and I wont budge. My grandma got married secretly when she was 16 and it didnt work out *i dont know why it didnt which scares me because whenever anyone gets married they always think it will work right? but then it doesnt* I also want to wait because I want to at least have an associates degree *so i can hopefully get a job before I can potentially get pregnant* and to be able to afford a place of our own. I feel like this is the right decision to wait for awhile.... but hes just so insecure! his dad was inlove too when he was our age and engaged but the girl cheated on him... why does my boyfriend have to be so afraid i will do the same? what should I do?

2007-12-29 08:08:11 · 16 answers · asked by Katy 3 in Weddings

ive been with my bf for over 2 months, im a virgin he's not, hes slept with 4 other girls before me (all gf's, sometimes without protection), im ready to have sex so is he and no he hasnt pressurized me or anything.. ive given him oral and ive had no symptoms of STDs, and hes had no symptoms of havin std's either (i know some std's show no symptoms) im jst slightly worried about how many girls he's slept with, and we will be using both contraceptives, condoms and the pill.. but eventually we will want to do it with out the condom.. what would you do?

2007-12-29 08:06:10 · 28 answers · asked by shnuggle wugs 2 in Singles & Dating

I found a boyfriend. There are certain details why i can say our love is honest. The problem is that we met on internet and never really seen each other. (I saw a photo and stuff, of course...) It has been a month now. He lives abroad, but the country is our neighbor (Slovakia - Czech republic). I don´t need to be told about the risk. What I want to ask is this: He wants to come to visit me, but my mom doesn´t agree. How should I persuade her? She says that relations like these don´t last long. But I don´t want to give up so easily! I can´t? Please, I need some advice. Any advice! How to persuade her... Just to allow him to come...

I´m 17 and he is 19.

2007-12-29 08:04:09 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

last night i hookedup with a guy and i really like him. hes the type of guy that doesnt really talk a lot, but hes gotten a bit better at that whole deal. however we have got a lot in common so that shouldnt really be a problem. anyways...what i wanted to know is how do i know if he is for real or if he just wants "booty"....he has hookedup with 4 girls in the 5 or 6 months that he has been here and has only been with each of them either once or for a week. i dont know if he will be any different with me. how should i act to keep him interested? and what signs should i look for in him to see if he wants me.

2007-12-29 08:03:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-29 08:02:58 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

the shy guy wants to know because i dont know. there isnt a shadow of a ring or the finger and your husband or boyfriend may or may not be there. how do people like me know if it is ok to come and talk to you without your significant other or you giving people like me the cold shoulder

2007-12-29 08:01:57 · 1 answers · asked by Madmen22 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-29 08:01:42 · 15 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-29 08:00:45 · 3 answers · asked by jellybeann994 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-29 08:00:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So I am 18 and he is 22. I have had a crush on my cousins cousin (He is not related to me at all) for a long time. I mean but I dont know how he sees me because he is 4 years older than me, and his sister is my age, I dont know but all I know is I really like him alot, and he is all I want in a guy. I noticed now he is more like hugging me and touching my hair and wanting to know what school I was going to.So he asked for my number so we can go out when I go up to Connecticut which is in his area. I wonder if it is a problem for most guys in this situation

2007-12-29 07:58:41 · 7 answers · asked by nativebeauty22 1 in Singles & Dating

So there is this guy i often see him but always with a girl, i believe she is his gf because he even lives with her but i "think " he likes me im not sure though since this girl is always hanging around him like a satellite. this girl looks at me and some of his friends look at me too but i wonder why he seem interested if he is already with someone. I have never seen this guy alone anywhere he is always with her. Am i just imagining things? Or do guys and girls live and hang out together even if they are not dating? Thanks

2007-12-29 07:57:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

title says it all

2007-12-29 07:57:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how can i get over the loss of my first love? everyone keeps telling me time will heal all, but is there something more tangible than that? my heart is so broken, i can't move on from this!

2007-12-29 07:56:13 · 20 answers · asked by mrs. miller 2 in Singles & Dating

My parents don't let me go to a movie or to a party or anywhere with guys much less date them. I really like this guy (he is so sweet and awesome) but I know that I can't like him beacuse there is no chance that my parents will let me go out with him.

He asked me out to the school dance but I couldn't go {babysitting} so I said no and told him why (that mad me sad)

then the next day at school he asked me out yes or no and I said no but I didn't tell him why

now my friends are all snobbing at me that i should give every guy a chance

I'm so sad :(

there is no way for me to reach him (winter break)

2007-12-29 07:55:39 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Let me show you what's been going on.
Friday 28, 2007

I call her. Here is the conversation:
Me: "Hey"
Her" Look, I can't talk right now"
Me" Why?"
Her" 'Cause my friends are over"
Me: "Oh....Can you at least talk for a while?"
Her" No...Look....-------and-------are over. I'll call you tomorrow"
Me" Ok...." (SAD)

Saturday 29, 2007

She hasn't called me. So I called her around 2:15.
Here's the conversation:
Me "Hello?"
Her mom "Hey -------"
Me" Is ----- home?"
Her mom "No..."
Me" Can you tell her to call me"
Her mom " Sure!"
Me" Bye" (SAD)
_______________________________________________
So she always is either 'busy' or at her friend's place (or her friends are over.) Should I be her friend.

P.S. I got another friend but she rarely talks to me. She is my friend. I smile at her in school and she smiles back.

Please help me. I sent her an e-mail about if she is my friend or not.
QUESTIONS:
-Should I be her friend?
-(e-mail) Did I make the right idea?

2007-12-29 07:53:19 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I was talking to him on msn about me not having time to see him before new years eve, and he suddenly said he had to go and get a shower before his nightshift at work, and left without saying bye properly.

