Family & Relationships - 26 October 2007

Ok, to be frank I loose respect for guys when they talk about women as sex objects.

Why is it I see this alot in guys?

I am angry at people who outlet they're problems into drugs/sex.

But mostly my question is related to this-->

At work/school/wail mostly anywhere(when I get to know the guys) They seem to talk about girls like their just sex object and I seem to attract the druggies around me... like the druggies will tell me that they do pot and stuff... and I really seem to loose all respect for that person/persons after that...

Is it ok for me to be angry at them?

Is it ok for me to resent them?

Is it normal for a person to loose respect for somone after learning about their habbits?

and finally

What is a good perspective to have when dealing with situations like this?

2007-10-26 19:34:33 · 2 answers · asked by Aubrey C 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

how can i forget the love of my life . ?
love is like the dove two wings and a head. two wings are feelings and honesty. the head of the love is TRUST. i cannot trust her any more ( she had sex with other guy ) the head of the dove is cut . i still love her but i cannot live with her. how can i take
that love out of my heat .. plz ??

2007-10-26 19:32:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

firsts off, i asked this girl to the homecoming dance, and we decided to go to the homecoming game before the dance tomorrow. So we hung out, and we talked... heres the thing, it was a personal thing were we just both hit it off on the first time we hung out.... it was just thing were we kept asking question and talking about ourselfs... was this a good or bad type of "date"

2007-10-26 19:30:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-26 19:29:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My friend was talking to him and asked if he would ever go out with me. he sed he probasbly would if i asked him. The thing is.... i dont know how i feel towards him .... what do i do?
Thats Him (he wasnt ready for the pic)
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=146107196&albumID=2210021&imageID=12788589
Im on the right
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=146107196&albumID=2210021&imageID=12788569
(pics from sports day)

2007-10-26 19:29:06 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

can you please tell me why a woman would tell on her self after she thought a man around.19. wanted her. but didnt. when she has.4. children. and a husband. and she.s in her.40.s . and thinks oce she was well used by the younger one wanted her. no way isnt she degrading her children and husband. she was no more than trailer park trash. to think what she did . is this the mommy type for her family. once she cheated .why would a woman that age think a .19. year old would want her. no way .can she compare to a woman my age . tried but failed .would you not say she was cheap. on having sex with one at.19. years old and now is being divorced over what she did. and getting other.s in trouble as what she had done. she isnt really fit to be called a mother. why woul a woman her age think she was decent. after she did that isnt she more like a child molester rather than a woman after all she was older and married trying to act like she was in her teen.s no way isnt that degrading.trash.

2007-10-26 19:21:22 · 8 answers · asked by matthew v 3 in Marriage & Divorce

accept what I've told him? I've told him that there's no chance we will ever hook up...but yet he keeps trying. Why? Will he ever give up. At the same time, he sends me mixed messages. I'm confused. I wish he'd just move on.

2007-10-26 19:14:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-26 19:12:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

when i first met my husband i was 5'9 and 150 pounds.....nice chest, big butt and small waist....i did not realize how cute i was until now looking back..but anyway..since i had my lil girl who is now 20 months old i have had a hard time with my weight...I am 5'9 and i have gotten down to 185pounds (smallest i have been in 2 years) but i have no self esteem left....i dont even get naked in front of my husband and when we are intimate all lights off and i dont let him look at me or we may not even get intimate b/c i get ashamed of my body and i cant enjoy it.....how can i build up my self esteem and feel sexy in my own skin? i want to feel pretty again but when i look in the mirror i just see this gross person and i cry!

2007-10-26 19:12:01 · 12 answers · asked by jewelry lady! love my job 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is in Iraq, and well is his cusin's wedding... TMORROW, yes last minute i am here sitting infront of the card NOT KNOWING WHAT TO WRITE!!!!! Please help! I really have no idea what o say other than... congrats?! thats just not my style!

