Family & Relationships - 4 September 2007

ok, first, i asked her out already, and she answered yes, but she's worried about her brother, because he's my best friend and she doesn't want to ruin our friendship, plus i can tell that he doesn't want us to be together, because we went to an art festival yesterday, and she wrote my name on her arm, and she made a drawing that said "I LOVE BEN". when he saw it, he ripped the paper, and he made her erase my name. i don't know what to do, because he's my best friend, and i really really like his sister....please help!!!

2007-09-04 18:37:38 · 15 answers · asked by Ben 1 in Friends

my relative uncle and her elder sister having a dispute related to her daughter, she is a divorcee and her daughter has left her husband's home as he is jobless. now uncle her[daughter] to return back her hime but she as well as mother refuses to send her back. they have dialogue fight for over this topic, now living in the same home they have made different kitchens. their father [girl's grandfather] not telling anything to them. what to do?

2007-09-04 18:36:54 · 7 answers · asked by naaz 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I was just wondering if anyone had a spouse who had an affair and he or she decided to forgive, and how they are doing now? How long ago was it? Do they truly feel they are 'over it' now or does it still haunt them? Or are they basically doing okay, but still have moments of pain? My husband and I have and are going through counselling, our marriage is much, much better than it was before, and generally we're doing alright. But things come up between us still sometimes and it's so painful for me, it's hard to bear. It's been about a year and a half. I was just wondering how other people have coped with it.

2007-09-04 18:36:39 · 7 answers · asked by Jenm 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Good friends for a long time, never saw him like that but he's always had something for me

then just this yr. we kissed - one of the most amazing things i've experienced...

now he's acting different: can't talk as much, doesn't know what to do, apprehensive, not as confident w. me but with everyone else he is, seems to always be thinking of his next move and you can tell he's more conscious, he doesn't go to my for advice or problems as much anymore and when i confront him, he's "got it", and there are no problems...he's normal with everyone else except for me...

Did the kiss change him? everything? it dictates everything for him now...

2007-09-04 18:29:13 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok so my husband and i were having a recurring issue (not cheating) that we've argued about. he does something that really hurts and disrespects me as a woman and as his wife, i asked him to stop. three times after this, it continued. each time i freaked out and got upset. he apologized, we moved on with our lives. about a month later, it happened again and i had said the last time that if it happened again, i would seriously consider leaving because it was unfair to me. i told him i would NEVER do something repeatedly knowing it would hurt him - thats not love. anyways - he did it again and when i finally talked to him about it and repeated how i felt he seemed really genuine. he felt like he didnt deserve me anymore and that hes now realized that hes been as a**hole and hurt me when ive never done anything to him. he cried and seemed really upset and really scared i was going to leave him. do you think he got the point this time? i dont think it will, but what should i do if it(cont)

2007-09-04 18:26:22 · 16 answers · asked by raspberry 3 in Marriage & Divorce

aaaahhhhh!!!!! lol. but seriously. my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year+ now and we are really happy. since then, this one ex gf has been trying to come between us.
like for instance, she would adjust her screenname to match his (she is on his top friends. they are still cool, but not like that, i know this.) then when i put my page on private, she changed her name to cooperate the word "the intimidator."
that was last month. now. my bf and i had an argument and he posted something about a knife in a bulletin (he wasnt talking literally and both of us were posting jokes back n forth) and she not only changed her name to "smile n your face" but she got her sister to change hers to "all the time they wanna take your place" , quoting the old OJays song, backstabbers. basically, i wanna know if i should put her in her place or leave it alone.

p.s. he is a minister/preacher and church females will be ruthles in order to get with men with this status. what should i do?

2007-09-04 18:23:28 · 11 answers · asked by kandycisses 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend is a korean who is married to a korean woman also, they both live here in Philippines for business. Now me and my boyfriend has a daughter and we want to follow his lastname without the knowledge of his wife. Will it be reported to the Korean Embassy that my korean boyfriend has a baby to me?

2007-09-04 18:21:20 · 9 answers · asked by Ai-ai 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Hi i have been noticed some "changes" in my bf mood. Also, i feel that's something is happen behind my backs sometimes. Right now, we separated because i felt worried about he behaviors....and i decided to give us a break. But all the time, there' s something annoying my heart. Something like a bad presentiment.
Does anybody can tell me something about privates investigators.....like where can find them?, What kind of info they need??? everythinggg!!!
yes!!!! i want to send him one!! I dont want to be a stupid in this relationship and want to know if i'm wasting my time.
I live in Los Angeles CA ......All tips will be apprecciated
Thanks!!

2007-09-04 18:19:06 · 6 answers · asked by My ♥ Is In The City By The Bay! 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I had to bite his arm cause I couldn't breathe, he says if I press charges he will too.(He has a bite mark) The police said I probably won't get VPO unless I press charges I have 4 kids, need to get out he won't let me leave I'm afraid he will really hurt me on of these times. OK I know... sounds like some Jerry springer stuff, right.Oh and I don't have a job or daycare cause he wouldn't let me get a job, don't have money for an apartment, can't stay here cause his dad lives next door and he will always be here harassing me, even with a VPO, we have no visible neighbors. Any suggestions??

