Family & Relationships - 6 November 2007

I've been w/ my hubby 4 13yrs married 7yrs,started dating at 17 I am now 31. He cheated 7yrs ago I took him back I 4 gave him. The sex is great & vry vry frequent but he has this obsession of jealousy cuz as once said b4 he probably thinks I'm gonna cheat cuz he did. I'm so tired of the arguing. He makes me wanna go out there & cheat its like he wants me to & omg it so tempts me cuz I think he did why can't I. I know 2 wrongs don't make a right & I know he's not cheating on me but I just don't know how much more I can handle. I get to the point becuz he starts on me that I just wanna leave but how do u leave some1 u've been w/ 4ever & that u do still love? He's a great guy but I can't handle the jealousy & the fighting. Why can't he realize just cuz I'm not up his butt the sec he walks thru the door doesn't mean theres some1 else? Should I just cheat & have that be it? Would it help if I did cuz then he won't feel so guilty of what he did? Plz Plz help I don't know what else to do.

2007-11-06 17:03:12 · 14 answers · asked by NONAME 4 in Marriage & Divorce

wasn't the same thing happening this summer

2007-11-06 17:03:11 · 8 answers · asked by martin c 1 in Marriage & Divorce

He has a gf. We worked together. He would flirt w/ me.It could be considered harmless, but there were times he made suggestions or took it a bit further than just a lil flirting. I left the job, I see him and we still kept in touch. He told me that a guy from work (who liked me) told him that he should give me a shot when my friend told him that we still keep in touch and go out to lunch alot. Laughing, I said just because he wants to get with me doesn't mean you do and he looked at me with raised eyebrows, said no comment. Also, I told one of my old clients that after I left my job, I realized how important he was to me and I loved him.She told him the next time she saw him "you know she's in love with you, right?" He and I have talked about what she said playfully and nothing is weird like it can be with unrequited love. Its like he accepts it, isn't actin on it. He always shares things about his relationship. Even about their lack of chemistry in bed. Am I reading too much into it?

2007-11-06 16:56:04 · 14 answers · asked by Kelly K 2 in Singles & Dating

ok, im getting married in 4 months and my wedding dress is gorgeous but very heavy. i want a dress to slip on after we're done with pics. i cant decide which dress i want to wear at the reception. which one do yall like........im 5'3, 115, and my measurements are 36 24 38...if that helps any

http://davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=3179&prodgroup=10

http://davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=3187&prodgroup=10


thx for the help

2007-11-06 16:52:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

ok, im getting married in 4 months and my wedding dress is gorgeous but very heavy. i want a dress to slip on after we're done with pics. i cant decide which dress i want to wear at the reception. which one do yall like........im 5'3, 115, and my measure,ents are 36 24 38...if that helps any

http://davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=3179&prodgroup=10

http://davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=3187&prodgroup=10


thx for the help

2007-11-06 16:52:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

Do women enjoy this? I've always fantasized about it but haven't met a girl who'd actually like it....

2007-11-06 16:51:49 · 12 answers · asked by RyDawg P 1 in Singles & Dating

What would be the best remedy for separation and moving on? We have signed a year lease and we are only in the second month. Niether of us can afford to take on the bills alone if one of us moved out. But we are not getting along and he is being disrespectful and somewhat violent - breaking our photo frames and punching marks into the walls. This isn't how I pictured it and I don't know if I can stay.

2007-11-06 16:50:10 · 22 answers · asked by Kellie 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Between 2001-2004 was one of the toughest hardest times in my life I got laid off after 10 years at my job, I could not have children, my best friend moved to England, my beloved pastor who was one of my best friends passed away, I went through the worst financial time in my live ever and I was doing everything I could and things still went wrong, my landlady basically evicted my husband and I and only gave us 3 months to move and we always paid our rent on time, my father had a stroke, 9 days after I was given notice of being laid off my husband got a vascetomy because of all the medicines I take just to function I was advised never to conceive.

My question is how can I go forward and heal and enjoy the blessings of today? I just feel so hurt and wonder why this all had to happen. The incidents that Happened that I listed above still at times enter my mind. What is a good godly way to deal with hurt feelings of the past b/c there are times the wounds feel fresh and raw?

