I am 19 and in college and never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or even touched a girl. I think I should just give up on girls and just plan my life around me and forget about a family and all that. No girl has ever been attracted to me and I highly doubt one ever will. I mean I am in really good shape ( probably some of the nicest abs). I am nice and respectful, I am never mean and always honest. I think I look alright not a model but alright, but I guess girls dont think I look good. I am pretty smart, except in math I hate math. So should I just forget about girls????????
2007-12-22 00:55:53 · 26 answers · asked by I like to drink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Come on.... you're only 19... anyway... did you know girls somehow can tell when a guy is desperate? When you start to feel comfortable about being single and begin to think that being single is ok, and you're not going to die about it, you will find someone, because for some reason feeling like you need a girlfriend to feel happy makes them reject you.
My advice to you is just be happy and live your life and feel good in your own skin, only after you are a girl will come.. so stop worrying about that, you're still young and you will have many girls in the future
2007-12-22 01:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 19 years of age you have alot to look forward to. If you are in college you can expand your horizions there by working hard and planning your future after you graduate. Some of the most famous people in the world did not have any relation with the opposite sex until they got married. It is over rated this concept of having to do it by now. And remember there are hundreds who have similar feelings like yours at the college. There are thousands of movies, books and songs on the subject you talk about. Dont give up you will find someone. Right now just try and be yourself and keep working at those abs, Somebody is watching you and she will be in your life someday. Best wishes in school!
2007-12-22 01:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still very young... You need to focus on finishing college. You will meet the right one when the time is right. Most college students go to class and party. If you go where the chicks are you could probably meet one. Be careful. Girls like a guy that's confident, cute, cool, a little aggressive, funny and down to earth. Once you master all that, which might take some time and that's alright because you're still young and you have time, then if you haven't met a girl, you might need to give up on them.
I promise you if you be yourself you will meet what you need. If you don't be yourself you might meet what you want. Needs stay and wants don't...Remember that..
2007-12-22 01:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe what you think these girls are looking at are only on the outside. What really matters is whats on the inside, that's who you have to live with. Not good looks, nice abs, ect. Those are only bonuses.
Never give up, but I think if you stop looking or trying so hard, you will probably meet the right girl for you.
Good Luck
2007-12-22 01:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by M v 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep trying. You said you are average looking, so you're not ugly.
I have to tell you there are two guys i know who are so unattractive they literally make me want to throw up and they both have girlfriends. So if there's hope for them there is damn well hope for you.
One of the unattractive guys i know is my doctor. Let me tell you about him. He looks like Frasier except an uglier version. He is bald, fat, short, pale and wears brown corduroy pants. He doesnt have a single muscle he's just fat. He has a worse body than Danny De Vito. This guy has a wife and kids. I say if there's hope for him theres hope for anyone. I rest my case!
I'd suggest talking to more girls and never put yourself down. You are good enough to find a girl and make sure you believe that.
2007-12-22 01:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u shouldn't! the girls u know tht aren't inrested in u most b missing out! U sound 2 b prty awesome! u sound smart and good looking so somebody willl b attracted 2 u soon. Believe me i'm @ the beggining of middle school and everybody around me have boyfriends or ppl who like them but i don't so don't give up on anything yet ur not even 20
2007-12-22 01:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur only 19yrs old kid relax. what u need to do is hang out w/ ur friends. they may give up tips on how to get dates. i mean dates. don't even think about marriage at 19. also change up ur personality. join some clubs, go to the mall, & go out & meet people. its called networking. talk to people that have similar interests as u do & eventually u will meet girls.
but i want to caution u on a couple of things. do not date any woman that has kids. since ur in college they may see u as a paycheck & leach onto u. don't buy love by spending money on women. trust me it don't work. last thing be urself.never try to be anything ur nt.
2007-12-22 05:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by conan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been obsessing over this issue ( I am not saying you are) you should let it go. However you should no give up on girls. And how do you know none of them find you attractive? ARE YOU IN THEIR HEADS? No you probably are not. Do not give up!
2007-12-22 01:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ceecee G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax - you are too young to be this deep in pity
didn't get married until I was 27 - never had an STD
no unwanted pregnancies - so what did I miss?
25 happy years of marriage
all the best!
2007-12-22 00:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO don't
because you are are so honest (no body likes that) you need to know when to be honest and when not to say a word
think of the art of negotiation
2007-12-22 01:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by OS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