2007-09-04 18:16:16 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have a 14 months old little girl who belongs to my x boyfriend, now I have been with this guy Im with now since my daughter was born and Im preg with his bub. . My little girls dad asked me if I was and it just came out and I said yeh Iam, He turned around to me and said WELL since your having anther one you dont need this one, and once you go in to have this anther one you wont get your daughter back at all.
Im scared because he has kepted her before for 2 weeks and I couldnt get her back because the police wouldnt help or anything we did get her back but took matters in our own hands, Now I know his not joking because his family has the money to fight to keep her!!! can he do this, take her from me just because Im having anther baby?! Im really worried that Ill lose my daughter, no baby could replace her because shes me all over and I love her to death!!! No smart A** answer please!!!

2007-09-04 18:12:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

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DO you think im being bad, irrational for thinking that women who get pregnant and marry early?

women who married early wasted their life, i am so sick and tired of my friends getting married at the age 0f 18, of my cousin wanting to get married at the age of 21 without even trying to reach her dreams, as if marrying is the point and purpose of all women, im just so sad whenever many 16 to 20 year old women who have not fulfilled their dreams and career yet, and they marry and they lose many chances and possibilities in life,as if sex is all that matters, i dont
understand it, is it still love if it takes away chances that should have made a woman better?

2007-09-04 18:11:59 · 23 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Singles & Dating

i belong to a broken family, my aunt was the one who raised me and took care of me ever since i was a baby. I kind of left her to help my sister established her business together with her foreigner bf. Since i am more experienced and decisive, I helped her a lot. i helped her from zero to a stable business now. But last year i decided to work and finally let her manage her own business that she took it bitterly. But i got sick and she didn’t actually offer any financial help, i couldn’t just stay at home asked her all the time for money for my medications. I worked again. Ever since i started working her bf treated me so cold and he looks at me with mockery. He even told me "separate your life”. Do i deserve to be treated this way? We live in the same house; her bf comes in the country to visit her almost every month.Would it be so bad if i leave them now and try to build my future, live my life the way i want it?i packed my dreams for almost 3 years to give way to my family...

2007-09-04 18:11:43 · 15 answers · asked by Cassenav 3 in Family

I feel very lonely and sad and wants to cry?
but i cant cry this time.

i totally fed up with my life.

why it happens with me...............................
i still cant forget my love. he is marrying with another girl
i cant suffer this time .
when i imagine that ...................................................................

2007-09-04 18:11:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Whenever I see a question on here from a woman asking **** like

"How can I get a man"
or
"How can I get him to like me"

(Now unless the girl was REALLY REALLY REALLY ugly AND fat) it makes no sense

GOD IT MAKES ME SO ANGRY!!!

Where are these girls who are looking for boyfriends!!!

You have no idea how hard the dating scene is for a guy, IT SUCKS FOR US!! WE HAVE TO DO ALL THE WORK!!

Its so easy for women to get guys, why do they need help.

2007-09-04 18:07:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Since young, my father-in-law has never fufilled his duty as a father to my husband. He doesnt work to support the family and always asks my mother-in-law for money. My mother-in-law brought up my husband by working as a sweeper and with help from social workers. When I married my husband, my father-in-law did not help pay a single cent. Our son is already 2 months old and he has never helped at all. Not even when we had difficulty paying my son's hospital bills (Jaundice). He has a stall in a hawker centre which he rents out for a few hundred dollars a month and he keeps all the money for himself and always ask my mother-in-law for money to buy beer. He has only seen my baby once and since then I refuse to let him see my baby again because I think that he is not fit to be my baby's grandpa. Do you think I am being cruel, selfish or unreasonable? Because my mother-in-law think so.

2007-09-04 18:07:28 · 7 answers · asked by serene 3 in Family

im in the same chemistry class as this guy
im a sohmore he's a junior
my friend is in the same english class and she told me that he was planning on breaking up with his girlfriend.
on friday he sat next to me and it was reeeally cute how he introduced himself and everyhting and then randomy he told me " im really mad MY GIRLFRIEND is smoking cigs" and i was just liek great his girlfriend. but then today he sat next to me again and it wass totally flirtatious I CANT STEEEAL HIM FROM HIS GIRLFRIEND THOUGH!!

i want him to think of me as more of a consideration if he breaks up with that chick. i dont want to just be a friend. anything i should say to him?

like hey wanna tutor me??? lol

i heard if you use phrases liek" it was soooo HARD" it will make him think of sex :)

2007-09-04 18:05:11 · 4 answers · asked by Merideth 2 in Singles & Dating

She basically told me that she likes this one guy more, who is breaking up with her boyfriend to go out with her (she has knwon him since the beginning of summer, I believe?). I guess I should have known when she spent an hour talking to this guy on the phone the other night when I was with her at a party. We were set to go out on a date after making out at the end of the party. The usual cheer me up crap applies too (I am good looking, I would go out with you if it wasn't for him, etc she told me)

Is it something I did or was it just not meant to be? I guess I got what was coming to since I have pulled the same crap with girls in the past (sometimes by completely never speaking to them again without saying a word).

2007-09-04 18:01:39 · 2 answers · asked by MLeinart7 2 in Singles & Dating

Okay, My freinds say I have high standards and thats what keeps my from talking to girls and not fear. (Trust me its the fear)

I don't know what it is, but Im just not attracted to "Sexy" women, I Guess Im more of a girl next door kind of guy, I like the sweet and cute over sexy and hot.

Here is what I look for

Overall Smaller then me (Im 5'7 and 150lbs) I have to be taller and Im not fat so i don't deserve a fat chick.

Younger then me Peferebly HS Senior, (Im a college sophmore, but Im a year younger then evryone in my class, my birthday was right at the cutoff point when i was a kid) and I would like to go to Prom (I didint get to go to mine)

Not Black...I don't mean that in a racist way, Im just not attracted to them.

Not super-southern (I live in north carolina) I mean like confederate flag in there room, that damn accent, and that southern girl face(you know what Im talking about)

Heres the big one, heres the one that screws me most of all though

NO TATTOS OR CRAZY PEARCINGS!!!!

I can't stand them, I know I have no right to be picky. but Im just not into them, they instantly kill ALL ATTRACTION i have for the girl.

Other then that as long as the face isn't Horrible, And me and my freinds joke that my 10 scale has a 2.5 point curve (There 4 is my 6.5)

But unfortunately it feels like almost ALL girls are either fat or black and then jump to the other extreme of SUPER HOT AND SEXY (And even if I was into those girls I couldent get one, I would say Im mabey a 4 myself.)

what is wrong with me...

2007-09-04 17:58:53 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

When I'm at my Mum's house I get really anxious and restless for no apparent reason. I feel trapped. I love my Mum and my lil brothers (16 and 20) but when I am there by myself nothing feels right. If I go to spend the night there I don't sleep till 3 or 4 in the morning. But if my man is there I'm fine. Or if I see them outside the house, or talk on the phone I'm fine. Even if I have them come over, things are fine.

Anyone have any ideas why this happens...or what I can do to change that anxious, restless feeling?I love my family and love spending time with them.

2007-09-04 17:51:18 · 3 answers · asked by hny_rstd 3 in Family

2007-09-04 17:47:40 · 3 answers · asked by Ms. Kristi 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I don't want some "Hey baby why don't you come over to my place and we can do something." I want a clean pick up on a girl. What can I say if I see a girl in a bar or club and I just want to talk and maybe ask her out. Not looking for a one night stand. So what are a few good lines that I can say to a girl if I want to just ask her out or get to know her or something if I see her in a club/bar.

2007-09-04 17:46:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am in desperate need for some honest advice and please do not respond if it is not positive advice.. I am married and have a problem with myself and blame it on my husband.. I have had a bad past with relationships and now my past is affecting me, you see I am insecure when my husband looks at another woman and wonder what is he thinking, etc.. and he tells me that he is not thinking nothing...he says that he just sees her and thats it, he might think that oh she dresses nice and such but is not like she is good looking and hot, because he says that I am everything that he has ever wished for and then some, and also he is like if someone asks me an opinion about someone he will tell them.. I mean how can I help myself to believe him and have a great marriage, I really need someones advice... please help.. thank you

2007-09-04 17:43:41 · 11 answers · asked by Please help... 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my biological mother where should i go

2007-09-04 17:43:24 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My friend told me just now she got married 2 a guy she only know for 2 months, and not only that she did not invite me 2 the wedding; not that i would of went anyway!!
We had some words and now i feel bad for i said somethings out of the way that i know that truly hurt her. Should i say i am sorry or just let her be and find out on her own she made a big mistake?

2007-09-04 17:43:09 · 6 answers · asked by ms.tea_z_t 1 in Friends

hai..female 20 here. Married some days ago and had first sex with my husband yesterday..well, it wasnt "sex" fully, coz when he tried to penetration it hurt tremendous after he push his penis about half inch in side me. is this normal? it hurt me a lot..after that, he quit coz he didnt want to hurt me..he said, take ur time we will try later again..after some time i found that i m bleeding...it bleed a lot then, later it became slow....even it bleed till today morning..is this normal too?do u think, my hyment absolutely broke or its just streched?

i m so scared thinking, if his half inch penis inside me hurt me like this...how can i tolarate till last???? thnx.

2007-09-04 17:42:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my bro is a senior and he dont want his name online so he wants me to ask for him he is going to take the best answer and do it he is a big prankster.

2007-09-04 17:42:17 · 18 answers · asked by alpha777 1 in Singles & Dating

Have you ever followed someone on Y!A and tried to learn as much about them as possible based on the answers they give? Do you keep notes on your favorites? Just wondering cuz it seems to me that some people do that!

2007-09-04 17:42:10 · 18 answers · asked by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-04 17:42:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-09-04 17:42:08 · 30 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Marriage & Divorce

No, not that kind of date, the fruit kind. A single date. Would you give it to him or give him a hard time? Do tell.

2007-09-04 17:41:55 · 18 answers · asked by http://fuelthearmy.com 3 in Singles & Dating