Family & Relationships - 22 December 2007

My husband and I have been married for slightly over a year, and he has completly changed since we got married. He used to be really caring, always thinking of me, taking care of me when I am sick, helping me out with stuff around the house, always complimenting me to help me feel good. I have recently gotten sick to where I cant work, so I am staying at home, and I do all the work at home, I occasionally ask him for just a littly help if im having a really bad pain day and he gets nasty yelling at me telling me i just sit at home all day and he works i can do it. So he dont help at all or take care of me, I just got out of the hospital after being in there for 10 days he didnt want to visit me when he was there he was complaining and starting fights the entire time. Then he would complain all week he is tired because he had to spend time with me at the hospital. He really has been rude to me a lot and making me feel like crap, if i say something about it he says im over react

2007-12-22 01:44:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I think the divorce rate lends to the fact that marriages should have an expiration date. I don't think most people are honest with the length of committment they are capable of. I think that the few people who are capable of the really long term committments are the only ones who should have kids. It's probably an unpopular opinion, but I think it's right.

2007-12-22 01:43:09 · 20 answers · asked by Lancaid 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Over my lifetime (I'm 47) I've ended a lot of friendships because the person doesn't do what they say they'll do.

Usually it's when they and I have made plans to do something fun, and they cancel at the last minute. They always have a reason, sometimes what I consider a valid reason, other times I see them as 'flaking out' on me.

Usually I can stand for them to do this a time or two, but I guess I'm keeping a score card, and eventually I start thinking the relationship is too much hassle, and I end it.

I'm considering doing this again with someone, where I'll just start pulling away/shutting down, around that person. I think some part of me feels I'm protecting myself from being hurt.

How can I change so I don't keep doing this. I would like to have more friends.

2007-12-22 01:39:50 · 9 answers · asked by Joy_Brigade 3 in Friends

2007-12-22 01:34:10 · 21 answers · asked by mmmmyeah 3 in Friends

Theres this girl whom ive seen around in school quite a number of times, and only recently in which we've become acquainted with one another. Is catching her looking at you more than once a sign that she likes you? Sometimes i can tell she's looking at me and i just dont look back. We've only had one short one-one convo before, but made some eye contact in there. Help?

2007-12-22 01:31:16 · 8 answers · asked by lamecorn 1 in Singles & Dating

to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all?

2007-12-22 01:26:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My girl flatmate and me are really close and always show a lot of effection to each other always hugging and holding each other etc. I really like her and I think she likes me because we have kissed and gone further but not had sex. I told her that i really like her and want to go out with her but she said no and when i asked why she said did like me but didnt wan't to go out with me and we good as friends then said what if things went wrong and we still had to live togther.

My question is do you think thats the only reason she didn't say yes? because the things we have done I would not do unless i really liked the person unless thats just me acting like im old fashioned lol if that is the only reason what could i do to convince her otherwise?

All opinions are welcome.

2007-12-22 01:26:38 · 14 answers · asked by Kevin S 1 in Singles & Dating

No make believes. No dreamers. No braggers. No wishful thinkers.

2007-12-22 01:25:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi guys and girls

Im jus interested to know what ages everyone got married at, and whether any of you got married at a young age and what was life like.

My cousin is 19 and married her husband who is also 19, and they seem to be happy and gettin on with life.

So whats ur thoughts/opinions...what ages did u get married at?

thanks everyone =]

(No silly answers)

2007-12-22 01:20:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I know the guy and hes pretty cool, and i know for a fact that they are strictly friends. But its still bothering me somehow, i think she did it because she looks good in the picture...

2007-12-22 01:19:31 · 30 answers · asked by Jimmy 2 in Singles & Dating

Well I draw a really good portrate of the girl i liked for christmas (as a present which is yet to be opened and found out). It turned out a really good sketched out and coloured picture of her beautiful head and long wavy hair (i'm talking like 90% real life looking, talented art), that's how i expressed my feelings... Lol

What and how would you feel if i did that to you Ladies?

2007-12-22 01:17:51 · 5 answers · asked by The B 2 in Singles & Dating

So my husband and I have been married for over 6 years. Through out that time he has been deployed to Iraq twice for 12-15 month tours and been stationed at a base on the other side of the US for over a year while I stayed in our home with our new baby. He recently got out of the military and came back home only to take a job that required 4 months of training in a town just an hour away, however, he was only able to come home on weekends during that period. So when it comes down to it out of that 6 years we have spent very little of it together... Because of his travels we never got to have a real wedding so when he got out of the army we had a small one with just friends and family. A few months later my best friend broke down and told me that the morning of our ceremony my husband made a pass at her and she had been struggling with it ever since... I was furious and heart broken! I went home and packed my suit case and when he came home I confronted him and he just sat down on the edge of the bed and started crying... Confused by his reaction I just stood there. Finally he admits that he hit on her but honestly didn't know why. Then he says that on top of that he has cheated on me with other people in Iraq, when he was stationed at the other base for that year, and even when he was doing his training just a few months earlier! I thought I was going to be sick... My heart sunk so deep into my chest I couldn't feel it any more.

