im 25 n ive been going out with my fella 4 years next month.
i love him 2 bit n he loves me.
2 be honest the relationship is moving slower than i thought it would. i thought id be engaged n living with him within 2 years but hey we're not.
i really want to start a family. i know he isnt interested. we always use comdoms he insists on putting them on...
i just dunno what 2 do about this. everytime i see a baby or hear that someone is pregnant i get all jelous and wish it was me.
2007-12-29 07:33:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sounds like he doesn't want to commit to you, you both need to talk about things, if he doesn't want children and you do, then your not compatible, so you should find some one who wants the same as you.
2007-12-29 07:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've been together 4 years and still no signs of commitment? Not engaged or even talks of living together?
Maybe you both see your relationship differently,it's time for a good heart to heart chat with your man,ask him what he wants/doesn't want from your life together,if he can be honest with you about everything,then you'll have more of an idea as to whether you stay with him or not.
If you're both heading in different directions after 4 years,there's not much point in wasting any more time together.
Try and put babies out of your mind at the moment and sort out your relationship first,it sounds like it's had a few problems before babies ever came into your conversation with him.
Just ask him to tell you his thoughts on your life together and you tell him yours,then make a decision from there. Who knows how long he'd sail along in the same situation if you don't get to the bottom of things.
Goodluck,Hope it works out for you.
2007-12-29 07:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-26 01:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by miracle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem years ago with my husband now thought it was never going to happen went out 5 years then i payed half towards my engagement ring,got married 3years later he was a player he said.Just think they are some men not good at commitment been married 29years and 2 kids later.The kids i have never regret the partner think i could have done better he didn't make a very good dad.Hope you have better look.
2007-12-29 07:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not wrong for you to want a baby. But if he doesn't want one, DON'T HAVE ONE WITH HIM. You have plenty of time to have one. If you truly love the guy and don't want to move on, you have to respect his wishes. Have you sat down and talked calmly to him about it? Maybe the two of you can come up with a five-year plan. Figure out what you both want within that time and be willing to compromise. If he won't commit to anything (within a five-year time span), then tell him maybe you should move on. Life is short. You need a commitment.
2007-12-29 07:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to let your partner know that you two are on different levels right now and reevaluate your relationship. Is the baby, marriage, family, things that you're willing to prolong or put on hold for this man? Does he see a future with you? Four years is time enough to start asking the serious questions if these are things you want.
2007-12-29 07:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Do what you think is right. Can you trust him? Will her be there? Talk about it, it's the best thing you can do! Maybe get married first? and if not then and you have a baby, plan a date to get married. Also hopefully your financially smart so you can take care of business! And by the way, that isnt wrong at all. Sounds completely normal to me! Good luck girl! =]
2007-12-29 07:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You really need to sit down and be honest with him about you feel and make him understand that you have respect for him and you are not trying to push him into it, if he suspects that you are trying to trap him then he might run a mile.
You two may just have a case of crossed wires, he may want to start to start a family but was unsure how you would feel.
Talk to him :-)
2007-12-29 07:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is not wrong i watched the Maury show yesterday and the young teenagers that were 13 and 15 and they already having a baby can u believe and u are 25 don't worry about!
ask your boyfriend that u want a family! and tell him if he really loved u that he would have a family with u
2007-12-29 09:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by l0lA=) 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your boyfriend doesn't WANT to get married and have children, why are you still with him? IF you are so adamant about getting married and having children then you are with the wrong man. I think you DO know what you need to do the only thing is that you don't want to give up what you have now.
2007-12-29 07:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a sperm bank and get pregnant after you've finished your education and have a solid career. This guy is not interested. Reality IS that we take care of ourselves...and that no one else is responsible! Good luck to you!
2007-12-29 07:46:53 · answer #11 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