2007-11-06 16:44:35 · 8 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm just wondering if any of you have had a significant other that was quite a bit older than you? And by how many years?

2007-11-06 16:43:31 · 8 answers · asked by Madeline Rae 3 in Singles & Dating

I met this girl in class and I really like her, we talked a lot in class and she always looks at me eye to eye when i'm talking. She also laughs a lot at the things I say even though they aren't funny. We have hung out several times of which all were a dinner + movie type thing. After a movie (usually ends at around 9pm) we would walk over to a close by starbucks to have a drink and chat till around midnight. There were never any awkward silent moments during the time we hung out and we both always had A LOT to talk about.

So i've also noticed that I have always been the one starting conversations (on IM like msn) so I decided that I would not message her and see if she would ever message me first. But so far I have not gotten a message from her yet! and it's been around 3 days since we last talked on msn. Is she just not interested or does she want me to always start the conversation? I don't wanna sound too needy too.. Do you think it was a bad idea not to message her??

2007-11-06 16:36:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

the college is alfred university...

2007-11-06 16:32:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Over this past weekend I got a lil too intoxicated since it was my friend's bday. While I was at the club celebrating, I spotted a friend of this guy I've liked-but we're mostly just friends-anyway his friend is actually a roommate of the guy I like's cousin. Well me & his friend were flirting & since I didn't want to drive home drunk, I went w/him back to his place. Well 1 thing lead to another & we hooked up. Then I felt bad so I called my guy friend & told him to come over. When he got there, I'm sure he saw me come out of his friend's room, but who knows, and then me & him hooked up. So yah I pretty much suckered him into coming over so I could hook up w/ him. I'm not sure if he knows I hooked up w/his friend but I'm sure the word got around. Anyway, my guy friend still seems to be my friend after what happened, even though I thought he liked me at one point. But I never told him what happened, but like I said he probably knows from someone else, if so, why is he still my friend?

2007-11-06 16:32:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been telling my husband that my mother in law didn't like me for some reason for a while now. He said I was looking for reasons when I would say she was ignoring me and bating me with hurtful words out of his presence. Then finallyshe snapped one day and yelled I hate your sugar sweetness and I don't want your thanks and your appreciativeness! He had a front row seat and saw her true colors and stuck up for me right then. Well she felt bad and in front of him cried and hugged me but nothing has changed. when he is around she is nice but behind his back things are the same. Plus his sister told lies to the family saying she thinks I will cheat on him with her sisters husband! The lies finally caught up with her and noone believes her but his mom wants me and my husband to forgive her too! Help! All I do is forgive but these too are determined to ruin my family and I don't want my husband to disown his mom and sis. He says dont be nice and don't talk to them. but its worse too tense

2007-11-06 16:30:23 · 21 answers · asked by just bored 3 in Marriage & Divorce

The follwing is a letter I want to send to my ex...

I just want to tell you this. After much thinking, I have come to conclusion as to why I got so out of control, and no doctor or person could help me understand but it was me that had to figure it out.

That night when I was sick in the hospital, you left me there, and you didnt care how sick I was, what was happening to me or if I lived or died. I dont think ever in my life any person that I knew could ever do something to me like what you did to me, especially after how I helped you. I talked to you every night until you fell asleep and made sure you were around another day.

Everyday that I get up, I think you left me sick in a hospital, and you did not care. While my mother was holding my hair back in while I was getting sick in the ER, you were having good time with "Jenna". And everyday after that thought, I think to myself, I am free of you, and I got away from you, because things could have been so much worst.

2007-11-06 16:29:25 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have gone out with guys that r very different from the ones my family have dated. two of them had a disability which required me to use a beautiful language called sign. my last and very recent ex was from the other side of the world.
maybe i have a taste for the exotic//// why would anyone tell me to stop going out with them?

2007-11-06 16:29:01 · 6 answers · asked by princess 3 in Family

And, YES, it is wrong to have an affair with someone who is married?

I know I've asked this before, but I still just don't understand why some people just don't get it!!!

