My ex-boyfriend and I have been just friends for a few months. I still love him and care for him. I haven't become interested in dating someone else because I know oneday we will be a couple. We're trying to rebuild what was broken in our relationship. It does however seem like he isn't in a rush to be with me. He just wants to take things slow and I respect that. He's an amazing hot guy and girls can't help but to like him. He's just a lovable person. My bestfriend told me 'Love always finds its way home'. Should I stand by this or move on?
2007-12-29 07:30:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow... what a sad world... Hmm....
I'd say that your best choice is to try to start looking at him like a best friend and not a boyfriend... as I think that's how you think of him still... don't expect you two to get back together... you may hope... but be fully prepared for the fact that you will not get back together and that's the likely option....
That being said... I think that in this case, if you are telling everything... you probably have a better chance than most in the issue... and I'd say that it's not wrong for him to want to take things slowly... I mean, it's probably better that way... and considering that he's not gotten with anyone else it's good news....
Now, if some really good looking good guy asks you out on a date... you need to go and give them a chance... I mean, who knows... it might be better for you... and what's more... it might make you ex a little bit more in a rush to make his move... just don't do anything "serious" with the "new" guy... LOL
2007-12-29 07:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's worth the wait, then stand your ground.
im' still going through this as well, so i understand completely what you're feeling. i lost all hope; he was the very first guy i was actually IN love with, and we called it quits just 3 months shy of our one year anniversary. i gave him a lot of time away from me--i picked up new hobbies and grew closer to old friends i'd neglected. a couple days ago, i gave him a really long speech about how i'm just tired of waiting because i know i want to be with him, but its not fair to me to keep waiting. at the end of my speech, before any tears could fall down my face, he said he wanted to work things out and try again.
though we're not officially back together, i gained my faith in love back. i dont know if the same will happen with you, but all i can say is that love works in miraculous ways. stand your ground; but if he keeps you waiting too long, and you decide that enough is enough, keep your head up and walk away.
good luck!
2007-12-29 15:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by xeternal_heavnx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for him and love him than you will stick by him. You shouldn't move on because I think that he has feelings for you but he's just having a hard time with relationships right now. Don't worry about it. So, just talk to him about it and let him know that you love him and that you care for him. Just let him know that you will always be there for him no matter what his decision is going to be.
2007-12-29 15:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by criswellmary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should move on for a while. Talk to him see how far he expects things to go. And does he mean take things slow like he wants to date other people or slowly try to mend things with you? Yoo guys have to be partners if you want to have a relationship so talk it out and then go from there
2007-12-29 15:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by crazychic705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and enjoy yourself. You are very young and you have all the time in the world to find 'love'. If this guy is the 'one'... you are the other 'one'... but go easy.... there's a whole beautiful world out there!
2007-12-29 15:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Gina C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If hes not making a move chances are he wont. Youll find someone
2007-12-29 15:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Tyler H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you loved you let it go if its for sure hell come back for more...
it can heal if its ment it if u dont try ull neva know but if it doesnt will it be a waste of time thats what you have to aks your self but asking people and listening to their answers is always easy doing it is harder x
2007-12-29 15:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to consider other guys. Even for just a bit of fun. If you are meant to be together then you will be. Let him go and if its meant to be he will come back. if not, then you haven't wasted all your time pining for him.
2007-12-29 15:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Siamese Triplets 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you talking about.
sometimes love does find it's way home. ***but, you really should be prepared, just in case it doesn't***.
don't wait around for him, he knows what he's doing. are you guys still intimate? if so, cut that out soon. you don't want to be his designated f*ck.
2007-12-29 15:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by Red_Rhain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice answer Sister Mama but i think you should try to impress him so that he'll get back together with you.
2007-12-29 15:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