People would say: "move on". But I met a girl when I was young and fell in love with her. I wrote her a letter that the USPS did not deliver. I asked for a response and got none, so I figured she cared less about me. Recently, after 30 years I found her. She told me she never got the letter, was married for a brief time and was divorced and was single for 20 years looking for someone like me. She cried when I told her how I have felt. Now that I found her, she got married 3 years ago. It's too late. Should I pursue her? Should I give up? If I give up...I really have decided my life is over. She has been my inspiration...there has been no other and never will be.
2007-10-26 19:08:33 · 11 answers · asked by Richard C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What a sad sad story. I have to say you must let it go. At this time it is not meant to be. Perhaps in the future. Right now you should love her enough to let her go. She got married and is happy. You should let go of the past.
I know what it is like to feel like this is the only person you will ever truly love. And perhaps that is true. But honestly, there are so many other women in the world. Spend some time learning what you like. Focus on your life. Think about what you like, and what you want to change. When you are ready, move on. Have faith, you shall love again. Maybe not the same way, but there is hope for you yet, friend.
2007-10-26 19:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kimmi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can decide your life is over, but it's not--because you're sitting at your computer.
You should NOT pursue her, she's not available. You can spend the rest of your life reliving what you should've done, what you could've done, and what you would've done, but the end story is--you didn't do it. Respect the marriage she's in, respect the vows she's made to her husband. If her marriage ends, then by all means feel free to pursue her. I think you'll find though that after 20 years, she's a different person. Maybe not though. But it's really a moot point--she's not available for you to pursue.
I think you might be suffering from depression here--counseling could help you. If you're considering ending your life, please don't do that--please call 911 if you're thinking of hurting yourself. There are people in your life who care about you, if you hurt yourself, you hurt them even more.
Best of luck to you.
2007-10-26 19:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Altho, I hate the "move on" and the "if its meant to be it will be" But, I guess its true... If you both are meant to be then one day you will be..
Its hard getting over someone who inspires you and someone you love.. 20 years is a long time, I would find it hard to believe that you both are the same people you once were.. I mean if you were together, you might not be the same people that you were all those years ago..
Not that I really have any advice, but .. If she is happy with her hubby, then maybe you do need to move on, but you'll always have her in your heart...
Good Luck...
2007-10-26 19:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Inquiring Mind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My god man don't you know you have been dreaming of someone who does not exist anymore. She isn't the same person you remember and neither are you. About the letter how do you know she didn't get the letter because she told you she didn't. I hate to bust your bubble but did you ever think she got it but didn't feel the same way and didn't know how to handle the situation. In any event your not going to get closer on this one so you will have to move on like it or not sorry. Your not being fair to other women no woman alive will ever live up to what you have built this woman up to be you see her as some kind of goddess who holds your life in her hands. I wonder if you really hear yourself. I don't mean to sound mean and I'm sorry if i do but i think someone needs to tell you like it is.You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get a grip on yourself and stop talking about your life being over. Tomorrow you could walk down the street and bump into someone and fall madly in love with them so don't give up.
2007-10-26 19:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, don't pursue her as a girlfriend but if you can try and be a friend to her. People change over time and she may have changed. If things don't work out with her and her husband than you still have a chance but if she is happy with him then don't break up her relationship with her husband. I know it's hard to move on but you have to for your sake and hers. It is heartbreaking but I think you are limiting yourself to the point where you are blind to so many amazing other women out there who could be perfect for you. Your life isn't over it just came to an intersection and you need to pick which road next. You can take the one leading away or the one that runs along her road just to be there for support.
2007-10-26 19:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by al l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue your life with your loved ones get married with someone else and stay in touch with her
2007-10-26 19:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, she may be the love of her husbands life now
2007-10-26 19:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u had a life without her and u can continue... dont ruin the marriage she is in now {}
2007-10-26 19:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only death is unfix-able other than that everything has a solution
2007-10-26 19:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how romantic you are! Wait her until she got another divorced.
2007-10-26 19:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