2007-11-06 16:26:57 · 26 answers · asked by ncgirl 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-06 16:25:40 · 21 answers · asked by theinsaneprofessor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-11-06 16:24:11 · 10 answers · asked by denia b 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I haven't seen him since I was thirteen (20 now) and I need to get some memorablia from him. All I know is that he's in Vegas, Nevada. Is there any way I can request his address somewhere (with verifying that I'm his daughter) or should I go on Yahoo! People search or any other of those kinds of sites and order the info?

Suggestions?

2007-11-06 16:24:09 · 3 answers · asked by zailew 2 in Family

Not long ago, i moved out of home, because my mum got a new boyfriend and started shutting me out, ignoring me and blaming me for absolutely everything.
Her boyfriend is a JERK. he usually yelled at me and called me very offensive names.
So i moved in with my grandparents.
A couple of weeks later, my friend told me that my mums boyfriend told her that he had said i was a bad daughter and that i didn't love my mum cause i left her.
I think i did tha right thing by myself, as it had gotten too much for, because of school and all my exams and stuff.
Too much strees.

2007-11-06 16:23:34 · 8 answers · asked by Lanabee 2 in Family

Can someone please tell me what this possibly is? Am i depressed? or just too stressed? I feel like i have so many problems in my life when it comes to family, and i feel like my boyfriend is the only one who supports me. My mom is always mad at me or my family, my dad is ok but we have our differences too, and i dont really get along with my brother. I feel like everyone in my family is selfish and only do things to their advantage. If i argue with them i start to get really emotional, it gets to the point where i will cry so much that i can't even breathe properly and i have to take really deep breathes to calm down, i also feel my heart beating really fast when im that emotional. It's just something i can't control. I also feel like i cant control my own life; and on top of everything i have ocd but i dont tell anyone because i don't want them to think im nuts or something... So what is this am i depressed or whats going on? and how can i fix this?

2007-11-06 16:17:33 · 10 answers · asked by Ooh-La-La! 3 in Family

percent marriage/divorce rate. do you just keep going, anyway? thanks

2007-11-06 16:14:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

no question really, im just really excited and wanted to share!!Any advice from your brides out there would be great!!

2007-11-06 16:12:12 · 18 answers · asked by R G 1 in Weddings

my fiances ex wife is 3 years older than him and i'm 10 years younger than him...but i'm still feeling insecured by her now and than..if she was going to steal him away from me again...am i rushing into marriage ?or am i just being paranoid..he keeps reminding me that we are going to be together soon..but this is just isnt enough with me..i dont even know what is that i want?please help..

2007-11-06 16:08:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Okay so my ex boyfriend and I ended on VERY good terms so now we are really great friends. Okay so then he got this new gf and she is a major slut. I dont know how to tell him how I feel about her. He always asks me what I think of her but I cant tell him really. Should I say something or just shut up?

2007-11-06 16:05:09 · 3 answers · asked by tennisbabe4eva 2 in Singles & Dating

She never had the much experience with sex and she wanted him to be her first? I told this to a guy that I love!

2007-11-06 16:04:29 · 4 answers · asked by always4him 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-11-06 16:04:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

should i go out and find my mother? my parents divorce so me and my little brother stay with dad but dad gettiing worst..

2007-11-06 16:02:17 · 7 answers · asked by Walter 2 in Family

2007-11-06 15:59:32 · 7 answers · asked by ^_^ 4 in Singles & Dating

My brother is always trying to tell me how to do things ,

Example.
If i am listening to music , and doing my homework.He'll get all smart say that i can't concentrate .

He doesn't help pay for gas, though i drive him almost every single day to school. We both go to the same school.

Went and told my Dad about having 8 tardies

When i went and ate fast food , mentions the fact it's unhealthy that i am going to get fat.

Likes to say his better driver than me .

Once i went to the mall to get something to wear for this date. But all he wanted to do was go straight home. So i bought him this t shirt, because i like to be nice.
He mention that me buying him a t shirt, was his treat, for having to go to the mall with me. And not straight home, like he wanted to do.

Once he went through my wallet , asked why i had my insurance card. Asked me , these are his exact words, "If i had it all figured out" . I guess his jealous that i am growing up.
And he whats to prove his more mature than me

2007-11-06 15:54:26 · 8 answers · asked by Moanika 6 in Family