2007-10-26 19:11:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

my doughter is 12 is that to young to have a boyfriend

2007-10-26 19:11:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I've been seeing a man for 1 1/2 yrs. He does everything for me. Provides my home, pays all the bills and gets me anything I need. We talk of our future together and building a home someday.
He's 48 and I'm 43. Problem is he still lives with his mother. He's been married twice and divorced.
Both marriages were fairly short. His Mom hated his first wife. The second wife he had two sons with so I think she tolerated that. As for me she's jealous. They take vacations together, and she say's he's her companion. It makes me purely sick to hear him refer to things they've done or seen as
"we" or "us", and "our". I almost feel like I'm dating a married man. He's been living at "home" for 13 years now. Mom is far from helpless, she gets in her car and goes wherever she wants to. But when he has a day off from work she's ready to go and has plans for them. Sometimes I'll get a call and be asked if I'd like to join them. Anymore I just wait my turn. I'm lonely waiting for him.

2007-10-26 19:10:40 · 1 answers · asked by Jusme 2 in Singles & Dating

People would say: "move on". But I met a girl when I was young and fell in love with her. I wrote her a letter that the USPS did not deliver. I asked for a response and got none, so I figured she cared less about me. Recently, after 30 years I found her. She told me she never got the letter, was married for a brief time and was divorced and was single for 20 years looking for someone like me. She cried when I told her how I have felt. Now that I found her, she got married 3 years ago. It's too late. Should I pursue her? Should I give up? If I give up...I really have decided my life is over. She has been my inspiration...there has been no other and never will be.

2007-10-26 19:08:33 · 11 answers · asked by Richard C 1 in Marriage & Divorce

What profession are you in?
What profession was she in?
How long did you date prior to marriage?
How long have you been married?
What went wrong?
How come you did not see it before marriage?

Please answer all 6 questions. Please do not submit answers like, "I got married when I was 26......" because as you can see the question SPECIFICALLY asks for the age 30. Please do not answer, "I do not believe in marriage" because as you can see the questions imply that you do. I am doing a research project in psychology on love.

Please share a story. Please be descriptive because that is what I am looking for. I got the time to listen.

Thank you for respecting my wishes and for answering my questions.

2007-10-26 18:58:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

This guy I l like, he has never had a gf or kissed a girl before. One night we flirted while we were a little bit drunk. My pals there knew I still liked him so they encouraged us and kept trying to make us touch each other, and they said “I think he likes you”. I randomly left, He left me 2 voicemails later one saying "I hope you got back 2 your room ok Ill see you or IM you" He imed me the next morning and he kept asking me questions. He also wrote on my Facebook wall. Hes never done any of these things before, I thought they were good signs. My awesome friends didn’t mind their own business and kept egging him on about me for awhile and my pal told me he said he doesn’t like me (my pal is NOT lying) the day I found out this, my crush knew about it, he stood near me at a concert and ignored me, I ignored him, he walked by and just said “hey” and later that night when we hung out he entered the room and said “hey everyone” and then “hey” to me. This doesn’t mean anything right?

2007-10-26 18:57:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, this guy at work is married and so am I. Sometimes when I'm not looking, he would just stop and stare at me for a few seconds. I think that he would walk by my office just to see if I'm there or make a few excuses to get close to me.

I thought perhaps he liked me, but then I noticed that he also flirts with another young and attractive female worker as well.
At first when I thought that he was attracted to just me, I was flattered, but then I found that he was the same to someone else, I became disgusted and glad that I'm not his wife.

What do you think of this guy? When is flirting wrong?

2007-10-26 18:55:48 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1 in Marriage & Divorce

When picking the one, what clues do you look for to tell that she will be "wife material"

2007-10-26 18:52:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What are the characteristics of your dream woman be? (ie, describe her personality)

2007-10-26 18:50:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-26 18:47:37 · 12 answers · asked by purple dove 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Who are the ones that should go to marriage counseling? Who does not need to go to marriage counseling? Did you go to marriage counseling?

How long did you date prior to marriage?
How long have/were married?
How old were you when you married?

Please try to answer all 6 questions. Please do not answer, "I am not married" because as you can see that would not really satisfy my question. Please write more than 5 sentences. Please respect my wishes. I am doing a research project on love.

