Should I honor her or do my own thing?
2007-12-29 07:28:14 · 31 answers · asked by Adviser 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's OK for your mom to want you to marry.
Say you'll do it, within 10 yrs.
2007-12-29 07:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do your own thing. When I was 20 I had never dated and had no aspirations for getting married. Then I met my current fiance. We're getting married in March and only 2 years have passed since I was thinking I'd never get married. Give yourself some time. Tell your mom that you want to marry for the right reasons so you don't end up miserable and/or divorced. You don't have to get married to be happy but a lot of people find joy in marriage. Don't write it off but don't think that just because your mom keeps pushing you means you have to get married now.
2007-12-29 15:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised that a mother is pushing you to marry so young. Are you in school? Do you plan on having a career?
Most parents would agree that being self-supportive (financial and emotional) is something you should be able to do before getting married.
I don't think you should marry so young. Sit down with your mother and discuss this issues. Let her know that marrying before the age of 25 is not advised. Get some statistics on line about the failure rate of marriage before 25.
2007-12-29 15:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by J'adore 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
woahh!! At 20, you might be a little young to marry esp if YOU don't want to marry.
Wait a few years maybe like 2 or 3 and see if you want to marry then. But ya if you still don't want to marry at that time then just concentrate on ur education and career b4 you want to marry.
Hope ur mom will be understanding since this is UR life we're talking abt
2007-12-29 15:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lunais 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay for her to voice her opinion about her wanting you to get married, but you getting married will happen when it's suppose to. Just let her know that your focused on your education & career and wants to take things one day at a time. That's all you can do. Don't let her try to arrange your marriage or anything like that, I don't think that's a good thing!
2007-12-30 00:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! First of all, 20 is too young to get married, especially since you don't really want to. Tell your mom that you don't want to jump into something that you are not ready for, and if you did it just to make her happy, it could ruin the rest of your life. It is a huge step and not one that she should be making for you. She wont have to live your life and if it ends up making you miserable, she wont have to feel like that. It is a decision that is up to you and who ever you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Not her. She got to make that decision when she got married, shouldn't you have that same right?
2007-12-29 15:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, there are alot of things in life that we want to do to please our parents but in pleasing your mother you'll only be hurting yourself. you're a twenty year old college student and thats great but you also have a lot to learn about relationships. If you get married now, thats a commitment that you'll be making for the rest of you life and to be honest I think a college degree is more important that a wedding or a marriage for that matter. gain some stability and insight first.
2007-12-29 16:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by mastermind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are a heterosexual red blooded American girl surly you will Merrie.You will want to have a baby.You will grow and be able and willing to take on all this responsibility.You are just not there yet.Most who Merrie at you age only think they are there but they are not.I say 26 to 32 is about the right age now a days.When your ready you will Merrie tel her to stop pestering you .
2007-12-29 16:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by Marble77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her someday and walk away.
20 year old student marrying and then a baby omg .
This aren't the 60s
2007-12-29 17:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by rico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Bakra to cut ne jara hai! Thodi dair ruk jao mere bhai!
I think you are too young to get married at this age. There will be many many conflicts if you get married now! I sware!
I am 20 too but don't even have a blink of this idea in mind!
2007-12-29 16:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Flying Soldier 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do whats right for you. If 20 is too young for you then dont do it. When its all said and done you're the one that stood up there with your man and said "til death do us part" not your mom. For me..im going to be 20 when i get married and its perfect for me...so whenever your ready
2007-12-29 16:27:33 · answer #11 · answered by Nicole A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