Now to give you some insight into our relationship, when we started dating I was living with my Ex BF and trying to get out of a very destructive relationship... I was heavily involved in drugs and trying to get clean. When I met my husband at work we immediately hit it off. He begged me to move out of my Ex's house and in with him but I wanted to live on my own for a short time just to get my head clear and to make sure that my friends and family took him and our relationship seriously and didn't think it was just another one of my rebound relationships. By me not moving in with him right away and staying with my Ex in his house my H took it to mean I wasn't serious so he moved in with an old girlfriend and lied to me telling me he was living with family. I moved into my own place got a stable job got off drugs and was doing well. From time to time my Ex would show up at my door or would vandalize my car or call my home and my H thought that I was leading my Ex on... I knew my H was up to something because he would never take me to his home and I finally decided enough was enough and to get away from my Ex's harassment and I thought my H I moved back home with my family (17 hours away). A week later my H showed up on my doorstep and we have been together ever since. Eventually he admitted to living with the woman and I came to forgive him for it but I never trusted him after that... I knew that a relationship built on lies would be hard to build on but I loved him so much that I was willing to work through it. Any way a few short months later after finding out that he had large sums of student loans due he decided the only way to get out of debt was to join the army... He left for basic and then was deployed to Iraq only 2 weeks out of Basic... We got married and pregnant when he came home for a 2 week RnR.

Any way I guess I'm rambling... So now I find out that he's been cheating all this time. I have been completely devoted to him since day one of our relationship... Not even so much as a kiss with another person since he and I started dating... He says when he hit on my friend it wasn't because he wanted to sleep with her but honestly he feels like it was more of a cry for help... He wasn't attracted to her, and he knew she'd run and tell me and he just has no clue what he was thinking... He thinks he has a problem. He swears none of the women he cheated with meant any thing to him. The only details he has given me is that with each woman it was just sex. No secret drawn out affair, no promises of more, he never took any of them on dates or romanced them at all... They were all just female friends that something clicked with and that after each time he told them it was wrong and that they shouldn't have done that... He says that every time it happened he'd stop hanging out with the girl but then he'd make another female friend and they'd hang out and boom it would happen again... The most recent was the girl at the training facility... With her it happened 3 times. They were just sitting in their dorm rooms studying or talking and boom next thing he knew they were having sex. He stopped each time before they finished and told her it was wrong and left. He ended up leaving training early to get a different job because of it... He said the only thing each of these women had in common was that they were easy... The types of girls that pretty much throw themselves at people and have been around the block a few times... He didn't know if he made friends with them because of that or if he realized that after they became friends... So now no more training... No more years of deployments... According to him no more affairs... Is it that easy? Not to mention will I ever be able to respect or trust him? I know I'm an idiot for staying with him... I have been humiliated, and strung along all these years thinking he was just such a great guy only to find out I've married the Cliche' Slime ball... The strange part is I've never seen him cry. He really doesn't show emotion at all but for the past few weeks, since all this has come out, he has cried more than I have... It's not the type of emotion you put on just for show... We are going to do counseling but I just can't get over this nor has he asked me to... The more I yell and scream and call him names the more he begs me to stay and begs me to forgive him and give him another chance.

I mean our relationship has never been normal. We have never had a real life together. It has always been broken up with his travels... So am I an idiot to stay? He has a normal job now. We have a home together and our son is now 3 years old and adores his daddy... If he gets counseling, if we get counseling is there really any chance that he could stay faithful or do I need to grab my son and run before he gives me some kind of STD or some woman shows up on our doorstep pregnant? It's so easy to read someones hardships and say just leave but when there are years of history, and kids, and homes and finances it just makes things so much harder... On top of all that I do still love him. I just hate what he's done... I can't even look at a stupid yellow ribbon on a car without wanting to cry...

2007-12-22 01:12:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We were dating but my parents don't like him because he's at Africa & I'm at UK, I thought we loved each other but i was on my way to school with a friend on a morning & my mate said something funny about my bf's mate & I burst out laughing while talking to my bf on the phone & he accused my friend & I of laughing at his friends & him and we had a fight. That was a week ago & we haven't talked to each other since then. I think he has ditched me and it hurts because I still love him and I miss him. What should I do? Please help me.