Please share a story or someone's story. Please be descriptive since that is what I am looking for. I got the time to listen.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2007-10-26 18:47:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

6 Months ago i gave birth to my daughter and moved in w/ my now ex boyfriend and who still lives w/ parents. 2 1/2 months later he kicked me out and put all my belongings outside of his house, so I had to move back home w/ my parents. He kept our daughter and would not let me take her. there was nothing i could do b/c there was no custody order! A few days later he filed for sole custody and would not allow me see my baby except at his house when he is there. I had been the one caring for her everyday while he was at work and even home. I have been the one to get up w/ her in the middle of the night several time a night and everything else! His mom turned on me and basically thinks my daughter is her baby! We have gone to court only for the status hearing , he agreed for me to have our baby during the day while he is working and every other weekend until the trial. He always stays home from work those days does not allow me to see my daughter.

2007-10-26 18:41:28 · 6 answers · asked by hello 1 in Family

Not sure what to say, how to say it, or when to say it. I would be most grateful if you could help. :)

2007-10-26 18:40:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-26 18:37:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-26 18:36:00 · 30 answers · asked by carlywarly 2 in Friends

What signs do you look for when you are rating a woman for marriage? What are red flags that indicate inmaturity in a woman that would not be fit for a wife? Have you ever been wrong?

Please do not submit answers like, "I do not rate women!" because then you are not answering my question since the question asserts that the answerer does indeed rate women for marriage. Please submit more than 5 sentences. Please respect my wishes. I am doing a report in psychology on love.

Please share a story that you may have or that you may know of. Please be descriptive for that is what I am looking for. I got the time to listen.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

2007-10-26 18:35:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband's brother is getting married in April. My husband is the best man and our daughter is the flower girl. I will have to take care of her during the ceremony and be there when she gets ready with the rest of the girls. At the wedding where do I sit, the brides side by the girls and my daughter or on my brother in laws side because he is my husbands brother????

2007-10-26 18:34:23 · 11 answers · asked by Miranda 3 in Weddings

So this man has been flirting with me for months, sets up a situation for us to be alone, and when I move in for a kiss he backs up and says "I have a really good woman at home and I don't want to mess that up"....WTF? So I bolted but after he flirted with me for months afterwards and even tried to arrange for us to be alone again, I got to thinking maybe what he was trying to telll me was that he wanted an affair, no strings attached. IOW, he didn't want to upset his kids and home lfe but yet found me very attractive. Or was he saying he'd changed his mind and wasn't interested?

What's your opinion?

2007-10-26 18:34:03 · 14 answers · asked by galadventurous 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My Dad is 60s and I am 30s and I have a family. I grew up with all of my relatives including him using racist names for other races. I always new it was wrong, but chimed in with them in my youth as I was lead to believe it was ok by the people I was supposed to respect.
I am white and married a black woman and we have a beautiful child. My father stopped using bad names for blacks a year or 2 after I was married. He's visiting our area from out of state and he started using words for other races like Julio's for hispanics, and towel heads for arabic people, around my 3 year old daughter and me. I told him he needs to stop that and never do it again around my daughter. But he insists they are not racists names just "funny" names and refuses, and has walked out or hung up on me 3 times now. I told him that I am sorry but he is not welcome to spend time with my family until he can give me a commitment to not use those words around us any more. I willnot let it slide anymore b/c mychild

2007-10-26 18:33:40 · 13 answers · asked by mjefferson96 5 in Family

2007-10-26 18:33:19 · 9 answers · asked by Lee 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Married 23 years, 2 yrs ago we almost divorced and I moved out for 6 months. He was a control freak and very jealous until I found out he hadf some g/f's on the net and a lot of porn but not intrested in me. I came back thinking things had changed for the better. He does nothing but lie. his job comes first then he told everyone we know how I spent all his money. Now he gives me an allowance, he makes twice as much as he did and doesn't like anything about me. doesn't want me to get a job but I may anyway. our kids are grown but he wants me to watch our daughters son all the time. He spends money on me with no complaints from me or him but he acts like he doesn't need or care for me. His answer is if I didn't you wouldn't be here. Bottom line is I am just not happy. He was jealous before and I hated it. he still is but only for things he doesn't have an interest in. I was jealous for a couple years after I caught him but I don't care any more. I want out and I'm scared.

2007-10-26 18:27:38 · 23 answers · asked by Madison 2 in Marriage & Divorce