CrAzy over this older guy?

Question

So I am 18 and he is 22. I have had a crush on my cousins cousin (He is not related to me at all) for a long time. I mean but I dont know how he sees me because he is 4 years older than me, and his sister is my age, I dont know but all I know is I really like him alot, and he is all I want in a guy. I noticed now he is more like hugging me and touching my hair and wanting to know what school I was going to.So he asked for my number so we can go out when I go up to Connecticut which is in his area. I wonder if it is a problem for most guys in this situation

Answer 1

He's paying attention to you. He likes you. There might be something happening here.

Answer 2

Nope. Not a problem. Let's first of all assume everyone is of legal age for starters, then follow my discussion.
Lookit, for whatever reason, society has just decided that it's wrong for an older guy to be with a younger girl. That's nonsense. In all of world history, an older man with a younger woman has been the norm. In all current civilizations other than western cultures, older men are usually with younger women. The only time and place this hasn't been happening is with current western cultures in the last 2 decades. And in the last 2 decades, western cultures have had the highest divorce rates in human history. Maybe we haven't gotten it right here, lately..... Perhaps?
Psychologically, women and men tend to be on the same page when the man is around 10 years older. Men and women have similar ideas on family, children, careers, priorities, responsibility, maturity, home life and home ownership, and stability and at the same times when men are around 10 years older. It's perfectly natural. In fact, give it four years, when you're 22 and he's 26, and you might be crabbing about his immature behavior.
People also worry way, way too much about the state of your relationship 50 years down the road. That is logically ridiculous. Statistically, the odds are you'd be divorced by then in a western culture! You'd better be more worried about how compatible you are NOW and through the childbearing and childrearing years. Besides, you never know - either one of you could get run over by a truck and then it wouldn't matter what happens when you're 85. Also....I ran a triathlon (a friggin' half-ironman triathlon) with an 80-year-old man a few years ago. I didn't finally catch up to him until 2 miles from the end of the run. And I know a 50-year old woman that keeled over and died of from what basically amounted to very poor general health, like diabetes, knee problems, etc. Talking about what your health might be like in 50 years is just really, really stupid.
Go with your heart AND your head here, but don't rule it out. Four years is nothing. You're both consenting adults, just use some common sense. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

There is no problem for you to be having a crush over a 22 year old. It's perfectly normal and your 18 so that's not a bad age difference. It's gonna be alright and you should sit down and tell him how you are feeling. So good luck!

Answer 4

so the age thing shouldn't really matter. My boyfriend is 23 and I'm 19, but the whole situation with him being your 3rd cousin is kind of awkward. I mean you guys have family ties and that might seem kind of weird to him and your family. This kind of happened to my dad when he started to date his step sister and his half brother who is her half brother dont speak to each other anymore. My dad stopped dating her after the fight with his half brother, so things like your situation is awkward and something bad might occur

Answer 5

Just four years? My boyfriend is five years younger than me, OK so it's not so important when you're our age (30) but four years is nothing.

So long as you match each other in mentally, who cares what the ages are.

Answer 6

You're old enough to date a guy 4 years older. Heck, my husband was 14 when I was born!

Answer 7

4 years is not a big difference hun. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 22... Not a big deal...