2007-12-22 01:11:55 · 23 answers · asked by Osie 1 in Singles & Dating

*** WHILE OPINIONS ARE VALUED, ANSWERS BASED ON FACT ARE NEEDED HERE***

A) What is the best time of day to have a wedding/reception if you only want to serve appetizers with your cake?

B) How should the invite be worded if a full meal is not being served?

2007-12-22 01:05:28 · 11 answers · asked by HH6 4 in Weddings

I am 19 and in college and never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or even touched a girl. I think I should just give up on girls and just plan my life around me and forget about a family and all that. No girl has ever been attracted to me and I highly doubt one ever will. I mean I am in really good shape ( probably some of the nicest abs). I am nice and respectful, I am never mean and always honest. I think I look alright not a model but alright, but I guess girls dont think I look good. I am pretty smart, except in math I hate math. So should I just forget about girls????????

2007-12-22 00:55:53 · 26 answers · asked by I like to drink 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-22 00:52:05 · 14 answers · asked by Azucar 1 in Singles & Dating

what will be his career?
at what location will i find him?

2007-12-22 00:47:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If a guy has a girlfriend and he wants to visit a girl he is friendly with in another country..like take vacation to see her..does he have feelings for her? Lets say they have had something intimate in the past..like kissed & flirted (before his present girlfriend), doesnt that mean that he still probably has feelings for her and that the girl he is going out with is not his 'true love'? Opinions please. (Im a girl by the way..ignore the avatar):)

2007-12-22 00:46:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Single used to mean you were not married...whether you had a significant other, bf/gf, etc...you were single.
Now, people say "single" to mean available/mateless.
When did it change?

2007-12-22 00:45:48 · 17 answers · asked by Digital Age 6 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-22 00:42:16 · 22 answers · asked by qwertyuiopasdfghjklzxcvbnmoooooo 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm having a recent long distance relationship with my boyfriend and I've talked about one of my female friend who is suffering from loneliness and who's living near his place.
After a couple of weeks, he asked me recently if she had anything planned for the new year celebration, because him and his friends (male) are throwing a party and she could come to meet some new people..
I had a weird feeling.. why do you think?
Is it jealousy? Is it normal?

2007-12-22 00:40:18 · 17 answers · asked by Azucar 1 in Singles & Dating

help guys!!! I went out with a friend of whom i really like shopping this past week...and we are both in relationships...i sorta playfully dropped a couple of lines like you are very pretty and i think you are wonderful...stuff like that...anyways I told her that I was ending my current relationship...just not at christmas...like shortly after....and she mentioned she is a little fed up with her current situation. So when can i tell her how I feel? what are my next possible steps??

2007-12-22 00:33:32 · 3 answers · asked by slicky23 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-22 00:32:32 · 11 answers · asked by Supadan 2 in Singles & Dating

Mine went on a work do the other night. He came home the next day and built it all up as he tried to tell me, like 'I thought I'ld tell you first...' . I thought he'd snogged someone and, as I've said to ohim before (though he's never been) that I'm not bothered! How would other people feel- is it wrong or normal?

2007-12-22 00:27:03 · 40 answers · asked by emily_jane2379 5 in Marriage & Divorce

They call each other bi(ches and are more critical/judgemental of each other. (And are proud of it)

When the guy cheats, the woman automatically blames the other woman. What if the women didnt know? If you didnt notice, guys like to lie to get sex.

When many women dress they don't even dress for men, they dress to compete with each other. You know who you are.

If women dont respect each other then how can we expect respect from men? If women don't respect each other can they be leaders of nations? Can't we women just stick together no matter what? We get enough lying, cheating, bashing from a male dominated society.

GIRL POWER!

2007-12-22 00:25:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If you come home one day and see your wife in bed with an another man or maybe having 3 some will you get your shot gun and start shooting the man /s . I just seen that on TV ?

2007-12-22 00:22:47 · 15 answers · asked by Carlos C 1 in Marriage & Divorce

contradicts or complements ur style? but on a second thought people of same interest flock together,,,,,,,so how do you relate these two?

2007-12-22 00:20:39 · 15 answers · asked by Love 2 in Singles & Dating

We are getting a seperating agreement, she doesn't want to be on the loan or deed.

2007-12-22 00:20:19 · 6 answers · asked by Tony M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

okay so me and this guy i like got drunk a few weeks afo and started kissing a little. i didnt mean for it to happen...it just kinda did. but we are hanging out again tonight and i don't want the same thing to happen. i want him to ask me out.

what can i do to hint to him that i only hook up with my bf?

also what should i do/say if he tries to kiss me?

2007-12-22 00:12:22 · 10 answers · asked by emilyy 2 in Singles & Dating