My girl flatmate and me are really close and always show a lot of effection to each other always hugging and holding each other etc. I really like her and I think she likes me because we have kissed and gone further but not had sex. I told her that i really like her and want to go out with her but she said no and when i asked why she said did like me but didnt wan't to go out with me and we good as friends then said what if things went wrong and we still had to live togther.
My question is do you think thats the only reason she didn't say yes? because the things we have done I would not do unless i really liked the person unless thats just me acting like im old fashioned lol if that is the only reason what could i do to convince her otherwise?
All opinions are welcome.
2007-12-22 01:26:38 · 14 answers · asked by Kevin S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't expect this many answers!! Thanks for everything so far, keep the answers coming please. To the person who asked nope this stuff has not happened when we are drunk the hugging and holding is a everyday thing and the kissing is quite regular too, as for the other thing well that has happened twice since we have lived togther and we have not lived togther for a very long time just a 4 or 5 months.
2007-12-22 01:53:18 · update #1
I think you know she is telling you the truth,you still have to live under the same roof if it all went **** up !..........Date her properly or not at all ! Send her flowers ,get some romance in,convince her that you are the right man for her,do not give up,but keep it simmering,build up slow and sure. Good luck
2007-12-22 01:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by SIMON H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a problem! Also, how often do these trysts happen? If it's an everyday thing, then it will either end up terribly or wonderful depending on whether or not you consummate this relationship! If you do and it doesn't work out, then trouble......if you do and they work out....wonderful......if you do nothing except play.....then you're in for some heartache! But anyway you look at it, you're growing closer and closer and she's scared. Could be your decision will make or break this relationship!!!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!
2007-12-22 01:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by da_zoo_keeper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if you've already kissed or shared feelings for each other you've already crossed that boundary let alone the other stuff you mention and there's no going back.. If you both genuinely have feelings for each other go for it - worst case scenario is that you have a nasty break up and one of you has to move out but if things do work out - well I'm sure you've played that scenario out in your mind!! Talk to her again but make sure that the talk doesn't turn awkward if she doesn't really want to pursue anything - neither of you were drunk when you did things were you??
2007-12-22 01:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mellie Moo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she is just worried, like she said, but then if you don't try you will never know, after all 1 of you could soon find somewhere else to live, just because you go out & it does not work out, there is no reason to be nasty with each other, you could still be civil to each other.
2007-12-22 01:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by Weed 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just after no strings stuff. You seem really nice but she's just playing with your emotions... or maybe she's hiding something from you. Maybe you should talk to her more, get to know her as a person and let her see you as the adorable guy you are. Go out as freinds and stuff like that... you never know, you might even prefer your relationship that way. Good luck with it all.
2007-12-22 01:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Harriet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
awhh
thts rly tough :(
mabey she jsut feels like what she said
she rly does like you
but if she did go out with u nd it didnt work
and ended on bad terms
u 2 wd still b living 2gever
nd she dsnt want that 2 happen
or at least thts how i cee it
and mabey u cd keeep doin the things u r ;)
cos mabey it wd come to something more soon
xx
2007-12-22 01:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's rightfully being cautious, obviously her friendship with you is very important, however if the feelings you have for one another are too strong eventually she will have to make her mind up and decide if she's going to risk taking it further with you, especially if you are going to find it impossible to remain just her friend anyway, prehaps its worth the risk.
2007-12-22 01:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Rainbowz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has established that you are her "friend", which means she will never have a relationship with you. Do not date her, and for God's sake do not listen to her problems. Stop any contact except the basic "hellos" when you pass in the hallway. Get yourself a girlfriend, and make sure she sees you together. If the girlfriend is ugly, even better, that will make her crazy wondering why you're not chasing her.
Women are crazy for attention. Don't give her any and she will seek you out. Don't give in until you get your way.
2007-12-22 01:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Russell C 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
To me it sounds like she telling you she really likes you, but doesn't know you well enough to make a life commitment yet
Hang in there Fridays coming! Good luck! Merry Christmas
2007-12-22 01:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Bee Bee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's right, if it goes further now and goes wrong it will be a nightmare living together. Sensible girl, if its gonna happen it will when the time is right. Be patient my friend!
2007-12-22 01:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by rosiejo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