After he'd left, I noticed his myspace mood was set to "miserable" and he'd left a comment on his profile saying "wait so no one cares.... SOLD"

Whats that supposed to mean? (the SOLD bit...?)
You guys out there might know?

2007-12-29 07:53:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I go with a white russian boy... he's very spoiled and his parents have alot of money. He is 20 years old but he acts like a 5 year old child LITERALLY! I have to tell him to quit talking so much, and quit actin like a dumass Jessica Simpson BC he is so damn dingy! He doesn't use a rag when he showers, his room is disgusting and he talks me to death, and compliments me on everything i do! Im cussin him out all the time, he lets me use his car whenever I want, and when his parents aren't pissed off at him, they keep his savings account open so I can spend as much money as I want! Truth is I can't stand him the only thing I like to do is use his money and his car, and smoke the weed but thats it! I try to avoid sex as much as possible, I give other guys my number right in front of him and he doesn't even realize it BC he is so damn dumb! Everytime I breakup with him he tells me that he is gonna kill himself. Im trying to find another boyfriend thats on my level,and keep dingy on the side

2007-12-29 07:52:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

although she is married with 5 children. She is about 33 and im 22. Since the day shes met me, she cant keep her eyes off me. I met her through my mum, my mum is friends with her mother in law. I went to her house for the first time with mum once and she couldnt take her eyes off me i was shocked, i knew some how she fancied me. Since that day shes been trying to get me alone and has kissed me passionately on my neck and looked up into my eyes and said my sweetheart. She keep complimenting me saying i wish there was someone like you. Stares at me when im not looking, and basically alot of other things she does e.g tries to touch me.
She is muslim like me, and she got into an arranged marriage 13 years ago. Im 22 and not married.
The thing is even though i know she wants me, in front of other people like family friends she boasts her husband is this and her husband is that. Not infront of me but to other married asian women.
I heard her once, i mean why does she want me if he`s all

2007-12-29 07:48:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I left my ex the beginning of 2007 and moved to out of state with our then 2 year daughter and I am learning that it is not that easy to take care of her on my own and I need to know what if any resources are available to she and I. So far I have
tried to give him a chance to by an active (paying) part of her life, but he gives excuses left and right so I have enrolled in school and I really want to take classes full time, but I know that financially we will be lacking. I want to know how to maximize social services without being dependent.....

2007-12-29 07:44:39 · 5 answers · asked by yp_vasi_gwynn_oak 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

A male friend wrote to me an e-mail saying it.
Thank you for your time.

2007-12-29 07:42:24 · 26 answers · asked by sweetgal2808 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-29 07:41:26 · 38 answers · asked by Romeo 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband invited 2 of his female friends without my consent, told him when I found out that I didn't want his 2 female friends around for dinner but he still invited them. Infact right now they are downstairs drinking wine and getting drunk.

2007-12-29 07:38:48 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My daughter's father and I have a court ordered custody arrangement. The father was an alcoholic and drug user, and after he completed rehab I agreed to let him have visitations. We live in different states so his family picks her up and takes her to there home hours away. We recently became on 'good terms' and he began telling me scary things via the phone (shooting someone up with meth, drinking alcohol, living with a guy who uses drugs, how his mother is messed up on alcohol and xanax.) I am in fear of letting my daughter go out to see him now, but I don't have any proof as to what he is doing except for what he tells me over the phone, which makes it difficult to take him to court. He won't say anything incriminating over text messages or on my answering machine either. What can I do to protect my daughter?

2007-12-29 07:37:25 · 11 answers · asked by Jane 2 in Family

sex is the route cause of most health problems divorces and money.Good sex can solve all above problems so refer all yr sex problems here and live happily

2007-12-29 07:37:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This has happened to me twice over the past few weeks....and it felt great each time. In both cases, they were former Cambridge students who have moved back to other countries after taking their degrees....and it was great to catch up with them!

2007-12-29 07:36:13 · 17 answers · asked by hello world 7 in Friends

im 25 n ive been going out with my fella 4 years next month.
i love him 2 bit n he loves me.
2 be honest the relationship is moving slower than i thought it would. i thought id be engaged n living with him within 2 years but hey we're not.
i really want to start a family. i know he isnt interested. we always use comdoms he insists on putting them on...

i just dunno what 2 do about this. everytime i see a baby or hear that someone is pregnant i get all jelous and wish it was me.

2007-12-29 07:33:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

What Are Signs That A Girl Likes You.

2007-12-29 07:32:43 · 28 answers · asked by samblackyugioh 1 in Singles & Dating

My ex-boyfriend and I have been just friends for a few months. I still love him and care for him. I haven't become interested in dating someone else because I know oneday we will be a couple. We're trying to rebuild what was broken in our relationship. It does however seem like he isn't in a rush to be with me. He just wants to take things slow and I respect that. He's an amazing hot guy and girls can't help but to like him. He's just a lovable person. My bestfriend told me 'Love always finds its way home'. Should I stand by this or move on?

2007-12-29 07:30:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Should I honor her or do my own thing?

2007-12-29 07:28:14 · 31 answers · asked by Adviser 2 in Weddings

We married very young and have been together for 7 years. I want desperately to try anything, including counseling but though she has agreed to try, she seems almost disinterested. I messed up in the past, pushing her to move to the big city before she was ready, and we've faced a lot of obstacles including the loss of her mother.

She says that I'm a great guy, she still loves me, and I'm her best friend, but the passion is just not there, and because of that lack of passion the chances are "slim" that we'll stay together. Is there anything I can do to bring back that passion? I really don't want to lose her.

Thanks in advance for any help....

2007-12-29 07:28:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce